Re: managing our lives (formerly I give up)

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--- Carol wrote:

> What has helped most is that I control how my mom and I

> communicate. I'm most comfortable writing emails to her.

> That way I can think through what I want to say rather than

> react emotionally.

>

> I choose whether or not to open an email from her. I will

> read her emails only when I'm in a frame of mind to do so.

> Just these 2 things have helped me quite a bit.

>

> You need to find your own way of communicating your hurt to

> your mom when she makes any reference whatsoever to weight.

> Can you possibly retreat from communicating with her for

> awhile so you can kind of regroup?

Hi Carol

This is excellent advice. I hope everyone who is having trouble

will try this.

It gives control over the conversation. Once a parent starts to

be cruel etc. leave, if you are on the phone find a reason to hang

up immediately etc.

To those how are finding themselves stuck in the situation please

find a counselor to help you. It made a world of difference for me.

Kaylene