Re: Bummed... Getting IE, but not losing any weight........And Yet.......

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Gym, minus the sweaty workouts, I could have written your post too

Its a real bummer to look into a mirror and see someone 'else' there!

Surely that can't be ME?!? (LOL) The up side is that yes - I am the

way I am right now and if I'm not living as THAT person right now,

will I ever LIVE with another 'hollywoodmedia' fashioned one either?!?

Hey, you've gotten the hardest part done - eating as you know it

should be done. Now its a matter of living YOUR life and let the rest

of the world be what they want to be - even chasing UNrealistic

ideals. (You would think that would be enough exercise to achieve that

goal - NOT! it has way too many pit stops for food to re-fuel - LOL LOL!!)

ehugs, Katcha

>

> I'm on

> the way to accepting the fact that I'm just NEVER

> going to be an " average " sized person, but d#@! it!

> Why's it got to be such a constant struggle? Why

> does it seem like every magazine or newspaper I

> pick up has stories of people who suddenly START

> doing what I do EVERY DAY (eat right, exercise a lot)

> and THEIR weight " just drops off " - while I stay the

> SAME?!!! Geeze....

>

> Apologies for ranting, whining, moaning.... just

> having one of those days..... Hope I didn't bring

> anybody down into this gutter with me..

>

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Please do not apologize for sharing and speaking your mind.

Just remember that you are probably happier and enjoying life more because you aren't obsessed with another DIEt. Just remember that whatever they are doing the get "skinny" probably won't last. Remember that most of those stories "are not typical results" probably stated in really tiny print. You are doing so good - focus in all of those things that you have mentioned. And when you are no longer worried about your weight, then will it probably start to change. Keep your chin up and keep doing what you arre doing.

--Alana--

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"WHYcouldn't I just be a skinny person?!!" We both laughed, but it's really not that funny. I'm onthe way to accepting the fact that I'm just NEVERgoing to be an "average" sized person, but d#@! it!Why's it got to be such a constant struggle? Whydoes it seem like every magazine or newspaper I pick up has stories of people who suddenly STARTdoing what I do EVERY DAY (eat right, exercise a lot)and THEIR weight "just drops off" - while I stay theSAME?!!! Geeze....Apologies for ranting, whining, moaning.... justhaving one of those days..... Hope I didn't bringanybody down into this gutter with me..

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Actually AJ, you hit it on the head - I AM

happier! NOT obsessing about dieting and

what food goes in me has turned out to be

remarkably FREEING, and I do eat less now

that I quit analyzing every little bite that

goes in my mouth and pay more attention to

what I NEED and really want. And yet....

I also really just don't want to be that person

who sits on the sidelines when other people

talk about the diets they're on thinking,

" Yeah, but it's not going to last, you're

going to gain it all back. " I may KNOW that,

but it feels like cheering for their failure,

if you know what I mean. Don't want to be

that person. We have a couple ladies at work

who are doing the KMART challenge and I'm doing

everything in my power to support them - who

knows, maybe they'll be the 1 in a zillion

who actually loses it and keeps it off with

a diet. I DOUBT it, but I'm gonna support

their effort. I'm just not going to do their

diet with them! LOL!!!

I'll get there with this issue, it's just part

of the process I suppose. sigh... like I said,

just having a bad day. Thanks for your support

(Katcha, too of course!!)

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Wow...I really could have written this post. See i did everything that you said when it came to IE accept for one thing...accept my body as it is. Through lots of counseling I realized that until I can accept my body as it I have not completely rejected the diet mentality. I still struggle everyday but make progress as well. Who says that size 2 thighs are better than my very shapely thighs? My legs are strong and have allowed me to run over a dozen half marathons after all.....Have you ever read When women stop hating their bodies by Carol Munter and Jane ????. It has helped me a lot with this issue.....And by the way you are making more progress than you realize.

Okay, I admit I'm just having a really bad morningand I'm bummed. Probably hormonal, who knows. ButI'm getting really bummed out about doing so wellwith IE, rejecting the whole diet mentality, living

amongst co-workers who are continually dieting and yet still just moving amongst them without buying back into all that crap, learning to eat food I likeand rejecting the stuff I don't..... and yet....

and yet.... I weigh the same exact weight I weighed2 years ago, when I first started working out likea maniac, and when a year later I started working on IE. I do everything I now know I must do, including both eating like a " normal " person and

working out like a " normal " person. I'm healthierfrom a cardiovascular standpoint than I've ever been in my LIFE... I have more lean muscle mass than I've ever had in my life.... and yet....

Okay, I know I'm whining, but a girl's gotta whineevery now and then. But I'm really struggling withthe whole idea that I am gaining a healthier relationship with food than I've ever had before and

yet it's not enough to make even so much as a dentin my weight. I APPLAUD myself on a regular basis when I realize I don't view food with the old should's and should not's of the diet world, when

I see myself discarding stuff because it's just notexcellent enough, when I see myself listening to friends with interest and support when they talkabout their diets, while I DELIGHT in the truth that it just isn't the way to go for me.. and

yet...I was in the gym last night and about to walk outwhen a woman came into the locker room, sweatinglike me, grinning and asking God out loud, " WHYcouldn't I just be a skinny person?!! " We both

laughed, but it's really not that funny. I'm onthe way to accepting the fact that I'm just NEVERgoing to be an " average " sized person, but d#@! it!Why's it got to be such a constant struggle? Why

does it seem like every magazine or newspaper I pick up has stories of people who suddenly STARTdoing what I do EVERY DAY (eat right, exercise a lot)and THEIR weight " just drops off " - while I stay the

SAME?!!! Geeze....Apologies for ranting, whining, moaning.... justhaving one of those days..... Hope I didn't bringanybody down into this gutter with me..

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It sounds like you've got a good handle on it - I know, you just need to process it all in the head - I do that sometimes also. I don't see anything wrong with supporting someone elses choice to do a diet - just be an example to them and someday, they might ask you why you are never on a diet, obsessing about what you eat. They might see the calmness in you and want that also.

--Alana

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Actually AJ, you hit it on the head - I AM happier! NOT obsessing about dieting and what food goes in me has turned out to be remarkably FREEING, and I do eat less nowthat I quit analyzing every little bite thatgoes in my mouth and pay more attention towhat I NEED and really want. And yet....I also really just don't want to be that personwho sits on the sidelines when other people talk about the diets they're on thinking, "Yeah, but it's not going to last, you're going to gain it all back." I may KNOW that,but it feels like cheering for their failure,if you know what I mean. Don't want to be that person. We have a couple ladies at workwho are doing the KMART challenge and I'm doingeverything in my power to support them - whoknows, maybe they'll be the 1 in a zillion who actually loses it and keeps it off witha diet. I DOUBT it, but I'm gonna support their effort. I'm just not going to do theirdiet with them! LOL!!! I'll get there with this issue, it's just partof the process I suppose. sigh... like I said, just having a bad day. Thanks for your support (Katcha, too of course!!)

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gymisadrug wrote:

> Why

> does it seem like every magazine or newspaper I

> pick up has stories of people who suddenly START

> doing what I do EVERY DAY (eat right, exercise a lot)

> and THEIR weight " just drops off " - while I stay the

> SAME?!!!

I think it might be because _their_ " eating right " might differ a great

deal from _our_ " eating right " .

Regards

s.