Re: 2012 Has to only get better

[Guest guest]

I encourage you to attend Alano. Meetings. There are also Alanon support groups

on yahoo groups. I encourage you to let them help you and provide the support

system needed for you and your husband.

I'm sorry things have been rough for you.

Ellen in TN

> " M. G. " wrote:

> I am hoping that our family won't remember what did happen on our New Years

Eve due to all the crying of my kids and my hubby being taken away due to

talking way too much about ending it, finding out he was a .29 alcohol and he is

borderline stroke right now (at

46 yo) due to not taking his blood pressure medication.

[Guest guest]

I am so sorry to hear about your husband. It is good that he is in a place

where he can get help. You both have so much on your plate! Yes I think it is

a guy thing not to talk about their " feelings " hopefully he will feel

comfortable with someone on the unit to open up about what is overwhelming him.

Big gentle hugs to yo and your family, Tami

> wrote:

> He is at the hospital now (mental health part) and I am torn between him

learning more education about things versus him coming home but him having no

alcohol in the house will help. He misses us and of course I miss him and we are

supporting him as much as we can.

[Guest guest]

>> " M. G. " wrote:

>> I am hoping that our family won't remember what did happen on our New Years

Eve due to all the crying of my kids and my hubby being taken away due to

talking way too much about ending it, finding out he was a .29 alcohol and he is

borderline stroke right now (at 46 yo) due to not taking his blood pressure

medication.

MG, All

Your husband is drinking to avoid dealing with something and if his blood

pressure is that high, stress and drinking is going to make it higher. Headaches

are a sign of high blood pressure if he ever talks about that and spots before

your eyes. I have had blood pressure at 230/105 and it was because of

uncontrolled pain. I went one time for an out patient procedure and my blood

pressure was 180/105 and just as soon as they gave me Versed (pain medication)

my blood pressure was 135/76 and the doctor said that if I had a systemic blood

pressure problem, my blood pressure would have stayed high and since it went

down, it was because of my pain. I could have told them that. I wonder if your

husband has a reason to drink and talking about ending it.

As you know, treatment for Depression can be effective and I hope your husband

gets the treatment he needs and your kids resolve their problems. I have a

dysfunctional family and every time I go to visit my 94 year old Dad, my sister

who drinks and gambles and is his favorite, causes friction using me and calling

me a drug addict and that I use my physical problems to get pity from others.

I hardly talk about my condition and she has always sought attention for

herself, putting herself down and waiting for someone to make comments and build

her up but she does not do it for others.

She recently sent me and abrasive e-mail that astounded me putting me down when

I have always helped her giving her money and helping her and her daughter. She

has been jailed twice for being drunk and kicked out of the casino that is eight

miles from her house. She won seventy-two thousand dollars four years ago a

turned around and lost it.

So I have to listen to all this " crap " (sorry about that) but have drawn the

line starting this year. I have bounced her e-mails to me and I do not answer

phone calls from her. My older sister who lives in Florida is not much better

and they both talk about me. I heard them at Christmas when I was sleeping in a

bedroom that was close to the room they were in and I just got up and asked them

to please stop speaking about me as it is hurtful. My middle sister told me she

had the right to say what she wanted. So that is what I have to deal with and my

strategy is to avoid them as much as I can.

It is sad that people have to be hurtful. My Sister told me if I had to lie in

the bed the rest of my life, I have done more that the average person doesand

she does not pity me at all. I am lucky.

Really nice family huh? I really am close to hating them but I feel sorry for

them. Bennie

[Guest guest]

My family is apparently not talking to me. I can't decide if that's a bad thing

or not. <laugh>

I don't know what I've done, but it seems that lots of stones have been cast in

my direction.

I am too busy trying to get by waiting on disability.

A close friend of mine said maybe a ten to thirty year break won't be a bad

thing.

Ellen

> Bennie wrote:

> I have a dysfunctional family and every time I go to visit my 94 year old Dad,

my sister who drinks and gambles and is his favorite, causes friction using me

and calling me a drug addict and that I use my physical problems to get pity

from others.