Re: I had an insight, but I don't know how it helps me!

[Guest guest]

Sometimes when I feel like that, I eat the whatever -- salami sandwich

in this case -- then sit and ask myself, after I've given myself what

on at least some level I wanted, "what else do I need?" Sometimes I

have to feed the body, hungry or not, before it relaxes enough to let

other voices be heard.

If you can find a few quiet minutes to sit down (this used to be in the

bathroom when my kids were little!) you could ask yourself questions

like: am I sad? confused? excited? nervous? is there something I want

to tell myself? someone else? what happened today that feels 'off?'

what's coming up that's something I'd rather avoid?

These are just seeds that might trigger an 'ah-ha' moment for you. Good

luck figuring this out.

Alison

Mikki Behnke wrote:

Last night I was just feeling out of sorts and

irritable, and couldn't sleep. So I came back downstairs to read until

I got sleepy, and I wanted a salami sandwich. my SECOND of the day! I

wasn't hungry, just grumpy. I made my salami sandwich, ate it, and was

ready to go to bed at 11:30 (VERY late for me). But I realized

something - when I eat like that, I really DON'T CARE if I'm hungy or

not. Sometimes, I just don't care - about being healthy, if I'm

listening or even caring about my body's needs. I just wanted a salami

sandwich, dammit, LEAVE ME ALONE VOICES! LOL.

But what do I do with THAT? OK, so now I

realize that at the moments when I'm most likely to eat

"non-intuitively", that those are the moments that it really

doesn't matter to me if I'm following a healthy way IN THAT MOMENT or

not.

so I eat.

Granted, i don't get that way very often... but

it just seems weird to have a completely useless insight about myself-

like, when I figure something out about my unhealthy attitudes, I'm

supposed to change my life armed with that new knowledge - but this one

just sits there like a stone.

Any ideas?

Mikki

[Guest guest]

Those moments are probably not about FOOD so much as they are about

fulfilling a 'need' you have. Eating is a 'fulfilling' thing to do and

the way most of us comfort ourselves. (food = satisfaction/love/not

empty etc.) The important thing to do as you eat at those times is to

1) don't beat yourself up over it and 2) if possible, see if you can

discover what is 'driving' you to eat. In time awareness can lead to

changes that produce a better 'results'.

Best to you - Katcha

>

> Last night I was just feeling out of sorts and irritable, and couldn't

> sleep. So I came back downstairs to read until I got sleepy, and I

wanted a

> salami sandwich. my SECOND of the day! I wasn't hungry, just

grumpy. I

> made my salami sandwich, ate it, and was ready to go to bed at 11:30

(VERY

> late for me). But I realized something - when I eat like that, I really

> DON'T CARE if I'm hungy or not. Sometimes, I just don't care -

about being

> healthy, if I'm listening or even caring about my body's needs. I just

> wanted a salami sandwich, dammit, LEAVE ME ALONE VOICES! LOL.

>

> But what do I do with THAT? OK, so now I realize that at the

moments when

> I'm most likely to eat " non-intuitively " , that those are the moments

that it

> really doesn't matter to me if I'm following a healthy way IN THAT

MOMENT or

> not.

>

> so I eat.

>

> Granted, i don't get that way very often... but it just seems weird

to have

> a completely useless insight about myself- like, when I figure

something out

> about my unhealthy attitudes, I'm supposed to change my life armed

with that

> new knowledge - but this one just sits there like a stone.

>

> Any ideas?

>

> Mikki

>

[Guest guest]

That's a great idea, Alison, thanks!!

I just started a new supplement and now realize that it may not be the thing for me - I'm not getting good rest at night and that always makes me feel grumpy! So I am going to stop taking it, get a nap (easy today as our nanny called in sick, so I can sleep when the twins do), and see if I feel better tonight!

Mikki

-----Original Message-----From: IntuitiveEating_Support [mailto:IntuitiveEating_Support ]On Behalf Of Eads123Sent: Tuesday, January 08, 2008 10:33 AMTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Subject: Re: I had an insight, but I don't know how it helps me!

Sometimes when I feel like that, I eat the whatever -- salami sandwich in this case -- then sit and ask myself, after I've given myself what on at least some level I wanted, "what else do I need?" Sometimes I have to feed the body, hungry or not, before it relaxes enough to let other voices be heard. If you can find a few quiet minutes to sit down (this used to be in the bathroom when my kids were little!) you could ask yourself questions like: am I sad? confused? excited? nervous? is there something I want to tell myself? someone else? what happened today that feels 'off?' what's coming up that's something I'd rather avoid?These are just seeds that might trigger an 'ah-ha' moment for you. Good luck figuring this out.AlisonMikki Behnke wrote:

Last night I was just feeling out of sorts and irritable, and couldn't sleep. So I came back downstairs to read until I got sleepy, and I wanted a salami sandwich. my SECOND of the day! I wasn't hungry, just grumpy. I made my salami sandwich, ate it, and was ready to go to bed at 11:30 (VERY late for me). But I realized something - when I eat like that, I really DON'T CARE if I'm hungy or not. Sometimes, I just don't care - about being healthy, if I'm listening or even caring about my body's needs. I just wanted a salami sandwich, dammit, LEAVE ME ALONE VOICES! LOL.

But what do I do with THAT? OK, so now I realize that at the moments when I'm most likely to eat "non-intuitively", that those are the moments that it really doesn't matter to me if I'm following a healthy way IN THAT MOMENT or not.

so I eat.

Granted, i don't get that way very often... but it just seems weird to have a completely useless insight about myself- like, when I figure something out about my unhealthy attitudes, I'm supposed to change my life armed with that new knowledge - but this one just sits there like a stone.

Any ideas?

Mikki

[Guest guest]

I so know what you are talking about when you say there are times where you just don't care. I think the important thing to keep in mind is that we do have a choice as to whether we are going to eat or not even if we are not hungry. I know for myself, if I am in an "I Don't Care" mode, there is something emotional going on - for me alot of times it is that I am frustrated/overwhelmed about soemthing or I'm tired and just don't want to put the effort into figuring out if I'm hungry or not or what it is that my body might be calling for.

Hope this helps.

--Alana

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Last night I was just feeling out of sorts and irritable, and couldn't sleep. So I came back downstairs to read until I got sleepy, and I wanted a salami sandwich. my SECOND of the day! I wasn't hungry, just grumpy. I made my salami sandwich, ate it, and was ready to go to bed at 11:30 (VERY late for me). But I realized something - when I eat like that, I really DON'T CARE if I'm hungy or not. Sometimes, I just don't care - about being healthy, if I'm listening or even caring about my body's needs. I just wanted a salami sandwich, dammit, LEAVE ME ALONE VOICES! LOL.

But what do I do with THAT? OK, so now I realize that at the moments when I'm most likely to eat "non-intuitively", that those are the moments that it really doesn't matter to me if I'm following a healthy way IN THAT MOMENT or not.

so I eat.

Granted, i don't get that way very often... but it just seems weird to have a completely useless insight about myself- like, when I figure something out about my unhealthy attitudes, I'm supposed to change my life armed with that new knowledge - but this one just sits there like a stone.

Any ideas?

Mikki

[Guest guest]

,

I like your questions to help figure out what is really going on. I'm going to save this and hopefully remember it when I'm in a mode like that.

--Alana

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Sometimes when I feel like that, I eat the whatever -- salami sandwich in this case -- then sit and ask myself, after I've given myself what on at least some level I wanted, "what else do I need?" Sometimes I have to feed the body, hungry or not, before it relaxes enough to let other voices be heard. If you can find a few quiet minutes to sit down (this used to be in the bathroom when my kids were little!) you could ask yourself questions like: am I sad? confused? excited? nervous? is there something I want to tell myself? someone else? what happened today that feels 'off?' what's coming up that's something I'd rather avoid?These are just seeds that might trigger an 'ah-ha' moment for you. Good luck figuring this out.AlisonMikki Behnke wrote:

Last night I was just feeling out of sorts and irritable, and couldn't sleep. So I came back downstairs to read until I got sleepy, and I wanted a salami sandwich. my SECOND of the day! I wasn't hungry, just grumpy. I made my salami sandwich, ate it, and was ready to go to bed at 11:30 (VERY late for me). But I realized something - when I eat like that, I really DON'T CARE if I'm hungy or not. Sometimes, I just don't care - about being healthy, if I'm listening or even caring about my body's needs. I just wanted a salami sandwich, dammit, LEAVE ME ALONE VOICES! LOL.

But what do I do with THAT? OK, so now I realize that at the moments when I'm most likely to eat "non-intuitively", that those are the moments that it really doesn't matter to me if I'm following a healthy way IN THAT MOMENT or not.

so I eat.

Granted, i don't get that way very often... but it just seems weird to have a completely useless insight about myself- like, when I figure something out about my unhealthy attitudes, I'm supposed to change my life armed with that new knowledge - but this one just sits there like a stone.

Any ideas?

Mikki

[Guest guest]

You're welcome, Mikki! Glad the idea seems helpful.

Alison

Mikki Behnke wrote:

That's a great idea, Alison, thanks!!

I just started a new supplement and now realize

that it may not be the thing for me - I'm not getting good rest at

night and that always makes me feel grumpy! So I am going to stop

taking it, get a nap (easy today as our nanny called in sick, so I can

sleep when the twins do), and see if I feel better tonight!

Mikki

Re: I had an

insight, but I don't know how it helps me!

Sometimes when I feel like that, I eat the whatever -- salami

sandwich in this case -- then sit and ask myself, after I've given

myself what on at least some level I wanted, "what else do I need?"

Sometimes I have to feed the body, hungry or not, before it relaxes

enough to let other voices be heard.

If you can find a few quiet minutes to sit down (this used to be in the

bathroom when my kids were little!) you could ask yourself questions

like: am I sad? confused? excited? nervous? is there something I want

to tell myself? someone else? what happened today that feels 'off?'

what's coming up that's something I'd rather avoid?

[Guest guest]

Thanks, Alana. Glad you liked the questions.

Alison

ajslinton@... wrote:

,

I like your questions to help figure out what is really going

on. I'm going to save this and hopefully remember it when I'm in a

mode like that.

--

Alana