Re: Ugh, this moring, just had to get it off my chest

[Guest guest]

I don't think you are doing anything wrong. What you have experienced sounds perfectly normal to me. I know I go through days where I am doing really awsome with IE, listening to my hunger and satisfaction cues, know what I want to eat etc. But then I fall into my old pattern of mindless eating, uusally in the evenings. The important thing to focus in on is what you have done well so far the past few days.What was working for you? And then when we do fall off the IE wagon, it's important to A) be gentle with yourself B)don't beat yourself up, and C) Remind yoruself that the next meal is a fresh start and all you need to do is wait until you are hungry and start again. It is a journey and often times we are re-learning new ways of doing years of hurtful behavior to ourselves. It isn't going to change over night. So, please, be gentle and caring to yourself. Hugs!

--Alana

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This stupid road just keeps getting longer. I was flying high for a few days in a row, in fact when I look at my old journals, I successful and feeling positive mentally about this whole normal eating thing and stopping the obsessions and then whump! Yesterday or the day before, I'm not sure why, my energy for this just stopped. I don't want it any less, but the thoughts came back – the minute I wake up, the times when I get up to go to the bathroom, while I'm talking to someone about something completely unrelated to food – bam – I can't stop thinking "What am I going to fix for dinner, what does my body want to eat, did I exercise enough to eat that today? Is that the healthiest option available, did I have enough protein, is there something with fewer calories, did I eat so many veggies that I'm going to be bloated – did I blow this whole new NE endeavor all together? I don't have a clue if I'm hungry. Am I going to fail

this? Am I going back where I came from? I'm so D**N tired of these mental gymnastics!!!! Should I read another book or another perspective on becoming an intuitive eater? Will they all say basically the same thing? HOW DO I DO THIS? How much longer can I wait for this to work and what the H*** am I doing wrong?"Sorry to blast everyone this morning. It's just hitting me really hard. I can get down on myself for everything!! This morning I slept in with my husband till 6:30 and STILL did my workout, but it was later than normal so somehow ED says I failed at something (I'm not sure what?) and then I didn't get all the kickboxing moves perfect (even in my own living room) so supposedly I failed at something `perfect' there.

[Guest guest]

I don't think you are doing anything wrong. What you have experienced sounds perfectly normal to me. I know I go through days where I am doing really awsome with IE, listening to my hunger and satisfaction cues, know what I want to eat etc. But then I fall into my old pattern of mindless eating, uusally in the evenings. The important thing to focus in on is what you have done well so far the past few days.What was working for you? And then when we do fall off the IE wagon, it's important to A) be gentle with yourself B)don't beat yourself up, and C) Remind yoruself that the next meal is a fresh start and all you need to do is wait until you are hungry and start again. It is a journey and often times we are re-learning new ways of doing years of hurtful behavior to ourselves. It isn't going to change over night. So, please, be gentle and caring to yourself. Hugs!

--Alana

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This stupid road just keeps getting longer. I was flying high for a few days in a row, in fact when I look at my old journals, I successful and feeling positive mentally about this whole normal eating thing and stopping the obsessions and then whump! Yesterday or the day before, I'm not sure why, my energy for this just stopped. I don't want it any less, but the thoughts came back – the minute I wake up, the times when I get up to go to the bathroom, while I'm talking to someone about something completely unrelated to food – bam – I can't stop thinking "What am I going to fix for dinner, what does my body want to eat, did I exercise enough to eat that today? Is that the healthiest option available, did I have enough protein, is there something with fewer calories, did I eat so many veggies that I'm going to be bloated – did I blow this whole new NE endeavor all together? I don't have a clue if I'm hungry. Am I going to fail

this? Am I going back where I came from? I'm so D**N tired of these mental gymnastics!!!! Should I read another book or another perspective on becoming an intuitive eater? Will they all say basically the same thing? HOW DO I DO THIS? How much longer can I wait for this to work and what the H*** am I doing wrong?"Sorry to blast everyone this morning. It's just hitting me really hard. I can get down on myself for everything!! This morning I slept in with my husband till 6:30 and STILL did my workout, but it was later than normal so somehow ED says I failed at something (I'm not sure what?) and then I didn't get all the kickboxing moves perfect (even in my own living room) so supposedly I failed at something `perfect' there.

[Guest guest]

I can't help thinking that this is your obsessive, perfectionistic

mind coming into play here... the same mind that, before, probably

focused on food and weight and calories and stuff like that.

Remember: You do NOT have to perfect. IE does NOT have to be perfect.

You CAN make a mistake, or many many mistakes, and still be okay. One

mistake will not ruin your intuitive eating experience forever. One

mistake will not mean you have failed.

Have you ever looked up black-and-white thinking? This is a fairly

common cognitive distortion which is probably in play here in large

doses (or at least I suspect that it is). Remember that IE is a

process, not a series of absolutes. Nothing horrific is going to

happen to you if you make a mistake in IE. It is, though, an

opportunity for learning.

Sometimes I get this spiralling thought cycle, too. If I cannot decide

what to eat, or how much to eat, or even if I'm hungry, I eventually

just have to say to my head, " STOP. " I push the thoughts away. I

decide, " Okay, fine. If I can't decide what to eat without going into

huge tailspins like this, I am simply going to wait awhile until I

feel better. " A huge part of this is not pushing myself into something

that triggers an anxious, overwhelming reaction like that. I know that

I have the willingness to eat later if I am still hungry, so I can get

through a period of tuning out of everything in order to rebalance.

Carolyn

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> This stupid road just keeps getting longer. I was flying high for a

> few days in a row, in fact when I look at my old journals, I

> successful and feeling positive mentally about this whole normal

> eating thing and stopping the obsessions and then whump! Yesterday

> or the day before, I'm not sure why, my energy for this just

> stopped. I don't want it any less, but the thoughts came back – the

> minute I wake up, the times when I get up to go to the bathroom,

> while I'm talking to someone about something completely unrelated to

> food – bam – I can't stop thinking " What am I going to fix for

> dinner, what does my body want to eat, did I exercise enough to eat

> that today? Is that the healthiest option available, did I have

> enough protein, is there something with fewer calories, did I eat so

> many veggies that I'm going to be bloated – did I blow this whole

> new NE endeavor all together? I don't have a clue if I'm hungry. Am

> I going to fail this? Am I going back where I came from? I'm so

> D**N tired of these mental gymnastics!!!! Should I read another book

> or another perspective on becoming an intuitive eater? Will they

> all say basically the same thing? HOW DO I DO THIS? How much longer

> can I wait for this to work and what the H*** am I doing wrong? "

>

> Sorry to blast everyone this morning. It's just hitting me really

> hard. I can get down on myself for everything!! This morning I

> slept in with my husband till 6:30 and STILL did my workout, but it

> was later than normal so somehow ED says I failed at something (I'm

> not sure what?) and then I didn't get all the kickboxing moves

> perfect (even in my own living room) so supposedly I failed at

> something `perfect' there.

>