Guest guest Posted February 17, 2011 Report Share Posted February 17, 2011 I have been there many times but you need to love and pamper yourself before someone will do it for you. I found that out the hard way. I was severely abused child and was abused by my ex husband. It took me a few years to learn how to love myself. I got to the point where I looked at myself in the mirror and said I don't deserve the abuse. I took my 4 sons and left. Then I bought the clothes I wanted to wear, bought make up, hair dryer, and curling iron. I dressed up for my self. I wore my long black dresses. I put on make-up. I was never allowed to do this before. I made my bathroom into a spa and treated my self to the stuff I loved. I met a man who was a former friend of my ex who decided to check on me and helped me with the boys while I worked. We fell in love. I asked him why did he decide to help me. He said because you finally love yourself and it shows. I have been married to him for 12 years now. I still spoil myself and he does too. When you love yourself, it shows and others will love you too. Gentle hugs, Ms.Katurah > wrote: >I sometimes think if I didn't have my kids, I wouldn't be here now as I hate my life. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 18, 2011 Report Share Posted February 18, 2011 Mother daughter relationships are different than any other type of relationships. If you get a chance you should read " You are wearing that. " I can't remember the author but it is a great book. gentle hugs, Tami > wrote: > I love my mum so much but she really upsets me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 18, 2011 Report Share Posted February 18, 2011 ,   I hear you about your Mom.  My Mom telling me negative things all the time and I'm getting tired of her sh@t. I just want to cut her off and not have her in my life. I do love her but she just a pain.   Just let it go in one ear and out the other or tell her you have to go if she is upsetting you. Sometime my mom get in heat of an argument and I sometime hang up on her. That how pissed off she get me.    I hope this helps you. Christa > wrote: > I love my mum so much but she really upsets me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 18, 2011 Report Share Posted February 18, 2011 MsKaturah,   I was abuse too when I was young by kids in elementary school I went to and my parents as well. My Mom still abuses occasionally. I don't know how to love myself anymore. I don't even know I love my Mom or my family. I just have so much anger, hurt and bitterness.   I tried to make things better for myself like I went to college and of course my Mom tells me too much money for the course (over $40,00) and they are being sued etc. I just dropped out of the course. I feel whatever I want to do my Mom is looking for ways to screw it up. I am trying to work with my therapist on this issue. I want to have a good relationship with my Mom but it's so hard.                                         \                                         \       Christa > MsKaturah wrote:  I have been there many times but you need to love and pamper yourself before someone will do it for you. I found that out the hard way. I was severely abused child and was abused by my ex husband. It took me a few years to learn how to love myself. I got to the point where I looked at myself in the mirror and said I don't deserve the abuse. I took my 4 sons and left. Then I bought the clothes I wanted to wear, bought make up, hair dryer, and curling iron. I dressed up for my self. I wore my long black dresses. I put on make-up. I was never allowed to do this before. I made my bathroom into a spa and treated my self to the stuff I loved. I met a man who was a former friend of my ex who decided to check on me and helped me with the boys while I worked. We fell in love. I asked him why did he decide to help me. He said because you finally love yourself and it shows. I have been married to him for 12 years now. I still spoil myself and he does too. When you love yourself, it shows and others will love you too. Gentle hugs, Ms.Katurah Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 18, 2011 Report Share Posted February 18, 2011 Thank you Christa, I don't see her as much as I use to, every time I go and see her she goes on about my weight and it really gets me down. x >Christa wrote: > , >I hear you about your Mom. My Mom telling me negative things all the time and I'm getting tired of her sh@t. I just want to cut her off and not have her in my life. I do love her but she is just a pain. >Just let it go in one ear and out the other or tell her you have to go if she is upsetting you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 18, 2011 Report Share Posted February 18, 2011 Ok thank you x > Tami wrote: > Mother daughter relationships are different than any other type of relationships. If you get a chance you should read " You are wearing that. " I can't remember the author but it is a great book. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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