Guest guest Posted June 3, 2000 Report Share Posted June 3, 2000 In a message dated 03/06/00 20:17:19 GMT Daylight Time, peterlesley@... writes: << The thought crosses my mind that your mum may be clinically depressed, >> She has had periods of being very down/depressed. But usually she is very tearful and sobs frequently. She isn't like that this time. Is that the sign of being very depressed? It appears that they have stopped her antidepressants but I don't know how long ago as they were for pain in her stroke affected side rather than for depression. We tried telling her how much she is loved by us all and that to the children she is just grandma regardless of how much she is able to do for them. Apparently she has been voicing these feelings to the staff but no-one has bothered to contact us to discuss them. It does explain all the calls she has been making to us. She wanted me to go in at 4.30 Wednesday morning (which I did). She had been up since 1am and had said " kill " to the night sisters twice. think now she was trying to say she wanted to kill herself. The nurses are going to discuss putting her back on them in the light of our feelings, but Mum is very stubborn and if she doesn't want to do something then she won't. Thank you all for the support. I'm hoping that things will improve but my Dad died after he made up his mind not to live after one of his frequent small strokes. He came round from the stroke and told me he was so angry that he was still here. He died a day later! Off to sob in my tea. SAHM 6, Olivia 2, 1, 15/3/00 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 3, 2000 Report Share Posted June 3, 2000 In a message dated 03/06/00 20:17:19 GMT Daylight Time, peterlesley@... writes: << The thought crosses my mind that your mum may be clinically depressed, >> She has had periods of being very down/depressed. But usually she is very tearful and sobs frequently. She isn't like that this time. Is that the sign of being very depressed? It appears that they have stopped her antidepressants but I don't know how long ago as they were for pain in her stroke affected side rather than for depression. We tried telling her how much she is loved by us all and that to the children she is just grandma regardless of how much she is able to do for them. Apparently she has been voicing these feelings to the staff but no-one has bothered to contact us to discuss them. It does explain all the calls she has been making to us. She wanted me to go in at 4.30 Wednesday morning (which I did). She had been up since 1am and had said " kill " to the night sisters twice. think now she was trying to say she wanted to kill herself. The nurses are going to discuss putting her back on them in the light of our feelings, but Mum is very stubborn and if she doesn't want to do something then she won't. Thank you all for the support. I'm hoping that things will improve but my Dad died after he made up his mind not to live after one of his frequent small strokes. He came round from the stroke and told me he was so angry that he was still here. He died a day later! Off to sob in my tea. SAHM 6, Olivia 2, 1, 15/3/00 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 3, 2000 Report Share Posted June 3, 2000 In a message dated 03/06/00 20:17:19 GMT Daylight Time, peterlesley@... writes: << The thought crosses my mind that your mum may be clinically depressed, >> She has had periods of being very down/depressed. But usually she is very tearful and sobs frequently. She isn't like that this time. Is that the sign of being very depressed? It appears that they have stopped her antidepressants but I don't know how long ago as they were for pain in her stroke affected side rather than for depression. We tried telling her how much she is loved by us all and that to the children she is just grandma regardless of how much she is able to do for them. Apparently she has been voicing these feelings to the staff but no-one has bothered to contact us to discuss them. It does explain all the calls she has been making to us. She wanted me to go in at 4.30 Wednesday morning (which I did). She had been up since 1am and had said " kill " to the night sisters twice. think now she was trying to say she wanted to kill herself. The nurses are going to discuss putting her back on them in the light of our feelings, but Mum is very stubborn and if she doesn't want to do something then she won't. Thank you all for the support. I'm hoping that things will improve but my Dad died after he made up his mind not to live after one of his frequent small strokes. He came round from the stroke and told me he was so angry that he was still here. He died a day later! Off to sob in my tea. SAHM 6, Olivia 2, 1, 15/3/00 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 3, 2000 Report Share Posted June 3, 2000 JMcc@... wrote: > I am exhausted. > > Went into see my Mum today (she is in a nursing home after a series of > strokes).-- , how sad - sending cyber hugs. Anecdotally, my grandmother felt the same way after battling with cancer for 15 years - she was in hospital after an op for cancer of the oesophagus, and told my mother that she had lived to see all 4 of her grand daughters (my youngest sister had turned 1 that day and we'd all been in to visit) and that she didn't want to carry on living the way she'd have to after such major surgery, she was a very active person prior to the op. She passed away later that evening in her sleep. Not sure that this is the answer you want, but for us it helped to know that it was what she wanted. Dick, SAHM to (7/4/97) and Kitty (22/7/99) and wife of (26/9/66) Newsletter Editor, Advertising manager MSLC Rep - Alton, Bordon and District See pictures of us all at: http://albums.photopoint.com/j/AlbumList?u=848605 Password: Wisley Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 3, 2000 Report Share Posted June 3, 2000 JMcc@... wrote: > I am exhausted. > > Went into see my Mum today (she is in a nursing home after a series of > strokes).-- , how sad - sending cyber hugs. Anecdotally, my grandmother felt the same way after battling with cancer for 15 years - she was in hospital after an op for cancer of the oesophagus, and told my mother that she had lived to see all 4 of her grand daughters (my youngest sister had turned 1 that day and we'd all been in to visit) and that she didn't want to carry on living the way she'd have to after such major surgery, she was a very active person prior to the op. She passed away later that evening in her sleep. Not sure that this is the answer you want, but for us it helped to know that it was what she wanted. Dick, SAHM to (7/4/97) and Kitty (22/7/99) and wife of (26/9/66) Newsletter Editor, Advertising manager MSLC Rep - Alton, Bordon and District See pictures of us all at: http://albums.photopoint.com/j/AlbumList?u=848605 Password: Wisley Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 3, 2000 Report Share Posted June 3, 2000 JMcc@... wrote: > I am exhausted. > > Went into see my Mum today (she is in a nursing home after a series of > strokes).-- , how sad - sending cyber hugs. Anecdotally, my grandmother felt the same way after battling with cancer for 15 years - she was in hospital after an op for cancer of the oesophagus, and told my mother that she had lived to see all 4 of her grand daughters (my youngest sister had turned 1 that day and we'd all been in to visit) and that she didn't want to carry on living the way she'd have to after such major surgery, she was a very active person prior to the op. She passed away later that evening in her sleep. Not sure that this is the answer you want, but for us it helped to know that it was what she wanted. Dick, SAHM to (7/4/97) and Kitty (22/7/99) and wife of (26/9/66) Newsletter Editor, Advertising manager MSLC Rep - Alton, Bordon and District See pictures of us all at: http://albums.photopoint.com/j/AlbumList?u=848605 Password: Wisley Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 3, 2000 Report Share Posted June 3, 2000 In article , JMcc@... writes >I am exhausted. - how awful for you. Having relatively healthy parents I have no idea what it must be like to face such a situation. I only hope that, if I should ever find myself in a similar situation, that my Mum would be able to confide in me like your mother has in you. Thinking of you. -- Debbie Slater A/N Teacher, Co-Chair, Aylesbury & District Branch NCT Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 3, 2000 Report Share Posted June 3, 2000 In article , JMcc@... writes >I am exhausted. - how awful for you. Having relatively healthy parents I have no idea what it must be like to face such a situation. I only hope that, if I should ever find myself in a similar situation, that my Mum would be able to confide in me like your mother has in you. Thinking of you. -- Debbie Slater A/N Teacher, Co-Chair, Aylesbury & District Branch NCT Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 3, 2000 Report Share Posted June 3, 2000 In article , JMcc@... writes >I am exhausted. - how awful for you. Having relatively healthy parents I have no idea what it must be like to face such a situation. I only hope that, if I should ever find myself in a similar situation, that my Mum would be able to confide in me like your mother has in you. Thinking of you. -- Debbie Slater A/N Teacher, Co-Chair, Aylesbury & District Branch NCT Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 3, 2000 Report Share Posted June 3, 2000 Oh , that must have been so difficult for you, to hear your mum say that. I'm sorry. I'm thinking of you and sending you as many hugs as you need and hope things look brighter soon. > I am exhausted. > > Went into see my Mum today (she is in a nursing home after a series of > strokes). -- Mum to (aged 4, born a whopping 11lbs 6oz) and 2 angels 20/10/98 and 24/3/00 Farnborough, Hants Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 3, 2000 Report Share Posted June 3, 2000 Oh , that must have been so difficult for you, to hear your mum say that. I'm sorry. I'm thinking of you and sending you as many hugs as you need and hope things look brighter soon. > I am exhausted. > > Went into see my Mum today (she is in a nursing home after a series of > strokes). -- Mum to (aged 4, born a whopping 11lbs 6oz) and 2 angels 20/10/98 and 24/3/00 Farnborough, Hants Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 3, 2000 Report Share Posted June 3, 2000 Oh , that must have been so difficult for you, to hear your mum say that. I'm sorry. I'm thinking of you and sending you as many hugs as you need and hope things look brighter soon. > I am exhausted. > > Went into see my Mum today (she is in a nursing home after a series of > strokes). -- Mum to (aged 4, born a whopping 11lbs 6oz) and 2 angels 20/10/98 and 24/3/00 Farnborough, Hants Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 3, 2000 Report Share Posted June 3, 2000 Oh , I don't know what to say except I'm thinking of you and go and have that big sob in your tea, cry as much as you want and remember I'm sending you lots of big supportive ((((((((hugs))))))))) xx > Off to sob in my tea. > > > SAHM 6, Olivia 2, 1, 15/3/00 -- Mum to (aged 4, born a whopping 11lbs 6oz) and 2 angels 20/10/98 and 24/3/00 Farnborough, Hants Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 3, 2000 Report Share Posted June 3, 2000 > Went into see my Mum Know that nothing anyone can say can make it any better, but am thinking of you and your mum. Love, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 3, 2000 Report Share Posted June 3, 2000 > > > Off to sob in my tea. > Thinking of you. I can't imagine any worse pain. phine (Mum to 23/4 and Ben 11/2) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 3, 2000 Report Share Posted June 3, 2000 > > > Off to sob in my tea. > Thinking of you. I can't imagine any worse pain. phine (Mum to 23/4 and Ben 11/2) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 4, 2000 Report Share Posted June 4, 2000 > I am exhausted. Oh , I am thinking of you. How hard life is sometimes. Might it help your mum to talk about when she was young/er? Reinforce all the good her life has been? Or maybe this will be unbearably sad for her, remind her of what has gone. I don't know but very often people feel reassured by looking back - to the time when their lives seemed important and worthwhile - and we who are younger learn some fascinating things to store away for our children and granchildren to come. Lots of cyber hugs and ethereal thoughts winging their way to you love Sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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