Re: [c_p]Missing jobs, professions/ Marriage /Bennie

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> Christy wrote:

> I have often thought of asking but never have until now. How do we juggle the

fact we are in pain constantly with marriage? How do we manage to keep it going

with pain being such a big focus?

Christy,

I thank him for being there for me and sorry for being a burden. He said " What

would you do if were me ? " Matter of fact, two years ago, my husband's brain

cyst doubled in size and it is the type he can drop over dead any time it blocks

the cerebral flow to his brain.

I am probably older than you, and my sexual libido is almost nil but touching is

still an expression of love, edification, memories, and humor.

One night my husband and I were laying on the bed side by side and I said, " Just

close your eyes and pretend " . We started laughing so hard and then he said " Was

it as good for you as it was me? "

So, at sixty, that is how we deal with it and I took myself off my estrogen when

there was that scare but my Doctor has okayed me going back on them.

This is something that could have happened with a car accident with either

partner in life. It brings also to mind what is so important, your health and

your love.

This is a question that is not easy to answer but you definitely are not alone

in your feelings. I worry about my husband constantly but just try to love

him as much as I can and

together we try to make it. Bennie