Re: Re: miscarriage - Hillary

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Oh, , I so love what you said about your daughter not being here

otherwise...brought tears to my eyes because I feel the same way about my

daughter, although sometimes I forget it when she and her brother are

fighting! She was conceived 3 months after a ruptured ectopic pregnancy

where I lost a Fallopian tube (and almost my life!). She is something else.

Sometimes I think that pregnancy prior went bad because it was making way

for her to come into existence. She overcame some big odds to be conceived -

her egg erupted from the ovary that had no tube and apparently crossed all

the way over to go down the remaining tube - rare, but it can happen! She's

got some purpose for being here, I'm not sure what it is, but she was meant

to be here. Thanks for reminding me of the " specialness " of her!

Re: miscarriage

>Hi ,

>I am so sorry your baby didn't make it through. It is a loss and a

>grief, and I feel for you at this time. I still think sometimes of the

>little one I lost at about 10 weeks, many years ago now, and feel

>sad that I was not able to give him/her safe haven in my body.

>But I still hold that child in my heart, and the sadness is

>countered by the knowledge that my lovely daughter would never

>have come into being otherwise. I am sure you will have another

>chance, and another baby who you will carry to term. They say

>many miscarriages are because the fetus was not viable,

>nothing to do with the mother.

>Hillary

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>> Those of you that have had babies or are pregnant, please

>don't hesitate to tell us of your happiness. I know that Tom and I

>will have that joy soon.

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>> I started spotting again. It disappeared then got heavier again.

>So I called the doctor who scheduled me for an ultrasound. The

>baby was firmly anchored but there was no heartbeat.

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>> They estimate that the baby died about 2 weeks ago. Although

>I kept hoping that maybe there was some kind of mistake, there

>was none. I was scheduled for a D & C yesterday but it was

>almost unnecessary since the miscarriage was so far along.

>They had to do a minimum of scraping. That's good since it

>minimizes the chances of scar tissue.

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>> We'll keep trying for a while but it's so scary. I don't know what

>went wrong. I was having hypothyroid symptoms prior but I don't

>know if it's that, or the PCOS, or I'm old. The hypothyroid

>problems were pretty sudden in onset.

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>> The PCOS is mild and treated. I am older (almost 39) but

>ovarian reserve is good. The hypothyroidism stands out in my

>mind. Although it's treated, I have had problems since having

>RAI in'87. Don't know for certain but they've screwed up treating

>me for that before.

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>> Take care,

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