Re: [c_p]Missing jobs, professions/

[Guest guest]

Your post could not be more on target for me. My wife and I have a similar

relationship. We both suffer from chronic pain and we have taken care of

each other on and off over the past few years. Our sex life is also not what

it used to be, especially lately (the past month) because my pain has been

extremely bad and so has hers. My pain is worst in my legs and back.

Sometimes, even when my pain is already unbearable, but it's been a while,

I'll push through the pain (as well as lying to my wife about how much pain

I'm actually in, otherwise she'd never allow me to push through the pain for

her). Does anyone else do that (push through the pain when it's through the

roof already for your spouse or significant other's sake; not just sex, but

for anything)?

Holding each other and things like that really do help, especially when sex

is an issue. In my opinion, taking 5-10 minutes per day to cuddle can really

save a relationship. It can alleviate some of the strain that our illness

(pain) can put on relationships.

My wife also worries more when my function drops.

Wishing everyone minimal pain.

Steve M in PA, age 21

Married with 3 year old daughter

[Guest guest]

> wrote:

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> For us, I got terribly sick, lost my job, we went bankrupt, we

lost the house we owned and the house we were building. I'm no longer that sick

and we've adjusted to all of the rest. For , he has regained a partially

functional wife.

> Expectation management is the key to happiness. Fortunately, he under-expects

what I can do, so he is thrilled with anything I get done. Makes me one of the

luckiest women on the face of the Earth!

,

Thank You for sharing your story, I admire your family and your husband sounds

like mine. He takes me to my Doctor's appointments, has them in his I phone and

picks up my meds, does the grocery shopping on Saturdays, Sundays we try to

catch up. I cannot sit in

a pew at church anymore and if want to feel close to God, I only

have to look at my husband or son, nature, birds in flight, or expecting water

in their bird baths.

I read a research article once that said that men that were hugged and told

positive things before they went to work made more than those that didn't. Now I

didn't do all those things for him to make more money but to let him know how

special he is to me. He is color blind and it is hard for him to match reds and

browns and what salesmen have sold him, make me angry.

So I match his pants, shirt, and socks so he looks ever so handsome. I still

can do some things that help him since he can't so I guess together we make a

whole.

Bennie

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M. wrote:

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>

> Holding each other and things like that really do help, especially when sex

> is an issue. In my opinion, taking 5-10 minutes per day to cuddle can really

> save a relationship. It can alleviate some of the strain that our illness

> (pain) can put on relationships.

>

> My wife also worries more when my function drops.

Steve,

You are on target and I do ask my husband just to lie with me and

we hold hands and watch old TV programs. We watched Casablanca yesterday and I

sang to Bob, " A kiss is just a kiss, as time goes

by " and kissed him. It is called Agape love to me.

Different definitions: means " love " (unconditional love) in modern day Greek,

such as in the term s'agapo (Σ'αγαπώ), which means " I love you " . In

Ancient Greek, it often refers to a general affection or deeper sense of " true

love " rather than the attraction suggested by " eros " .

I relate it to my husband and child. So I love my husband that way.

Bennie