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We do it as mothers, and even as fathers, when we focus on the

messy shelf in a child's bedroom, not the floor that are tidy

and neat. We do it in the workplace when we leap to point

out what hasn't been finished, instead of commenting on progress

made. We do it to ourselves when we focus on goals not met,

instead of success achieved.

It's this negative point of view that will bring you down and

reduce your motivation. Not the best way to achieve new goals!

Starting today, resolve to be more positive! Look for what has been

done; not what is left undone. Praise your children, colleagues,

friends and family for efforts and progress. Concentrate on your own

achievements. The more you recognize and appreciate success, the

more success will follow!

LEARN TO SPEAK THEIR LANGUAGEA woman was explaining her theory of putting her children to bed: "Inever tell bedtime stories that begin with 'Once upon a time,'" shesaid. "If I really want to put them to sleep, I start off with, 'Now,when I was your age...'" It's nice to understand people so well thatwe know just what to say! Here is a mother who could speak herchildren's language.The story is told of the most famous elephant in the world -- a huge,beautiful and gentle beast named Bozo. Children extended open palmsfilled with peanuts for the Indian elephant, who gently plucked themfrom little hands and seemed to smile as he ate his treats.But one day, for some inexplicable reason, Bozo changed. He almoststampeded the man who cleaned his cage. He charged children at thecircus and became incorrigible. His owner knew he would have todestroy the once-gentle giant.In order to raise money for a new elephant, the circus owner held acruel exhibition. He sold tickets to witness Bozo's execution and, onthe appointed day, his arena was packed. Three men with high-poweredrifles rose to take aim at the great beast's head.Just before the signal was given to shoot, a little, stubby man in abrown hat stepped out of the crowd and said to the elephant's owner,"Sir, this is not necessary. Bozo is not a bad elephant.""But he is," the man argued. "We must kill him before he killssomeone.""Sir, give me two minutes alone in his cage," the visitor pleaded,"and I'll prove to you that you are wrong. He is not a bad elephant."After a few more moments of discussion (and a written statementabsolving the circus of liability if the man should be injured), thekeeper finally agreed to allow the man inside Bozo's cage. Theman removed his brown derby and entered the cage of the bellowing andtrumpeting beast.Before the elephant could charge, the man began to speak to him. Bozoseemed to immediately quiet down upon hearing the man's words. Nearbyspectators could also hear the man, but they could not understand him,for he spoke a foreign language. Soon the great animal began totremble, whine and throw his head about. Then the stranger walked upto Bozo and stroked his trunk. The great elephant tenderly wrapped histrunk around the man, lifted him up and carried him around his cagebefore carefully depositing him back at the door. Everyone applauded.As the cage door closed behind him, the man said to Bozo's keeper,"You see, he is a good elephant. His problem is that he is an Indianelephant and understands one language." He explained that Bozo wasfrustrated and confused. He needed someone who could speak hislanguage. "I suggest, sir, that you find someone in London to come inoccasionally and talk to the elephant. If you do, you'll have noproblems."The man picked up his brown derby and walked away. It was at that timethat the circus owner looked carefully at the signature on the paperhe held in his hand -- the note absolving the circus of responsibilityin the case he was injured inside the elephant's cage. The statementwas signed by Rudyard Kipling.People also become frustrated and angry when they are not understood.But great relationships are formed by parents who learn to speak theirchildren's language; lovers who speak each other's language;professionals who speak the language of their staff and clients. Whenpeople understand that YOU understand, that you empathize with theirheartaches and understand their problems, then you are speaking theirlanguage! It is the beginning of true communication. Steve Goodier

As time goes by, some things in life become faded, feeble and useless. Yet the things that truly matter just keep getting stronger and more meaningful.

When you invest all your hope and love in the superficial things that will soon fade away, then you make time your enemy. You become engaged in a battle that you cannot win.

Yet when you cherish life's true, enduring values, your opportunities for joy grow more abundant with each passing moment. As life goes forward, it cannot help but get better.

When you find your fulfillment in truth, in virtue, and in integrity, you set yourself up to gain real value and benefit from every experience. Though life may not always go as you planned or desired, you will always have something real and meaningful to show for it.

For every situation is a situation in which your integrity can grow stronger. Every experience is an experience in which a new and valuable truth is revealed.

Life always has so very much to offer. Treasure those things that forever endure, and your store of treasure will be rich indeed.

Ralph Marston

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