a conversation with my Mom

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My mom decided it was time to say something about my weight this week.

While I tried very hard not to jump to defensive, it did trigger a lot

of old anger. We've had two, good conversations. We're both trying.

Needless to say, there are still some disconnects.

Mom: What are you doing for your weight?

Me: I'm going to therapy.you know that Mom. You know how important for

me it is to deal with this from the inside out.

Mom: I know.but what are you doing for the physical?

Me: I've picked up intuitive eating again. I'm not working with a coach,

but I am using the principle daily (I didn't tell her about being on

this board.although I'm not sure if that would have helped or not).

Mom: But what are you doing physically?

Me: You mean exercise?

Mom: Yes. What are you doing while you're working on the emotional?

Me: Well, I'm trying to figure out what will work best for me. I did

Pilates for the last 2 years, Mom.you knew that. I decided to maybe

spend that money now on a trainer or coach, but what I really want to do

is find something I really enjoy.

Mom: Hmmm

Me: It's really hard Mom because I feel like you and others don't

believe in my choices here, but they feel really good to me, and I know

I'm making progress.

Mom: Well, that's all that matters.

Really? I'm still not sure she gets it..why aren't all my choices here

valid choices? She kept at it like she was waiting for the " real "

answer.

I knew this group would understand.