Re: Newbie here!

[Guest guest]

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Welcome and I am sorry you are go thru pain and then a relationship that makes

it worse. Everyone with pain has to deal with family relationships.

It is time for you to make an appointment with his doctor and tell him what is

going on with your husband and you.

Your husband probably can talk to a man better to woman and he has lost his

ability to take care of his family and for most men this is their identity and

you have to tell him you love him just as he loves you with you problems.

My husband has a brain cyst that can burst any minute and refused to have it out

and I insisted he had the best surgeon and go see him so when he drops over, I

can get him aerovaced out of here and my neurosurgeon here knows that I will

call and we will get him to San within thirty minutes.

I have DDD, depressed, and lie down a lot to prevent pain but also have to

stretch and push myself to do at least two things a day in the house or help out

in the home

Your husband needs a doctor that can help him with his pain. It is better to

say that because you love him, you want him happy and both of you should always

go to the doctor together.

This understanding of what he is going through is going to have to be for both

of you to be honest and honor what good times you have.

You know will learn to enjoy the smallest of things and the members her are

great for support and can offer suggestions. Good Luck and let us know how you

get along.

Bennie.

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

I'm sorry to have to meet you because of chronic pain, but it's very nice to

meet you! Welcome to the group :-)! I'm sorry for the pain you and your

husband go through. Again, it's nice to meet you! Gentle hugs!

Love,

Becky in NM

wrote:

Hi, I'm new here. My name is .

[Guest guest]

hi and welcome to both of you. I am sorry to hear about both of your

struggles with pain. Please tell your husband that I know how he feels. I went

out on disability at age 50 due to depression and chronic pain due to arthritis.

I was so depressed for the first 2 years. I had worked for 30 years.

I was able to lift my depression with medication and making myself do something,

anything. Everyday I set myself a task to complete by the end of the day. Even

if it a small one.

Also go to the website butyoudontlooksick.com It is a wonderful site to get

information, feedback from others with the same situations, and support. It

covers a wide range of emotional and physical conditions.

Hopefully your husband will also post here or at least read some of them. this

is a wonderful support group. It helps alot to see that you are not alone!

Looking forward to hearing more from the two of you. Gentle hugs, Tami