Re: friendship/ not advice, just an anecdote

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Well said.

Jolie

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n...friendships can have so much ebb and flo to them,can't they? Like waves going in and out, being controlledby the moon, and yet they seem so unpredictable sometimes.My favorite part of your post is the very last paragraph. Whattruth there is in that! You should truly be a professional writer.Have you ever published anything? I wonder if you have...love to you, my linguist friend, Kate friendship/ not advice, just an anecdoteTo: MSersLife > My husband and I had one couple just walk away from what> we (naive us) had thought was a friendship. Other than that,> the only troublesome friendship I have ever had is with a friend> who is slightly older than am I--vastly wealthier--though they were> not when we met--and somewhat hysterical. She is very upset that> one of her daughters e-mails to me regularly, and mine do not to her.> > Sooo, each year, I figure that the relationship--I see her about once> every 18 months--will stagger on. Sure enough this year she sent> me a card and typed thing describing the events of their lives.> Of course, I sent back a polite and caring e-mail and thanked> her and sent holiday wishes to her, her husband (whom I like)> and her daughters in Portland, Oregon. I know what will happen;> she and I and her husband will eventually get together for a dinner> out, and chat in the manner that we have always.> > I know that there are a few things that she is angry at me about,> but as i have not been told what they are, and as I am financially> poor, widowed, etc., it is hard for me to imagine how anything > that may have happened 20 years ago and more when we lived> in the same neighborhood could be so painful for her.> > I do not expect anything from her, but knowing her and how > fearful a person she actually is, and how abusive her parents> were (I met them, decades ago), I am not going to let her down.> On the other hand, I am not going to push the idea of clarifying> the issues as she would probably have a panic attack.> > The difference here is that she has never done anything really> ghastly to me--just a series of little needle-pricks which tell me> that she feels upset with me--sometimes, but not all the time.> She once sent me a lettter about how she was making new> friends. I have also learned the hard way that she cannot > abide compliments and is even more embarrassed about > them than about insults. So, as she is not likely to change,> I just accept her as she is. But then she has caused me > no hurt nor harm, despite the intent on occasion to do so.> > She and her husband were absolutely wonderful to me and> to my husband, Hans, during the time of his succumbing to> cancer. I shall never forget that--ever. Some people one> takes with a hefty teaspoon of sugar, others with salt, and> still others with a drink!> > > Love, > > n> Please visit: http://www.bicycleman.comawesome guy, fantastic site. All types of bicyles, many recumbents; perfect for an MS Bike Tour!

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