Re: Less than 42 hours to go..

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!!!

First off BIG HUGS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! need more? ok HUGSSSSSSSSSSSSS

I felt EXACTLY as you felt. I cried ALOT well teary eyed .. right before

surgery .. dh didn't know what to make of it. Here I was so excited about

surgery but crying and worried about those BIG possible concerns and he

didn't know if he should be consoling me or supporting me more. lol. I am

thankful for him that we got through that part ok

I think your mother is just concerned and like you said was overwhelmed. I

guess its easy to get that way if you walk into that scenario.

I'm sure waiting is the worst part just because of the mental havoc it can

play on your entire being. Hang in there hon, if you want to talk you can

call me .. do you have my # from the preop group meeting?

I know you want to wish it away and I'm sure we wish we could all fast

forward those gosh awful waiting last hours away. I think spending time with

your family, getting to bed early trying to get your rest and thinking

positive thoughts will help pass the time.

Do you have anyone to post to the list after you've come through with flying

colors? If you need help there let me know ok?

You can do this. You are doing this!!! Just think about where you will be 3

months from now .. wow the changes .. Your mom will be beaming or maybe

crying but tears of joy. She obviously loves and cares about your deeply.

You too Nance all the best you'll have walking buddies .. thats awesome.

Congratulations you two!

Hugs

Lyssa

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Hey Kim,

I know what you mean. I've been trying not to think of it at all. But as the

date gets nearer, I've found myself thinking about it a getting a little

anxious. So when that happens I've just been trying to talk to myself about

how great I'm going to look in 6 months. My son is 20, and he's all worried

for me. I try to tell him that I have complete confidence in my doctor and

not to worry I'll be fine. It is hard for them to understand though. Anyway

I'll be there waiting for them to roll you into the room next to me and we

can moan and groan together!!! LOL It'll be ok. I just know it will, and

especially with all the prayers from the group how can it not be.. Thank you

all for your well wishes. See you on the other side. Will be going no mail

late tomorrow.

((((hugs to all)))

Nance

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Lyssa,

Thanks so much for the well wishes. I know everything will be ok and Kim and

I will breeze through this. I'm glad we'll be there together to keep an eye

on each other. And Kim from Plymouth is Right!! We'll fine and sick of

blended food!!! LOL Thanks again and see you on the other side!!!

(((big hugs)))

Nance

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So glad you posted.......we are NOT sick and tired of hearning of your

apprehensions! We've all been there!

Your mom cannot understand this like you do, unless she's been in your

shoes. I used to wish I could somehow grant understanding to the

people I care about.....I couldn't really. They would have to spend

the countless hours (thousands, I'm sure) that I spent doing research,

talking to people, etc. We have a big investment in this. Those

who care about us do also, but in a different way. They just cannot

truly understand. That's why these lists are so popular!

I'll be thinking of you......Before you know it, you'll be writing

to tell us that you are "on the other side, and sick of blended food!"

hugs to you......

kim in plymouth

& Jody Fortune wrote:

Now I know all of you are sick and tired of hearing

about my

apprehensions...oh well

I took my mother to the support group meeting the other night and

she

was sort of overwhelmed. The discussion (st least from her

vantage

point) seemed to center more around the struggles wls post-ops

are

facing w/ plateaus, exercise, etc...While I can handle this discussion

because I've been lurking about the wls support community for over

6

mos. now, she could not. After we got in the car she started

sobbing.

I really wish I could help her understand that I am prepared to

do

anything I need to do to get this weight off---the difference is

that

before wls was an option for me, the battle I fought was seemingly

futile. I had never met anyone who had taken off 100+ pounds

with diet

& exercise alone (or even drug-assisted) and kept it off.

Now I "know"

virtually hundreds of people. Suddenly there is a light at

the end of

the tunnel for me, and that change of perspective makes it seem

a lot

more likely that I can commit to living my life healthfully with

sensible eating & exercise. I know I can make this work

for me---you,

my weight loss peers are proof that it works. I feel bad

for my mother,

my heart aches for her because she is so scared I will die from

this

surgery, and I wish I could make her understand that I will die

without

it...more slowly, more painfully. I wish that it was already

next

Saturday, and that I was typing this from the other side so I would

be

able to stop feeling so nervous. Last night I threw my daughter

her

first "in home" birthday party (usually we go the Mc 's route)

because (and I know this is morbid) if I died, I wanted her to

have

really happy memories. Now I can't seem to look at one of

my girls

without tearing up. I really really hate feeling this way,

and I will

be so glad when this part is over. I welcome the blended

diet with open

arms because it pales in comparison with the thought of not being

here

to see my girls grow up. I'm sorry to be all doom and gloom.

Sometimes

I wish I weren't such an emotional person, but I am a silly, sappy

sentimentalist. Even though my brain keeps telling me that

Dr. Thayer &

staff are extremely competent and that I'll be in very good hands

I

can't seem to shake this dreadful fear. I can't bring myself

to share

this with anyone in my family because I will be going through with

this,

fear or not---as my aunt Kathy said (she's 2 years + post-op and

knows

what I'm going through) we always risk dying when we choose to

live. I

know they are all afraid for me, and I don't want to compound their

fears by showing them how scared I am too. (and again, morbid,

but I

don't want their last memories of me to be negative, so I keep

running

to my office to "check my mail" (cry) and I can't seem to settle

into

peace yet) So, hate to be a downer today, but I knew you

all could

relate on some level, and I think of you all as my other family

so I

knew I could vent here and not ruin your weekends.

On that note, this will probably be my last post, and I will be

going no

mail sometime tonight, so I can spend tomorrow with my rl family

uninterrupted. Thank you all for the support and encouragement

you have

afforded me over the past few months. See you on the other

side (Nance,

I'll see you Monday if they let us room together---don't forget

to ask

when you go in!)

((((hugs to all))))

F.

(time for stats---ugh!) 277/---/150

6/5/00 Dr. Bruce Thayer

P.S. Anyone who wants to visit me in the hospital is more than

welcome

to, as I don't think I'll be getting very many visitors since we

live a

fair distance away.

www.

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:

I remember you from the last meeting (in fact, we introduce ourselves at the

elevator). Of course, no one can make your fears go away, but you sound very

much like me in that I tend to always look on the negative side of things and

worry about poor outcomes. I was working myself up in to quite a state a

week or so before surgery. Finally I decided to just turn everything over to

God, which I know does not work for everyone and I am not about to go all

regligious on you. However, once I decided it was really out of my hands, I

did find a lot of peace. In fact, I slept just fine the night before

surgery. All I can tell you, is that you are certainly killing yourself

slowly if you continue to remain dangerously overweight. Also, I had Dr.

Thayer and I don't believe you could be in better hands. I predict you will

come through just fine (don't you notice when we pessimists worry most,

that's when things work out best?) and you will be on that blended diet you

are so looking forward to. (I also predict that will change in about two to

three weeks, but that's another story.) I am thinking of you and waiting to

hear from you on the other side.

Lois

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Nance and Kim-I will be at NWH Tuesday for my pre-op testing (my surgery was

moved up from July 11th to next Friday-OH MY GOD!). I would be more than

happy to come visit you guys, but I'm not sure if you'll be up to it that

soon. Maybe I'll call your rooms and check to see if you need anything from

the gift shop (like trashy tabloids-LOL!)

),

Steph in Rockport

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,

Good luck on Monday! We'll be thinking of you!

- Alice A.

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Nance,

Good luck, hon! I'll try to get over there sometime , and see how you guys

are doing!

- Alice A.