Guest guest Posted November 1, 2000 Report Share Posted November 1, 2000 TKWOOD1988@... wrote: > > Our biggest problem with her right now is misbehavior. She is doing anything > and everything. We finally had a new lock put on our front door. It now > takes a key to get in or out. Our daughter le turned 2 in September and she is the same way. We have to keep the doors dead bolted so she can't get out. Now she just started picking up my keys and trying to unlock the door. She has a way to go before she masters that one. But it probably won't be too long. We put bells hanging on both doors and that way we can hear the door opening and closing every time it's open or shut > She kept escaping. She now is trying to climb > the bookcase to get to the keys so needless to say they have found a new > home. We just had to remove a wicker bookcase out of the playroom because she would climb it and I was really afraid it was going to tip over. I have two huge speakers in my living room that have been pushed over on more than one occasion. I have had to rearrange my entire house. We have walk throw gates everywhere. > She throws, bites, and pinches when things don't go her way. She > destroys (throws all bedding and toys in the middle of her floor) her room > when it is bedtime and she doesn't want to go to bed. Wow! Boy it sounds as though we have the same child. When le is done doing whatever it is that she is doing or doesn't want to do it anymore. She just throws it, including her food. I try real hard not to tolerate this. I make her pick it all up and try and redirect her. Is it getting better by me doing this no, she still does it just as much but I am hoping that it will sink in soon. > She will not stay in a > car seat. I am now ready to use duck tape! I have tried 3 different car > seats and 3 different booster seats. She can get out of all of them. The > last booster lasted the longest...10 days before she figured it out. Boy > those 10 days sure were peaceful and stressfree... I know some of this is 2 > year old behavior but where does a person draw the line. We had the same problem with a regular car seat she got right out and would stand straight up. We have a the Century Next Step car seat now and it seems to be keeping her in but she is already trying to pull her arms out and I just keep trying to tell her no, so far it's working but I don't think for long. > This sounds terrible > but I try not to go anywhere because it is just too hard with her. I don't take le shopping at all she is horrible in a store. It's not worth it. I don't know if it's two year old behavior or not. My son went through the terrible two's but nothing like this. And I thought he was bad. le has other issues besides hearing loss and all her therapist see it too. They all comment on her behavior. She is a joy and is a very happy child, but the minute she decides she don't want to do something watch out. She is very strong willed. And very determined. Six months ago I had her to the developmental pediatrician and she mentioned to be that she is most likely going to have ADD. I thought to my self how do you know that. An never commented on her statement, just ignored the comment. I feel it's hard to tell at this age if it is terrible two's or it's something else. She has a re-evaluation on Tuesday with her again so we will see what she says, especially since behavior is one of the issues with the other teachers and therapist. Some times I think it's frustration in not being able to communicate her want's and needs. And sometimes I think that the teachers expect way too much from a two year old. > > Anyway, I didn't mean to ramble on. It has jsut been a frustrating weekend > (and Sunday hasn't even started yet) with her once again. > Talk to you soon. > Tammy > Mom to 9, 5, 2 deaf I just wanted you to know that your not alone. And it is frustrating. Hang in there. Take Care Colleen mom to 6 (hearing) le 2 (hoh) > > > > All messages posted to this list are private and confidential. Each post is the intellectual property of the author and therefore subject to copyright restrictions. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 3, 2000 Report Share Posted November 3, 2000 Hello, My son Bradley, 22 mos., moderate-severe hearing loss unaided until next week, has been having behavior problems as well. I know that these behaviors are due to frustration, and when his hearing loss gets worse, so does his frustration. He is constantly throwing things. Especially at the dinner table, last night it was spaghetti thrown at my pants. Sunday he broke a lamp on his dresser by throwing it. He also bangs his head on occassion when he is frustated, worse when he isn't feeling well, or if he doesn't get his own way. He also trys to throw himself out of carseats. Lately it hs been easier to take him somewhere (playgroup, the mall, a friends) to distract him. Rita >TKWOOD1988@... wrote: > > > > > > Our biggest problem with her right now is misbehavior. She is doing >anything > > and everything. We finally had a new lock put on our front door. >everywhere. > > > She throws, bites, and pinches when things don't go her way. She > > destroys (throws all bedding and toys in the middle of her floor) her >room > > when it is bedtime and she doesn't want to go to bed. > > She will not stay in a > > car seat. I am now ready to use duck tape! I have tried 3 different >car > > seats and 3 different booster seats. She can get out of all of them. >The > > last booster lasted the longest...10 days before she figured it out. >Boy > > those 10 days sure were peaceful and stressfree... I know some of this >is 2 > > year old behavior but where does a person draw the line. >you know that. An never commented on her statement, just ignored the _________________________________________________________________________ Get Your Private, Free E-mail from MSN Hotmail at http://www.hotmail.com. Share information about yourself, create your own public profile at http://profiles.msn.com. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 4, 2000 Report Share Posted November 4, 2000 Hi Rita. I am sorry you are going through the same thing. I am glad to know that I am not the only one though. Two weeks ago, broke her sister's nose. In her defense we don't know if she fell or jumped on her sister but either way, she was the cause of it. She has broken things around our house as well. She is my third child. The other two had some typical behavior problems of 2 and 3 year olds but not to this extreme. is more strong willed than her sisters. (I know someday I may be thankful for this...) She is also the only one with any hearing loss. I have tried all the things that worked with her sisters. They don't work with her. I find sometimes I end up making excuses for her. I know the behaviors are not appropriate. But I don't know what else to do sometimes. I never know how much is being a two year old, how much is being a strong willed personality, and how much is due to her hearing loss. I don't know how to gauge with her. I have gone back and reread this note. I think I will stop because I end up going on and on. However, it is nice to know someone else is having similar difficulties. Thanks for responding. I do appreciate it. Tammy, Mom to 9 and 5 normal hearing, and 2 severe/profound hearing loss Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 4, 2000 Report Share Posted November 4, 2000 Colleen, Hello there. I am sorry you are going through the same thing. I am glad to know that I am not the only one though. Two weeks ago, broke her sister's nose. In her defense we don't know if she fell or jumped on her sister but either way, she was the cause of it. She has broken things around our house as well. She is my third child. The other two had some typical behavior problems of 2 and 3 year olds but not to this extreme. is more strong willed than her sisters. (I know someday I may be thankful for this...) She is also the only one with any hearing loss. I have tried all the things that worked with her sisters. They don't work with her. I find sometimes I end up making excuses for her. I know the behaviors are not appropriate. But I don't know what else to do sometimes. I never know how much is being a two year old, how much is being a strong willed personality, and how much is due to her hearing loss. I don't know how to gauge with her. It does indeed sound like le is like . I used to take her places with me, now I try not to go. She had a Halloween party to go to on Tuesday. I couldn't keep her in her car seat. She fell and has a bruise and a small cut under her eye. I took her home instead of trying to make the 25 minute drive to the party. The problem with this is she isn't even aware that she lost the party due to the car seat thing. She really doesn't understand consequences yet. I don't know how to make her understand. I have tried telling her (with sign and voice) and holding a reward in front of her. Her special ed teacher suggests I explain it all to her and then drive to the end of the street and back until she gets the reward and consequence idea. I haven't tried it yet. It just really bothers me that I might have to do it this way to prove a point to her. I don't know why but it makes me a little resistent to the idea. I have tried the reward system in the car to no avail jsut not up and down my street. I think the idea of ADHD/ADD is ridiculous in a two year old. I think doctors often think if they give it a title it will appease the parent. It's like the director of the clinic called my husband when I threatened to go the formal complaint process. The director said, " We jsut want you to be happy with your services. " How ridiculous! My husband was quick with his response, " Our happiness is not the issue. You need to be meeting the needs of . " I think I will stop because I end up going on and on. However, it is nice to know someone else is having similar difficulties. Thanks for responding. I do appreciate it. Tammy, Mom to 9 and 5 normal hearing, and 2 severe/profound hearing loss Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 10, 2000 Report Share Posted November 10, 2000 Hi Tammy, As you can see I am way behind again on my emails once again. TKWOOD1988@... wrote: I am glad toknow that I am not the only one though. Sometimes it really helps to know your not alone with things. And that there are other people out there experiencing the same thing. > The other two had some typical behavior problems of 2 and 3 year olds but not to this extreme. My son did also, but never to this extreme at this age, I should say. His behavior started around 4 > is more strong willed than her sisters. (I know someday I may be thankful for this...) All le's teachers say that her strong will, will make her succeed. I hope I will be around to be thankful for it. ( lol) > She is also the only one with any hearing loss. le is also. No one in our family on either side has hearing loss. > I find sometimes I end up making excuses for her. I do this too. I am trying not to anymore, but still find myself doing it. My mother is the worse though. She will find an excuse for everything because she's le but she also does it with too. > I know the behaviors are not appropriate. But I don't know what else to do sometimes. I never know how much is being a two year old, > how much is being a strong willed personality, and how much is due to her > hearing loss. I don't know how to gauge with her. I don't know if you can. They are watching her closely, to try and determine it. She is very strong willed though. > > She really doesn't understand consequences yet. I don't know how to make her understand. I have tried telling her (with sign and voice) and holding a reward in > front of her. le is the sane way. However I tried the reward system with when he was 4 1/2 to 5years old and it did work, he didn't care regardless of the consequences. > > I think the idea of ADHD/ADD is ridiculous in a two year old. I think doctors often think if they give it a title it will appease the parent. I agree with you 100%. I just had le to the development peds last week and she showed her true colors. She wouldn't get on the scale it took three of us to hold her down for her length and about 5 minutes to measure her head. She told her no no at least 5 times when she was asked to do something. But in this situation I do make excuses for her behavior she has other issues besides hearing loss and lives at the doctors and she knows the routine and doesn't know what to expect just remembers what she has been through. This is the doctor that tells me she suspects ADD, I just can't see how they can suspect that in a two year old either. I have to take her back in 6 months. She just stated be stricter with her and time outs etc. > It's like the director of the clinic called my husband when I threatened to go the formal complaint process. The director said, " We jsut want you to be happy with > your services. " How ridiculous! My husband was quick with his response, " Our happiness is not the issue. You need to be meeting the needs of . " Your husband is so right. I use a similar statement all the time to doctors. > I think I will stop because I end up going on and on. However, it is nice > to know someone else is having similar difficulties. Thanks for responding. > I do appreciate it. Tammy any time you need to vent feel free to email me privately, I do scan through my emails, and try and keep up with them. It's usually not this hectic around here. I check my emails daily. But some days I don't have time to read through the listserve for a few days or weeks. (lol) but I always read them. Take care I hope things are a little better. Hang in there Take Care Colleen mom to 6 years (hearing) le 2 years (hoh) > > > Tammy, > Mom to 9 and 5 normal hearing, and 2 severe/profound > hearing loss > > > All messages posted to this list are private and confidential. Each post is the intellectual property of the author and therefore subject to copyright restrictions. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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