Guest guest Posted February 10, 2008 Report Share Posted February 10, 2008 Marie, In the back of my mind I remember something about a book/web site that is for IE and children. Sorry I don't have a link to give you, but perhaps a Goggle search could help? And instead of all the WW stuff, I would simply give the girl an easy book like Overcoming Overeating. In fact I would recommend that mother and daughter read it together! You don't have to be a 'master' of IE to recommend it, let those that have done it and written well about it do that for you. And I would welcome a 12 year old girl here too. All she has to be is mature enough to be willing to be open about what she wants to achieve and not be intimidated by all us 'adults'. Heck I wish I had 'gotten' this when I was 12!! Think of all the years of doing and being 'wrong' that could have been avoided. Best to all involved and good for you to try and help them as well. - Katcha > > I have a serious issue to discuss this morning. A friend of mine > informed me that she took her child to the doctor this week and the > doctor classified her as morbidly obese. My heart goes out to this > precious little girl because I know she has been through alot > emotionally including abandonment by her parents. > > In a state of panic, I brought up WW. I told her that I had all the > material and would mail it to her. I don't want to do this. I feel > like I should help but I don't know how to get the no diets approach > across to them in an easy enough format for the girl (she's 12) to > understand. I don't have enough success under my belt to point to so > I feel like I am not the best example. > > Does anyone have any advice? > > Marie > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 10, 2008 Report Share Posted February 10, 2008 That is so so sad - the last thing that poor kid needs is a diet. As a former child who was put on many diets by my parents, I am sad for her , knowing the isolation and shame and deprivation she faces. It sounds like she's already been dealing with enough crap. Could you just be honest and tell her you reacted without thinking and that you had some other ways to think about this issue? I don't think you need to have "success under your belt", per se, as much as an adequate grasp of the information. Maybe recommend Overcoming Overeating and or/ Intuitive Eating and hope that her parents take the time to explore them as well. That's really the best you can do I think - they will either pay attention or discount the info and go the usual route. As you know, IE can be a hard sell for someone who has the diet "head set". It's great that this young girl has such an ally in you - I really feel for you having to witness this! I hope you can make some headway, but again, there's only so much you can do! Poor kid! Kim -- Advice for Children Does anyone have any advice?Marie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 10, 2008 Report Share Posted February 10, 2008 > In the back of my mind I remember something about a book/web site [for IE and kids] Are you thinking of " Naturally Thin Kids: How To Protect Your Kids from Obesity and Eating Disorders for Life " by Antonello (Paperback - Mar 15, 2006) Margret Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 11, 2008 Report Share Posted February 11, 2008 One that might help is called " Preventing Childhood Eating Problems " by Jane R. Hirschmann and Lela Zaphiropoulos. It has certainly changed how we think about feeding our kids. You can get a cheap copy for just a few dollars from Amazon Used or eBay. Shauna > > I have a serious issue to discuss this morning. A friend of mine > informed me that she took her child to the doctor this week and the > doctor classified her as morbidly obese. My heart goes out to this > precious little girl because I know she has been through alot > emotionally including abandonment by her parents. > > In a state of panic, I brought up WW. I told her that I had all the > material and would mail it to her. I don't want to do this. I feel > like I should help but I don't know how to get the no diets approach > across to them in an easy enough format for the girl (she's 12) to > understand. I don't have enough success under my belt to point to so > I feel like I am not the best example. > > Does anyone have any advice? > > Marie > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 12, 2008 Report Share Posted February 12, 2008 Great advice. Thank you. I think she will start becoming more active and stressing fruits and vegetables. I shared with her that my daughter heard a news story once when she was five and the story basically said that if you eat enough fruit, you don't have to worry about vegetables. After that, she started eating fruit for snacks on her own(she didn't like veggies) and over time she seeks out fresh veggies, too. M Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 13, 2008 Report Share Posted February 13, 2008 > > Marie, > > I don't have much experience in IE and children, although I have worked with > a couple of kids, but only with the commitment of the parents. But first, > please don't beat yourself up for bringing up WW. At least it's the best of > the diets out there, meaning it's not too crazy or potentially life > threatening. > > Anyway, the one author that I know of when it comes to children and advice > along the lines of IE is Ellyn Satter. I have never read any of her books, > but the dieticians that I have worked with that know IE recommend her books. > You can look her up on Amazon, she has a whole bunch of books. This is > probably a good place to start. Marie, Gillian, I too have heard good things about Ellyn Satter's books and other resources from a number of people - you could check out her approach on www.ellynsatter.com. Cheers Sigi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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