RE: Update - Life on my own - Scared

[Guest guest]

Dear Sue,

You are going through a truly miserable time in your life.

Hopefully, a year from now your situation will be 1000% better, and

you will be surrounded by people who love and support you.

You might consider visiting the social worker who covers your new

home. He or she may be a good first resource for finding out what

you are and are not eligible for. (And if they are no help, that

will be good to know as well.)

Please also consider meeting with Heim, president of the

greater Philadelphia EDS Support Group. He has a world of knowledge

about disability resources and obstacles in Pennsylvania. (Call me

when you are ready and I'll give you his number.) has

also developed a network of people in the area who have helped many

in the

group.

There are few things as stressful as moving while under other stress,

but with faith, optimism, and some medical assistance, I hope this

period will pass quickly for you.

Sincerely,

-Leon

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Phone:

Address:

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Note: I am always looking for recommendations of

EDS-knowledgeable physicians to recommend to others.

How about suggesting a doctor?

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> Hi all,

>

> Many of you have been very supportive and concerned about me over

the last

> year plus with the difficulties I have had with my husband's

alcoholism. I

> have decided that as of Sept 7th I will be moving out. I will be

leaving CT

> to go to Bucks County Pa where my Mom and brother live. I am sad

because I

> still love Craig but this is something I need to do for me. Last

Saturday

> night Craig smashed up my 2002 tracker. It has $12,000 in damages.

His blood

> alcohol was .5, yep and .08 is the legal limit. The cops haven't

shown up

> yet but I wouldn't be suprised if they did. This is the third

totalled car in

> 18 months from drinking and driving. The next day I told him I was

leaving.

> Wednesday night I went to bed and Craig was still up. He has been

very manic

> lately. When I woke up the next morning I went to get my meds out

of the safe

> and over 150 dilaudid were missing, my oxycontin totally gone and

more then

> half of my xxanax. Craig was stoned all day and what he didn't take

he threw

> out because he was mad at me. After two days of being in major pain

my Doc

> agreed to give me 1 week of meds at a time until I leave. Because

they were

> stolen insurance won't cover it and one weeks meds cost $245. Not a

good

> thing when Craig has been out of work for 9 months. 80% of the time

Craig is

> a wonderful man but when the addiction kicks in he can be a monster.

>

> So I will be going out on my own after 12 years. I have been on

disability

> for 9 years. Since I only receive $400 a month from disability I

will have to

> get a full time job. I am scared. Very scared. The saddest thing is

breaking

> up our pets. My Mom is letting me bring one dog and one cat. My

brother is

> willing to take my big male golden because he has two godliness of

his own.

> Craig will keep the other three animals. If anyone who has gone

through a

> separation would be willing to email me I would really appreciate

talking

> with someone. I would also like to hear any stories about people on

> disability returning to the work force.

>

> Does anyone know if I can get things like SSI, food stamps , etc.,

if I am

> just separated. At the moment I can't get divorced until I can find

a way to

> get medical insurance on my own where I can get my meds covered.

Thanks for

> listening friends.

>

> Sue K

[Guest guest]

Sue,

I know you have done everything possible to help Craig; I am glad you

are now putting YOU first. If you haven't already done so, the support

you can get from Alanon would be very helpful. since every state is

different, you will have to check with PA laws.

Life on your own will be a challenge, but can't be worse than what

you;ve already endured.

Wishing you the best,

Judy

Hi all,

Many of you have been very supportive and concerned about me over the

last

year plus with the difficulties I have had with my husband's alcoholism.

I

have decided that as of Sept 7th I will be moving out. I will be leaving

CT

to go to Bucks County Pa where my Mom and brother live. I am sad because

I

still love Craig but this is something I need to do for me. Last

Saturday

night Craig smashed up my 2002 tracker. It has $12,000 in damages. His

blood

alcohol was .5, yep and .08 is the legal limit. The cops haven't shown

up

yet but I wouldn't be suprised if they did. This is the third totalled

car in

18 months from drinking and driving. The next day I told him I was

leaving.

Wednesday night I went to bed and Craig was still up. He has been very

manic

lately. When I woke up the next morning I went to get my meds out of the

safe

and over 150 dilaudid were missing, my oxycontin totally gone and more

then

half of my xxanax. Craig was stoned all day and what he didn't take he

threw

out because he was mad at me. After two days of being in major pain my

Doc

agreed to give me 1 week of meds at a time until I leave. Because they

were

stolen insurance won't cover it and one weeks meds cost $245. Not a good

thing when Craig has been out of work for 9 months. 80% of the time

Craig is

a wonderful man but when the addiction kicks in he can be a monster.

So I will be going out on my own after 12 years. I have been on

disability

for 9 years. Since I only receive $400 a month from disability I will

have to

get a full time job. I am scared. Very scared. The saddest thing is

breaking

up our pets. My Mom is letting me bring one dog and one cat. My brother

is

willing to take my big male golden because he has two godliness of his

own.

Craig will keep the other three animals. If anyone who has gone through

a

separation would be willing to email me I would really appreciate

talking

with someone. I would also like to hear any stories about people on

disability returning to the work force.

Does anyone know if I can get things like SSI, food stamps , etc., if I

am

just separated. At the moment I can't get divorced until I can find a

way to

get medical insurance on my own where I can get my meds covered. Thanks

for

listening friends.

Sue K

[Guest guest]

Hi Sue,

I can't offer you any advice, but I can offer you support and prayers, and

those you shall have! Please keep us informed on your progress, and good

luck to you, you'll do fine!

Love Lana

[Guest guest]

My thoughts are with you Sue---

Bucks County is a beautiful place to start over.......you will be surrounded

by love and understanding ..A great place to begin to heal all the hurt that

has been caused

Jill

your old Secret Sender----

[Guest guest]

Oh sweetie, I'm sorry, actually glad that I can't empathize with the

separation & this may be different from state to state, but I believe with

SSDI, they don't stop it right away, they give you a certain amount of time

to work & you can't make above a certain amount during the time & they will

still pay you. I don't know if the state change will affect this, but make

lots of calls & speak with supervisors only & find out everything before you

do anything. Other than that, yes, we are all here for you.

Can you stay with someone instead of having to pay for your own place to

start at least. You said you had family there. Also, I haven't spoken with

my husband, but I know he'd say OK & I know I'm not right there & I wouldn't

be able to take any animals, as I do have a Sharpei & they are very

territorial & doesn't do well with other animals, but we do have a downstairs

that's like a full apt. Actually the prior 2 owners rented it out, but we've

turned it back into a one family. It's my youngest, my son's room, but he'll

be back at college & if you need a place to stay for a while until you get

yourself together, we'd love to offer you a place to stay. We're in

Cliffwood Beach, NJ, right on the water, very relaxing. I do agree, you do

need to make the break, there's nothing good for you to stay as you are. Be

in touch, the offer is open, stay as long as you need to as part of our

family. Wishing you well.

C. Schoenberg, RN

Central NJ EDNF

Hypermobile Type