Re: Peoples perception about pain

[Guest guest]

ellensmith912@... wrote:

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> Waiting for others to validate our pain will make us nuts. How can they know

> what they've never experienced? My family wouldn't take me in when I needed

> the most help. I was told that my nieces wouldn't have time to get me to my

> doctors. I wasn't happy, but I rolled with it and made other arrangements to

> move rural and pray that God would put people in my path to help me

Ellen,

You said it best of all. I depend on the friends around my Dad to help and they

do in a small rural community. It does no good to waste those energies

wondering why they don't think of us, but it is process of people learning to

deal with things.

It does not excuse them for being inconsiderate. I don't mind someone not

caring about me but don't make remarks about what they don't know about.

That door swings both ways. People could be considerate and say " I have never

had that and I know you must hurt as you mentioned how it hurts "

That is all that is needed for me. Just line me up some seven up's for the day

and a trash can to throw up when I am sick and my bathroom is fifteen steps

away.

My husband checks on me during the day.

I have started looking at local transportation for Doctor appointments as he is

working forty five minutes away. If I could hug you or you were close

I have a spare bedroom, you would be welcome. I have met some interesting people

in Doctor's waiting rooms. Bennie

[Guest guest]

Awww. Bennie. If I could, I would hug you...gently, of course. I really needed

to read that this morning. I have other fires burning on. Other fronts that make

this just as applicable. LOL. My extended family has turned their back on me as

it relates to another family member.

I started to feel hate start to boil up my blood like there was Louisiana hot

sauce boiling in my veins. I had started reading scripture to help me deal with

it.

Hurt is hurt and pain is pain. It's on them! I have to remember not to allow

them to rob me of my peace that is sometimes a daily fight to keep. I'm

starting not to want to wake up, because that seems to be the only time I am

truly peaceful! LOL.

As far as transportation to doctors appointments, see if there is a

franchise in your area called Home Helpers. They are fabulous. Avoid those

public medical buses; you have to wait until everyone is done before being

driven home. That can be a lot of sitting in an upright position.

You are a sweetheart, Bennie. And you sure are one that God has put in my path

for a reason!

Ellen

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> Bennie wrote:

>I have a spare bedroom, you would be welcome. I have met some interesting

people in Doctor's waiting rooms.