Guest guest Posted January 27, 2008 Report Share Posted January 27, 2008 I know its hard ask anyone in the group how long it took me to finally get IE to click in my head ask Gillian how many e-mails I sent her asking her questions privately and how many e-mails I posted here I think I drove everybody nuts with all my questions but it finally clicked for me but all of us still struggle every day that is why we are here to help each other. It is a very slow process for some it is slower then others and you will struggle every day but I will tell you one thing I know this is better then a diet and I know I can stick with it because I am doing it for me and for nobody else this time and yes IE is slower then a diet but in the long run I know it is better for me because I enjoy not forcing myself to eat things I don't like and that helps me to keep going if I would be on a diet I wouldn't have stuck with it this long. I know IE doesn't work for everyone but it works for me and that is what is important. If you have decided to give it a try then it can work for you too I know waiting for your body to adjust to it is hard trust me I have no patience but this group helped me stick it out and it is working. I got into a jacket I have not worn in two years because it didn't fit me. The weight is coming off slowly but it is coming off because I am eating less food then I used to and I don't feel deprived at all. EvaStart the year off right. Easy ways to stay in shape in the new year. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 27, 2008 Report Share Posted January 27, 2008 What can you do, sweet Press? What can you do to take care of yourself today? hugs, Alison press182 wrote: I don't know, Eva. I can't do this anymore. You identified the trigger that is good now you just have to learn from your mistakes and learn from them for the next time. Just take each day minute by minute and try not to worry. You just have to give it time and be patient. Eva Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 27, 2008 Report Share Posted January 27, 2008 Press- how are you feeling this morning? What can you do, sweet Press? What can you do to take care of yourself today?hugs,Alisonpress182 wrote: I don't know, Eva. I can't do this anymore. You identified the trigger that is good now you just have to learn from your mistakes and learn from them for the next time. Just take each day minute by minute and try not to worry. You just have to give it time and be patient. Eva Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 27, 2008 Report Share Posted January 27, 2008 Thanks Katcha I know I couldn't have done it without the help and advice from this group. The group is one of the reasons I have stuck with IE Best to you too and thanks EvaStart the year off right. Easy ways to stay in shape in the new year. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 27, 2008 Report Share Posted January 27, 2008 Eva, I doubt you're driving anyone crazy! You certainly didn't with me. You have a genuine desire to master IE and you are doing so well. And now you get to share that experience with others just starting and serve as a role model and a source of inspiration! You're so supportive of everyone here, and I for one am happy to have been able to support you! Thanks!GillianGillian Hood-son, MS, ACSMHealthier OutcomesIt's not just about losing weight! Want to eat your favorite foods without gaining weight? Get your copy of our fr*e special report, "6 Simple Steps to Guilt Free Eating" by visiting http://www.healthieroutcomes.com From: IntuitiveEating_Support [mailto:IntuitiveEating_Support ] On Behalf Of eidwriter@...Sent: Sunday, January 27, 2008 1:35 PMTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Subject: Re: Re: I binged. I know its hard ask anyone in the group how long it took me to finally get IE to click in my head ask Gillian how many e-mails I sent her asking her questions privately and how many e-mails I posted here I think I drove everybody nuts with all my questions but it finally clicked for me but all of us still struggle every day that is why we are here to help each other. It is a very slow process for some it is slower then others and you will struggle every day but I will tell you one thing I know this is better then a diet and I know I can stick with it because I am doing it for me and for nobody else this time and yes IE is slower then a diet but in the long run I know it is better for me because I enjoy not forcing myself to eat things I don't like and that helps me to keep going if I would be on a diet I wouldn't have stuck with it this long. I know IE doesn't work for everyone but it works for me and that is what is important. If you have decided to give it a try then it can work for you too I know waiting for your body to adjust to it is hard trust me I have no patience but this group helped me stick it out and it is working. I got into a jacket I have not worn in two years because it didn't fit me. The weight is coming off slowly but it is coming off because I am eating less food then I used to and I don't feel deprived at all. Eva Start the year off right. Easy ways to stay in shape in the new year. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 28, 2008 Report Share Posted January 28, 2008 Thanks Gillian I know I couldn't have made it as far as I have come without the support of this group and when I first started I felt like I must be driving the group crazy with all my posting but all of you have been so patient ans supportive of me that is just how I felt at the time but thanks you Gillian for all your support and Like I said i couldn't make it through my rough days without the advice and support of everyone in the group. I enjoy reading everyone's posts they keep me motivated. Oh and I think I have figured out that none of us really will ever master IE but we will do our best to eat normally. EvaStart the year off right. Easy ways to stay in shape in the new year. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 28, 2008 Report Share Posted January 28, 2008 Press you are just fine but the problem is you don't think you are fine but I think all of us have that same struggle no matter how much we weigh that is what I have learned doing IE. EvaStart the year off right. Easy ways to stay in shape in the new year. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 28, 2008 Report Share Posted January 28, 2008 You know what? If you are an overeater, and you are not comfortable in your clothes, and as long as you dont go under in body fat, I think this is totally acceptable. I'm 5'3, and 108 was a good weight on me (for being a runner). I dipped below to 104, and that was too little for me. I'm NOWHERE near 108 nor do I strive to be (basically because I dont have time to run like I used to), but I had and eating disorder at 104, and I still have it at my current weight. Either way I had a problem with food, and that is not normal. I am so uncomfortable with my body right now, it makes me sick. You might be right as I was constipated quite a bit last week. TMI, I know, but hey. Oh, Michele. I really hate to because I know I'm going to get screamed at..as I should be. However, as everyone on this board puts it " all out " I feel it's fair to do so on mypart.I'm 5'6 " and 134-137 on my scale. I wear anywhere from a 6, 8 to possibly a 10 in pants. Can't pin point a size as, everyone here is well aware, that clothing manufacturers are on crack.My lowest weight was about 2 years ago at 112. I was almost in a size 2.I think the jeans just made me feel like I was on my way to being " that woman " again. I didn't like being a size 10. It feels like failure. I know I'm being stupid, but I've always had body image issues.So please don't hurl rocks at me yet.> > > I'm so upset. > > > > I made these cereal bars and I went to town on them. > > I really think I > > have a problem with carbs but DH doesn't want to> > hear it.> > He thinks it's mental. He thinks I'm still dieting> > and wigging out > > about food choices.> > > > I do admit I put a pair of jeans on and they were> > tighter than usual > > and it freaked me out. Maybe that was the trigger. > > I keep seeing things everywhere about food, > > nutrition, stop eating > > sugar, meat, flour, etc. > > I don't know what to do> > > > I'm so tired of this. I say I want to be a strong> > woman. BS. I want to > > be skinny. I'd still give my left nut (if I had> > them) to be skinny.> > > > I'm not comfortable with the weight I've gained> > back. I feel terrible. > > The amenorrhea doesn't help either. I'm always worry > > about eating > > enough, working out too much, not enough, don't XYZ.> > > > > > I don't know what to do. > > > > > > > > Michele > > CR: Slightly Engaged by Markham> > RR: Saturday by Ian McEwan 1/5> > > __________________________________________________> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 28, 2008 Report Share Posted January 28, 2008 You know what? If you are an overeater, and you are not comfortable in your clothes, and as long as you dont go under in body fat, I think this is totally acceptable. I'm 5'3, and 108 was a good weight on me (for being a runner). I dipped below to 104, and that was too little for me. I'm NOWHERE near 108 nor do I strive to be (basically because I dont have time to run like I used to), but I had and eating disorder at 104, and I still have it at my current weight. Either way I had a problem with food, and that is not normal. I am so uncomfortable with my body right now, it makes me sick. You might be right as I was constipated quite a bit last week. TMI, I know, but hey. Oh, Michele. I really hate to because I know I'm going to get screamed at..as I should be. However, as everyone on this board puts it " all out " I feel it's fair to do so on mypart.I'm 5'6 " and 134-137 on my scale. I wear anywhere from a 6, 8 to possibly a 10 in pants. Can't pin point a size as, everyone here is well aware, that clothing manufacturers are on crack.My lowest weight was about 2 years ago at 112. I was almost in a size 2.I think the jeans just made me feel like I was on my way to being " that woman " again. I didn't like being a size 10. It feels like failure. I know I'm being stupid, but I've always had body image issues.So please don't hurl rocks at me yet.> > > I'm so upset. > > > > I made these cereal bars and I went to town on them. > > I really think I > > have a problem with carbs but DH doesn't want to> > hear it.> > He thinks it's mental. He thinks I'm still dieting> > and wigging out > > about food choices.> > > > I do admit I put a pair of jeans on and they were> > tighter than usual > > and it freaked me out. Maybe that was the trigger. > > I keep seeing things everywhere about food, > > nutrition, stop eating > > sugar, meat, flour, etc. > > I don't know what to do> > > > I'm so tired of this. I say I want to be a strong> > woman. BS. I want to > > be skinny. I'd still give my left nut (if I had> > them) to be skinny.> > > > I'm not comfortable with the weight I've gained> > back. I feel terrible. > > The amenorrhea doesn't help either. I'm always worry > > about eating > > enough, working out too much, not enough, don't XYZ.> > > > > > I don't know what to do. > > > > > > > > Michele > > CR: Slightly Engaged by Markham> > RR: Saturday by Ian McEwan 1/5> > > __________________________________________________> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 28, 2008 Report Share Posted January 28, 2008 Press, why would we hurl rocks at you? I think it just shows how we are all at such different places with our body images/esteem. There are just probably tons of people on here that would kill to be at the weight you are! I know I would. I can't remember that last time I weighed even in the 100's. I am 5" and I have never weighed as low as 112. Not to make light of what you are going through. I just so wish you the best in learning to love/accept your body the way it is! Please be gentle on yourself! Lots of HUGS!Alana -------------- Original message -------------- You might be right as I was constipated quite a bit last week. TMI, I know, but hey. Oh, Michele. I really hate to because I know I'm going to get screamed at..as I should be. However, as everyone on this board puts it "all out" I feel it's fair to do so on mypart.I'm 5'6" and 134-137 on my scale. I wear anywhere from a 6, 8 to possibly a 10 in pants. Can't pin point a size as, everyone here is well aware, that clothing manufacturers are on crack.My lowest weight was about 2 years ago at 112. I was almost in a size 2.I think the jeans just made me feel like I was on my way to being "that woman" again. I didn't like being a size 10. It feels like failure. I know I'm being stupid, but I've always had body image issues.So please don't hurl rocks at me yet.> > > I'm so upset. > > > > I made these cereal bars and I went to town on them.> > I really think I > > have a problem with carbs but DH doesn't want to> > hear it.> > He thinks it's mental. He thinks I'm still dieting> > and wigging out > > about food choices.> > > > I d o admit I put a pair of jeans on and they were> > tighter than usual > > and it freaked me out. Maybe that was the trigger. > > I keep seeing things everywhere about food,> > nutrition, stop eating > > sugar, meat, flour, etc. > > I don't know what to do> > > > I'm so tired of this. I say I want to be a strong> > woman. BS. I want to > > be skinny. I'd still give my left nut (if I had> > them) to be skinny.> > > > I'm not comfortable with the weight I've gained> > back. I feel terrible. > > The amenorrhea doesn't help either. I'm always worry> > about eating > > enough, working out too much, not enough, don't XYZ.> > > > > > I don't know what to do. > > > > > > > > Michele > > CR: Slightly Engaged by Markham> > RR: Saturday by Ian McEwan 1/5> > > __________________________________________________> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 28, 2008 Report Share Posted January 28, 2008 Wow, that's what happened to me too. I have always weighed around 140 (I'm 5 " 8). Then about 6 years ago we moved and all I can figure is it was the stress but for some reason I became fed up with myself and went on a strict (okay, starvation) diet. I dropped to about 120 pounds which may be fine for some but for me I woke up one morning and looked in the mirror and saw that my cheeks and eye sockets were caving in. I knew to put the breaks on then but I began exercising because with the weight loss went my butt. But as I tried to build muscle my appetite increased from the workouts and as I tried to fight th appetite I only ended up binging. Well of course this awful cycle meant that I gained back all that I had lost. Honestly, if I could stay this weight, even though I feel better about 5 pounds thinner, I'd be happy but the thing is I feel like I am constantly battling against myself. I'm sick of undereating and overeating...I just want to eat NORMAL. Now I hate to give up the exercise though but I often wonder if it would help break the binging cycle if I took a break from it. I have suffered from depression though and think that exercise is definitely helpful in dealing with it. -----Original Message----- Subj: Re: I binged. Date: Mon Jan 28, 2008 3:53 pm Size: 4K To: IntuitiveEating_Support See, I'm in the same boat. At 112 I stopped menstruating and developed an eating disorder. I'd have to be anorexic again and work out about 2x a day 6 days a week. Well, actually, I'd have to do way lighter workouts than I do now. That's almost the rub. I do way more challenging things and I'm heavier than when I didn't. When I look back on it, 135 is my bodies happy weight. To get under that always took drastic measures. When I first decided to " lose this weight for good " (ha!) I had a goal weight of 125. I hit that weight and then something snapped. Well, let's see if we can get down a little lower and so on and so on. It was fine until I decided to up my fitness level. Then the binging started. So it's either, be really, really fit and " bigger " or just not eat much and do light workouts so finding clothes would be easier. It's funny, I talk about myself like I " m overweight and people are always saying how thin I am. > > > > > > > I'm so upset. > > > > > > > > I made these cereal bars and I went to town on them. > > > > I really think I > > > > have a problem with carbs but DH doesn't want to > > > > hear it. > > > > He thinks it's mental. He thinks I'm still dieting > > > > and wigging out > > > > about food choices. > > > > > > > > I do admit I put a pair of jeans on and they were > > > > tighter than usual > > > > and it freaked me out. Maybe that was the trigger. > > > > I keep seeing things everywhere about food, > > > > nutrition, stop eating > > > > sugar, meat, flour, etc. > > > > I don't know what to do > > > > > > > > I'm so tired of this. I say I want to be a strong > > > > woman. BS. I want to > > > > be skinny. I'd still give my left nut (if I had > > > > them) to be skinny. > > > > > > > > I'm not comfortable with the weight I've gained > > > > back. I feel terrible. > > > > The amenorrhea doesn't help either. I'm always worry > > > > about eating > > > > enough, working out too much, not enough, don't XYZ. > > > > > > > > > > > > I don't know what to do. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Michele > > > > > > CR: Slightly Engaged by Markham > > > > > > RR: Saturday by Ian McEwan 1/5 > > > > > > > > > __________________________________________________ > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 29, 2008 Report Share Posted January 29, 2008 I'm so sick of my 100 lb 5'1 mom telling me she needs to " just lose 3 lbs " . WTF?! Then you see women who dont have perfect bodies that are so comfortable with the way they are and carry themselves so well. How do they do it? Maybe because of having the mother I had, who valued physical appearance so highly and being made to feel " less " b/c I didn't have a perfect body. Perfect body meaning " to her standards " . I think it ticks me off to see other people who are happy in their skins or who don't let things like physical appearance dictate this.It's so contrary to my " belief system " .Am I making sense? > >> >about other people's weight. > > > Does it piss me off? Oh hell yes and I can't pinpoint why.> > > > Actually, she's been the one trying to " talk me out " of my mindset.> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 30, 2008 Report Share Posted January 30, 2008 Thanks Gillian I do enjoy sharing things with the group as I said it keeps me motivated and some days I don't post I just read to keep me going. Eva Eva, I don't think you drove anyone crazy! And as you know, sharing what you are going through is going to help a lot of people in this group feel a real sense of relief, knowing they aren't alone and they aren't crazy. Thanks!GillianGillian Hood-son, MS, ACSMHealthier OutcomesIt's not just about losing weight! Want to eat your favorite foods without gaining weight? Get your copy of our fr*e special report, "6 Simple Steps to Guilt Free Eating" by visiting http://www.healthieroutcomes.com From: IntuitiveEating_Support [mailto:IntuitiveEating_Support ] On Behalf Of eidwriter@...Sent: Monday, January 28, 2008 10:41 AMTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Subject: Re: Re: I binged. Thanks Gillian I know I couldn't have made it as far as I have come without the support of this group and when I first started I felt like I must be driving the group crazy with all my posting but all of you have been so patient ans supportive of me that is just how I felt at the time but thanks you Gillian for all your support and Like I said i couldn't make it through my rough days without the advice and support of everyone in the group. I enjoy reading everyone's posts they keep me motivated. Oh and I think I have figured out that none of us really will ever master IE but we will do our best to eat normally. Eva Start the year off right. Easy ways to stay in shape in the new year. Start the year off right. Easy ways to stay in shape in the new year. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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