Re: [c_p]Missing jobs, professions

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M. wrote:

> I know what you mean, I feel bad every time I read about people still

> working. I worked on and off for eighteen months (never more than 4-5 months

at a time) after my fibromyalgia hit critical levels, but there are people

working after decades. You're not alone.

>> wrote:

>> I guess I am just a pansy because I just could not work after the 6 months

that I forced myself. Even now, as I am missing my job, my co workers and my

patients, I just know I would never even make it through the first hour at my

job!

All,

I worked with emotionally disturbed students and the ones I started out and case

managed, there was one of my original students left. He used to wait at the

doors in the cafeteria that I came in and should carry my bag in. His eagerness

and concern helped me to keep going even when I had to lock my door during lunch

to lie on the floor relief.

I would cry in the bathroom because of the pain and try not to take medication

that made me look sedated as I had a principal trying to do me in even when I

wasn't taking medication, I had mastoiditis and a minor stroke at work . I had

slurred speech and she just knew I was a druggie. I was a case manager and my

students did not suffer and I did my job and my FMLA allowed me limited job

hours but I just took fifteen minutes and stayed after hours to make sure

reports were done.

My physician wrote my principal a letter after I showed him a memo to me asking

me to get verification that I was not so medicated I could not functionally do

my job.

He wrote her a letter stating that he has suggested I sue the school for slander

and harassment of his patient and I was cognitively able to do my job and might

need limited job hours intermittently.

This was her first year as principal and did not know Special Education law and

was breaking all kinds of protocol. After getting a letter not to report back to

school until I get an evaluation of my fitness which did to come until I went in

for a training day and was escorted out like a criminal.

They told my students nothing and parents were asking for me and several parents

threatened to remove their children from school because of their behavior.

My principal wanted me to take a year's disability and then come back and under

training recommendations, I would resume my job reporting weekly to an assistant

principal.

At no time did the principal ask if I was okay but wanted me to sign a form for

retraining (she was trying to cover her butt)

I told them that I was going to file for my personal long term disability as the

students deserved to have someone their full time rather than someone who could

never know how bad they would feel.

I had no problems getting SSI and my personnel records were spotless with no

negative remarks. The principal got fired for violations of Disability Laws

with students.

I did not need the stress and I missed my co workers who did like me as others

get tired of talking to someone that is in pain and cannot participate. One of

my co workers told me later, I saw her in a store, they told no one in the staff

where I was or why I was not there and it was not fair to the families to say

Mrs. was to sick to work anymore.

I am glad I had a membership in a lawyer protected organization to ask questions

.. My principal called me and told me I was still on call to be called in to work

so I cannot see students, one wanted to come and check on me. My lawyer stated

that the school approved my FMLA and my Doctor stated I could not work at the

time and they can't force me to work.

They would call to irritate me and did not ask about my health, just remind me

of they have responsibility over me. When I finally got some money from my long

term disability which subtracted my Medicare from it, I had not much but it was

some money.

It is hard giving up a profession you worked hard at because of pain but you

have to care for yourself. As long as I have my husband, life is worth living.

He is my lifesaver.

Good Luck to all of those missing work, but as with all life, the memories

cannot be stolen. Bennie

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Bennie

I am SO sorry that that **tch of a principal treated you so poorly but

I am glad she got what's coming to her and got fired. I'm glad you

didn't give in and you stood up for yourself.

I'm sorry you had to give up the job you clearly loved so much. I

would do anything to be able to goto college and med school so I could

become a doctor.

Steve M in PA

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> M. wrote:

> I'm sorry you had to give up the job you clearly loved so much. I

> would do anything to be able to goto college and med school so I could become

a doctor.

Steve,

I wanted to be a Doctor also starting out so I understand your desire. I was

able to be in the medical field for over thirty years, then teach for three

trying to do a job that is less physical.

I admire you so much and look forward to reading your posts. Being so young with

the hand you were dealt is hard to deal with but your posts show such a sense of

compassion and intelligence.

When you spoke of talking with your cousin, just remember every interaction you

have, helps others, and you are helping and am so glad you are a member of our

group.

It was time for that " other door " to open and for me to concentrate on my family

and I was able to be with my Mother before she passed away and also help with my

Dad some now.

Otherwise, I could not have. Hang in there, Steve, and vent anytime you want.

Sad thing, I did not want anything bad to happen to this principal. Bennie

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Bennie

Thanks for your kind words, I really do appreciate it. It's also nice to

hear some compassion for what my wife and I have been through, especially at

our age, instead of the usual suspicion. I can't tell you how many people

(including those in the medical field, even doctors) have acted like we

couldn't possibly be in so much pain because we're so young. Sometimes I

feel like this group (and similar groups) is/are the only place I am safe

from the ignorance.

I'm not sure I'd still be here without the support I get from everyone here.

Thanks

Steve M in PA, age 21

Married with 3 year old daughter

Bennie wrote:

Steve,

I admire you so much and look forward to reading your posts. Being so young

with the hand you were dealt is hard to deal with but your posts show such a

sense of compassion and intelligence.