Intro

[Guest guest]

,

That's interesting about the vegetables. I noticed I haven't been

eating as many as I used to either. I used to eat about 5-10 servings

a day. Oddly, I feel NO DIFFERENT physically not eating as many.

Your post about the gas made me laugh, too. I have been less gassy

and uncomfortable.

> >

> > Hi Shauna,

> > the first thing that comes to mind is that the 'usual' way of

> saying 'no, you can't have that

> > until you finish the veggies' doesn't work - most of us were

raised

> like that and look

> > where it got us! All it does is make mealtime unpleasant and

parents

> sound like nagging

> > food police - so it isn't like you would be replacing something

that

> works with something

> > you're not sure about. Besides, good nutrition is a whole balance

of

> things over time - not

> > one..meal..at...a...time. If my son doesn't like the vegetables

> today - that's fine - maybe

> > this meal he'll get a bit more protein than usual - or a few more

> fatty acids - there will be

> > a different nutritional need tomorrow - and a different vegetable

> and overall his body gets

> > what it needs. Besides, there are cultures around the world where

> vegetables have never

> > been a big part of a normal diet - and the people are perfectly

> healthy:)

>

[Guest guest]

Hi everyone,

I've just recently been introduced to Tribole and Resch's Intuitive

Eating book. From what I've read, the concept of intuitive eating

makes sense to me. I'm also actually really afraid of what it means to

live in a non-dieting world. My whole life has been spent in that mind

frame...paradigm shifts are scary.

Anyhow, I've been overweight all of my life. I'd genuinely like to

have a healthy relationship with food and not feel like it controls me

anymore. I just wanted to be in contact with other people who knew

about this sort of thing or who are actually practicing it. I don't

know anyone who has/does, so this seemed like the best way to meet

some folks.

Take care,

[Guest guest]

Welcome so glad to have you with us this is a great supportive group. EvaStart the year off right. Easy ways to stay in shape in the new year.

[Guest guest]

Hello and Welcome, I am new here myself and look forward to getting

to know you.

I can relate to the fear of this lifestyle. It is so hard to let go

(at least for me anyways) the get-thin-quick schemes are so hard to

resist. I have been doing this my whole life, and change is hard.

Hope you can find support.

>

> Hi everyone,

>

> I've just recently been introduced to Tribole and Resch's Intuitive

> Eating book. From what I've read, the concept of intuitive eating

> makes sense to me. I'm also actually really afraid of what it means

to

> live in a non-dieting world. My whole life has been spent in that

mind

> frame...paradigm shifts are scary.

>

> Anyhow, I've been overweight all of my life. I'd genuinely like to

> have a healthy relationship with food and not feel like it controls

me

> anymore. I just wanted to be in contact with other people who knew

> about this sort of thing or who are actually practicing it. I don't

> know anyone who has/does, so this seemed like the best way to meet

> some folks.

>

> Take care,

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hi there, and welcome - I'm fairly new myself and this is a great group of people!

-- Intro

Hi everyone,I've just recently been introduced to Tribole and Resch's IntuitiveEating book. From what I've read, the concept of intuitive eatingmakes sense to me. I'm also actually really afraid of what it means tolive in a non-dieting world. My whole life has been spent in that mindframe...paradigm shifts are scary.Anyhow, I've been overweight all of my life. I'd genuinely like tohave a healthy relationship with food and not feel like it controls meanymore. I just wanted to be in contact with other people who knewabout this sort of thing or who are actually practicing it. I don'tknow anyone who has/does, so this seemed like the best way to meetsome folks.Take care,

[Guest guest]

Welcome Annie. You really have so much to give to us! I am glad you

are here and hope we can likewise support you as you make this vital

change for you. I have had near your challenges, but I like many of us

here, I still fight the diet mentality of the external world.

My aunt was always 'heavy' and while I'm sure she struggled with not

being a slimmer lady one thing she always did that has stuck in my

mind was to dress very nice. Looking back I think that helped her not

feel a 'slob' which others could have labeled her otherwise. Do keep

processing your emotions and post away here, we will support you as

best as we can.

Ehugs, Katcha

>

> Hi everyone.

>

> I just wanted to introduce myself.

>

> I have been heavy almost all my life. But looking back at those

> pictures when I was a teen I sure don't look like the enormous slob I

> thought I was or my family was telling me I was. I was afraid to ride

> a horse when I was 16 because I thought at 150 pounds I would surely

> hurt it. I had no idea then that at 5 ft 4 " I was a average sized

> woman. Living in a family obsessed with being thin which used shame

> and manipulation to try and get me to loose weight really did a number

> on my head for years. I tried a number of diets which I could stay on

> for only 1-2 days because of the gigantic " FEED ME! " voice. Yeah, I

> did fat camps too.

>

> I continued to gain weight, approximately 10 pounds a year for 20

> years or so. A bad breakup followed by depression and hurting my back

> eventually brought me up to 350 some pounds. In desperation, because

> of some significant health problems like sleep apnea, really high

> blood pressure, not being able to walk a few steps because of

> crippling back pain and being short of breath led me to have gastric

> bypass. Over a year I lost 120 pounds due to living on less than 500

> calories a day. (BTW, I am not a math whiz so the numbers are not

> precise.)

>

> Seven years later, still at 230 pounds. I don't have high blood

> pressure, sleep apnea, or back pain (unless I sleep on a crappy

> mattress) and the shortness of breath comes from walking up hill.

>

> I think the gastric bypass at the time saved my life. I don't regret

> it because I was desperate and didn't know what to do. But, I have

> paid for being starved for a year. My hair has thinned out. For a long

> time I was in a weakened state, too weak to even go for a walk. I

> still have a malabsorption problem so I must take supplements. I am

> fortunate, though, in that in my surgery the surgeon was very

> conservative and only bypassed the first portion of my intestines so I

> have no where near the severity of problems or difficulties that other

> people with weight loss surgery have had. My stomach can hold about a

> cup of soft food.

>

> I have learned to eat frequent small meals to keep from falling into

> that starvation mode again. I don't want to be in that place again. It

> is not good for people be on such severe, calorie restriction. Or at

> least it wasn't a good thing for me. I could have the surgery

> reversed but I do not want to have major surgery again. If I try to

> eat a regular portioned sized meal I feel like I have eaten a

> humongous, thanksgiving meal. I can't eat and drink at the same meal.

> I can only do one or the other because there is only so much room in

> my stomach.

>

>

> What the surgery didn't fix was the heart hunger. I am still an

> emotional eater. In going to the post op support classes I could hear

> some of the same old prejudices and reinforcement of bad habits to

> keep people on the thin path. I didn't stick around for very long. I

> just am not the kind of person. I think eating whole, real foods is a

> good thing.

>

> I knew I still didn't have an answer. Now I am ready to try the IE

> approach. I want food to be something I enjoy instead of have a

> fearful, adversarial relationship. I don't want to have food occupy my

> mind like an addict looking for a fix. I hate that!

>

> I hate that for almost 40 years of my life I have bought into that

> food choice is a moral issue or my self worth is based on how small I

> can be.

>

> It can be difficult to do IE because I get that feeling of fullness

> artificially fast. Some may say, like my mother still does, that's a

> good thing but like I said, starvation is not healthy for my body.

> Most of the time I absolutely hate the idea of eating, food prep,

> going out to eat, etc. I don't enjoy much about food and eating at all

> and sometimes wish it would all go away.

>

> Sigh. I am ready for life to be different.

>

> Annie

>

[Guest guest]

Welcome Deb

I can relate to a few parts of your story and am very glad you are

giving this group a good go. IE has much to offer, but it takes you

wanting it for yourself. I think you do so keep us in touch with your

progress as well as feeling free to rant, vent and cry here too. Its

an important change and one worth working on.

BEST to you - Katcha

>

> Hello my name is Deb and I have struggled with my weight nearly all

> my life. I was pretty slim until around 2nd grade which also

> coincides with severe family problems. I became an emotional eater.

> I can remember eating stacks of cinammon toast when home alone as

> that was all there was and I needed to fill the hole.

>

> I was introduced to diet pills by my mother and older sister as food,

> weight, appearance was a major focus in our house despite overeating

> and being admonished to 'clean our plates'. It was a no win

> situation which was the birth of my guilt over eating. Hunger became

> attached to being bad and feeling guilty. I can remember peanut

> butter malts at Dairy Queen, whole sacks of donuts fresh from the

> fryer, and pancake contests in which we competed to see who could eat

> the most.

>

> My first diet was the called the high protein quick weight loss diet

> around 1970 and it was the Atkins diet in the extreme. I lost over

> 50 lbs. but did not consume any fruit or veggie for over a year. My

> life changed in that boys started to notice me and I became more

> popular but a person can only diet so long before your body must

> eat 'normally' again. Going without carbs for so long left me with

> massive cravings for anything that resembled a starch.

>

> My first year of college the 'freshman 15' turned into 30 then with

> my first pregnancy I gained over 60 lbs. I did lose quite alot

> afterward but I believe I messed up my metabolism by dieting so that

> here I am at 55 weighing over 200 lbs. that I have not been able to

> budge.

>

> I am fed up with diets, tired of hearing about them at work and

> watching people go on and off them. For the last 2 years at least I

> have rebeled against dieting and have tried to eat healthy, increase

> exercise but I still find that I have guilt, beat myself up it I get

> on the scale so am willing to try getting support from others rather

> than going it alone.

>

> I bought the Intuitive Eating book and am at least a third into it.

> It makes so much sense but I have a hard time trusting my own system

> to feed myself correctly. I will end with a neat thing that happened

> yesterday. I was at a workshop when the lady sitting next to me was

> lamenting that she was 'bad' for eating ice cream. The workshop

> leader happened to overhear her and said 'there are no BAD foods'.

> My ears perked up as it sounded like Intuitive Eating to me. She

> went on to say that she had lost 45 lbs. with IE. I must say it gave

> me tremendous hope. Deb

>

[Guest guest]

Welcome to the group, Deb. I read your "cinnamon toast" line out loud to my daughter just now, as I've been trying to persuade her to join the group and that's her favorite binge food, so thanks for a little bit of impetus!! You'll find the support you need here!

Beckett

Hello my name is Deb and I have struggled with my weight nearly all my life. I was pretty slim until around 2nd grade which also coincides with severe family problems. I became an emotional eater. I can remember eating stacks of cinammon toast when home alone as that was all there was and I needed to fill the hole. I was introduced to diet pills by my mother and older sister as food, weight, appearance was a major focus in our house despite overeating and being admonished to 'clean our plates'. It was a no win situation which was the birth of my guilt over eating. Hunger became attached to being bad and feeling guilty. I can remember peanut butter malts at Dairy Queen, whole sacks of donuts fresh from the fryer, and pancake contests in which we competed to see who could eat the most.My first diet was the called the high protein quick weight loss diet around 1970 and it was the Atkins diet in the extreme. I lost over 50 lbs. but did not consume any fruit or veggie for over a year. My life changed in that boys started to notice me and I became more popular but a person can only diet so long before your body must eat 'normally' again. Going without carbs for so long left me with massive cravings for anything that resembled a starch.My first year of college the 'freshman 15' turned into 30 then with my first pregnancy I gained over 60 lbs. I did lose quite alot afterward but I believe I messed up my metabolism by dieting so that here I am at 55 weighing over 200 lbs. that I have not been able to budge. I am fed up with diets, tired of hearing about them at work and watching people go on and off them. For the last 2 years at least I have rebeled against dieting and have tried to eat healthy, increase exercise but I still find that I have guilt, beat myself up it I get on the scale so am willing to try getting support from others rather than going it alone. I bought the Intuitive Eating book and am at least a third into it. It makes so much sense but I have a hard time trusting my own system to feed myself correctly. I will end with a neat thing that happened yesterday. I was at a workshop when the lady sitting next to me was lamenting that she was 'bad' for eating ice cream. The workshop leader happened to overhear her and said 'there are no BAD foods'. My ears perked up as it sounded like Intuitive Eating to me. She went on to say that she had lost 45 lbs. with IE. I must say it gave me tremendous hope. Deb

Delicious ideas to please the pickiest eaters. Watch the video on AOL Living.

[Guest guest]

deb.shults wrote:

> The workshop

>leader happened to overhear her and said 'there are no BAD foods'.

>My ears perked up as it sounded like Intuitive Eating to me. She

>went on to say that she had lost 45 lbs. with IE. I must say it gave

>me tremendous hope. Deb

>

>

Sounds hopeful indeed, Deb. Welcome.

Alison

[Guest guest]

Welcome Deb! I hope you find a home here. Intro

Hello my name is Deb and I have struggled with my weight nearly all

my life. I was pretty slim until around 2nd grade which also

coincides with severe family problems. I became an emotional eater.

I can remember eating stacks of cinammon toast when home alone as

that was all there was and I needed to fill the hole.

I was introduced to diet pills by my mother and older sister as food,

weight, appearance was a major focus in our house despite overeating

and being admonished to 'clean our plates'. It was a no win

situation which was the birth of my guilt over eating. Hunger became

attached to being bad and feeling guilty. I can remember peanut

butter malts at Dairy Queen, whole sacks of donuts fresh from the

fryer, and pancake contests in which we competed to see who could eat

the most.

My first diet was the called the high protein quick weight loss diet

around 1970 and it was the Atkins diet in the extreme. I lost over

50 lbs. but did not consume any fruit or veggie for over a year. My

life changed in that boys started to notice me and I became more

popular but a person can only diet so long before your body must

eat 'normally' again. Going without carbs for so long left me with

massive cravings for anything that resembled a starch.

My first year of college the 'freshman 15' turned into 30 then with

my first pregnancy I gained over 60 lbs. I did lose quite alot

afterward but I believe I messed up my metabolism by dieting so that

here I am at 55 weighing over 200 lbs. that I have not been able to

budge.

I am fed up with diets, tired of hearing about them at work and

watching people go on and off them. For the last 2 years at least I

have rebeled against dieting and have tried to eat healthy, increase

exercise but I still find that I have guilt, beat myself up it I get

on the scale so am willing to try getting support from others rather

than going it alone.

I bought the Intuitive Eating book and am at least a third into it.

It makes so much sense but I have a hard time trusting my own system

to feed myself correctly. I will end with a neat thing that happened

yesterday. I was at a workshop when the lady sitting next to me was

lamenting that she was 'bad' for eating ice cream. The workshop

leader happened to overhear her and said 'there are no BAD foods'.

My ears perked up as it sounded like Intuitive Eating to me. She

went on to say that she had lost 45 lbs. with IE. I must say it gave

me tremendous hope. Deb

Never miss a thing. Make Yahoo your homepage.

[Guest guest]

Hi Deb! Glad you found the group. I just found it myself and so far

just knowing that everyone here is going through the same thing I am

has been such a comfort to me. Plus, I've gotten great advice and

support when I've posted a message asking questions or confessing

fears with overeating. I two am reading the book IE and hopefully will

finish it tonight. I absolutely love it! Everything makes sense and

it gives me some genuine hope that I will be OK....that I'm OK now! I

just have to start believing in myself. Good luck with your journe

and remember this group will be here if you need someone.

meredith