AA: Company for your Misery

[Guest guest]

Who exactly ends up in AA? And who are these millions of people

who attend various 12 step meetings? Most new members of these programs are

victims of abuse or neglect. Or have had experienced

trauma in their lives. Needless to say, most people who end up

in a 12 step group aren't at a highpoint in their life. And more

than likely, there's lives haven't gone the way they'd hoped.

Most newcomers are sad and bitter. Yet they also want to help

others who are as hurt as themselves.

In that sense, AA becomes like a nirvana for victims.

There aren't any rules, no one takes a roll call, cross talk

in meetings is discouraged. And everyone is supposed to stay

out of everyone else's private lives and only concentrate on how

drunk they used to get. And getting f'd up is something most

AA'ers love to talk about.

Misery loves company. But no one that's sad and bitter

is going to deliberately go up to someone else and say, " Hey,

I'l bitter and angry at that world. Care to join me? " No, its

more subtle. There's an unspoken language between abuse victims.

One that thrives in AA. You can see it in other people's faces.

The hurt, the sadness, the anger. And victims love to hang out

with other victims. It makes them feel " right " and justified.

Now, here's the problem.... it just doesn't turn out well. Screwed

up people telling other screwed up people how to

live just doesn't work out. Both parties end up getting short

changed. Ever wonder why so many AA members are bummed out or

pessimistic? Its the system. The whole asinine AA system.

Where no one is held accountable for anything. And where people

can say anything at meetings and not be questioned about it.

No where in AA can a person fully recover from trauma or

childhood abuse/neglect. That's because AA doesn't do that.

All AA does is try to scare the sh** out of you into not drinking

again. And even in that regard it doesn't work. With all these

speakers fondly recalling their " wild and crazy " drinking binges.

No where in AA does a person recieve the boost needed to reclaim

their lives and fulfill their full potential and life goals.

All AA is a cesspool for sarcasm, laughing about things

that shouldn't be funny (drunken episodes, cheating, stealing)

and personal neglect. It serves no purpose other than to provide

a safe shelter for screwed up people to continue to wallow in

self pity.

And like I said before, I do not blame the newcomer or

the long term AA member. Because no one tells them their wrong!

Everyone tells them their right and pats them on the back.

Its a sick society which I would probably be a proud member of

if I hadn't started taking antidepressants and started working

on my own to find out what my real issues were.

Luckily, I got out before I could become an AA guru,

sponsoring newcomers and getting an AA related job.

I probably wouldn't keep hammering on AA if my brother wasn't

continously reminding me of it. Lately, he's been obsessed with

escort services. He asked me tonight if I knew of a good one

to call. I asked him how this was supposed to add to his " serenity. " He

called me an a**hole and changed the subject.

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