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Oh, well, of course yours have to be unusual. Great, huh? LOL

Do you have any O/C traits? (Obsessive/Compulsive). Any of the "evening out" business? You know, along the lines of touching something with the right hand, even it out by touching with the left? Maybe this would explain why you've imagined bilateral lesions? <GG>

I'm so sorry you're so far from your family. I know how hard that must be. {{{{{{{{Kami}}}}}}}}

I hope your ex will be more flexible and understanding regarding you relocating. Have you talked about it before? Is he difficult to deal with, obstinate in most ways?

I have one of those. He'd say no just to say no, even if yes made his life better, too. lol This is my two sons' bio-dad.

Almost seven years ago, we did move about three and half hours away. I hope you're able to get closer to your family. I know there are ways to go through it in the court system, but it would be so much better for all if that could be avoided... So, here's the hoping your ex will be able to consider everyone's needs and benefits.

Hugs & Prayers,

Challis

appt.

First - Thank you all so much for your kind and inspiring words, I want to respond to each of you, but that'll come later 'cause I'm tired and trying to pull out of depression.

okay, so I went to see my neuro (still waiting for UCSF appt.) and she explained that I have two brand new lesions one on each side of the brain in the hippocampus and they lit up with contrast. However, she said they are unusual because they are symetrical, like the same on each side of the brain, and that MS lesions don't show up bilaterally symetrical. She said she hasn't seen this before. (GREAT) So she is waiting to talk with the neurological radiologist to get his opinion, but he is on vacation till next week. So she is going to call me next week to let me know what his opinion is.

I am pretty isolated where I am at, I moved up here originally so my husband could go to school here, but now he is an ex (and lives down the street with his girlfriend). .. and all my family is in the bay area about 6 hours drive from here, and I could really use being close to them right now because I'm pretty much going through this alone. So I'm thinking of making a drastic move. Start anew. But there is a custody issue, the ex won't agree to me taking our son to the bay area, and also our son wants to stay up here. Otherwise I'd be packin the boxes!

So here I am, venting again. I have just been really depressed lately, and I realize I need to reach out and do something about this, because the hole is seems like its getting darker and deeper. Thank you for all of you help.

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hi kami,could you have a mediator negotiate the custody issue with your son? how old is he? also, could you have him on the weekends instead of full-time? a neighbor here does that. maybe even an extended visit with your family? are you seeing a therapist during all of this?annetteKami wrote: First - Thank you all so much for your

kind and inspiring words, I want to respond to each of you, but that'll come later 'cause I'm tired and trying to pull out of depression. okay, so I went to see my neuro (still waiting for UCSF appt.) and she explained that I have two brand new lesions one on each side of the brain in the hippocampus and they lit up with contrast. However, she said they are unusual because they are symetrical, like the same on each side of the brain, and that MS lesions don't show up bilaterally symetrical. She said she hasn't seen this before. (GREAT) So she is waiting to talk with the neurological radiologist to get his opinion, but he is on vacation till next week. So she is going to call me next week to let me know what his opinion is. I am pretty isolated where I am at, I

moved up here originally so my husband could go to school here, but now he is an ex (and lives down the street with his girlfriend)... and all my family is in the bay area about 6 hours drive from here, and I could really use being close to them right now because I'm pretty much going through this alone. So I'm thinking of making a drastic move. Start anew. But there is a custody issue, the ex won't agree to me taking our son to the bay area, and also our son wants to stay up here. Otherwise I'd be packin the boxes! So here I am, venting again. I have just been really depressed lately, and I realize I need to reach out and do something about this, because the hole is seems like its getting darker and deeper. Thank you for all of you help. Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now.

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Hi Annette, I think a mediator would be a good idea, and I like the ideas about weekends, etc., ex and I have been hitting roadblocks with communication -- so when you mentioned mediation, I thought "oh ya, we need that" LOL I need a therapist!!!!!!! LOL I have the list of therapists to call.... but haven't gotten around to it. I am realizing I need to make this a priority!Thank you, KamiAnnette Stange wrote: hi kami,could you have a mediator negotiate the custody issue with your son? how old is he? also, could you have him on the weekends instead of full-time? a neighbor here does that. maybe even an extended visit with your family? are you seeing a therapist during all of this?annetteKami <pilot_989> wrote: First - Thank you all so much for your kind and inspiring words, I want to respond to each of you, but that'll come later 'cause I'm tired and trying to pull out of depression. okay, so I went to see my neuro (still waiting for UCSF appt.) and she explained that I

have two brand new lesions one on each side of the brain in the hippocampus and they lit up with contrast. However, she said they are unusual because they are symetrical, like the same on each side of the brain, and that MS lesions don't show up bilaterally symetrical. She said she hasn't seen this before. (GREAT) So she is waiting to talk with the neurological radiologist to get his opinion, but he is on vacation till next week. So she is going to call me next week to let me know what his opinion is. I am pretty isolated where I am at, I moved up here originally so my husband could go to school here, but now he is an ex (and lives down the street with his girlfriend)... and all my family is in the bay area about 6 hours drive from here, and I could really use being close to them right now because I'm pretty much going through this alone. So I'm thinking of making a drastic

move. Start anew. But there is a custody issue, the ex won't agree to me taking our son to the bay area, and also our son wants to stay up here. Otherwise I'd be packin the boxes! So here I am, venting again. I have just been really depressed lately, and I realize I need to reach out and do something about this, because the hole is seems like its getting darker and deeper. Thank you for all of you help. Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now.

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That is it! I need a mediator that speaks Earlease! hee hee. Where do I get one? Yesterday I turned in the remainder of the dissolution papers (I was frustrated when I learned we needed one more thing notarized and we had to find a time that both of us could meet....). Anyway, if the judge agrees with everything, then the divorce will be final on August 4th. It is really very hard for me, but I really am so much better off without him. Next step is to not live down the street from him!!!!! Smyelin groovy wrote: Ohhhh, you were married to Earl, too!! LOLOL (Earl = my ex's pseudonym). I know there are ways to talk to certain folks (and Earl has big issues). I have a hard time doing it. Coddling people like that just doesn't come out easy for me, and it feels like coddling. LOL I've done it though. Self-talk prep-talk going something like: "He's mentally ill, and stupid, and logic and right-over-wrong will never be part of his world...". (LOLOL) Maybe the mediator will know that certain language as well. LOL Does your ex play with Poison Oak,

too? LMHO Hugs, Challis appt. First - Thank you all so much for your kind and inspiring words, I want to respond to each of you, but that'll come later 'cause I'm tired and trying to pull out of depression. okay, so I went to see my neuro (still waiting for UCSF appt.) and she explained that I have two brand new lesions one on each side of the brain in the hippocampus and they lit

up with contrast. However, she said they are unusual because they are symetrical, like the same on each side of the brain, and that MS lesions don't show up bilaterally symetrical. She said she hasn't seen this before. (GREAT) So she is waiting to talk with the neurological radiologist to get his opinion, but he is on vacation till next week. So she is going to call me next week to let me know what his opinion is. I am pretty isolated where I am at, I moved up here originally so my husband could go to school here, but now he is an ex (and lives down the street with his girlfriend). .. and all my family is in the bay area about 6 hours drive from here, and I could really use being close to them right now because I'm pretty much going through this alone. So I'm thinking of making a drastic move. Start anew. But there is a custody issue, the ex won't agree to me taking our son

to the bay area, and also our son wants to stay up here. Otherwise I'd be packin the boxes! So here I am, venting again. I have just been really depressed lately, and I realize I need to reach out and do something about this, because the hole is seems like its getting darker and deeper. Thank you for all of you help. Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now.

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Thank you Annette! This group helps me out tremendously. Annette Stange wrote: hi kami!yea!!! light at the end of the tunnel!!! i am so glad to feel the hope in your post, really glad.annetteKami <pilot_989> wrote: Hi Annette, I think a mediator would be a good idea, and I like the ideas about weekends, etc., ex and I have been hitting roadblocks with communication -- so when you mentioned mediation, I thought "oh ya, we need that" LOL I need a therapist!!!!!!! LOL I have the list of therapists to call.... but haven't gotten around to it. I am realizing I need to make this a priority!Thank you, KamiAnnette Stange <nettieforce1> wrote: hi kami,could you have a mediator negotiate the custody issue with your son? how old is he? also, could you have him on the weekends instead of full-time? a neighbor here does that. maybe even

an extended visit with your family? are you seeing a therapist during all of this?annetteKami <pilot_989> wrote: First - Thank you all so much for your kind and inspiring words, I want to respond to each of you, but that'll come later 'cause I'm tired and trying to pull out of depression. okay, so I went to see my neuro (still waiting for UCSF appt.) and she explained that I have two brand new lesions one on each side of the brain in the hippocampus and they lit up with contrast. However, she said they are unusual because they are symetrical, like the same on each side of the brain, and that MS lesions don't show up bilaterally

symetrical. She said she hasn't seen this before. (GREAT) So she is waiting to talk with the neurological radiologist to get his opinion, but he is on vacation till next week. So she is going to call me next week to let me know what his opinion is. I am pretty isolated where I am at, I moved up here originally so my husband could go to school here, but now he is an ex (and lives down the street with his girlfriend)... and all my family is in the bay area about 6 hours drive from here, and I could really use being close to them right now because I'm pretty much going through this alone. So I'm thinking of making a drastic move. Start anew. But there is a custody issue, the ex won't agree to me taking our son to the bay area, and also our son wants to stay up here. Otherwise I'd be packin the boxes! So here I am,

venting again. I have just been really depressed lately, and I realize I need to reach out and do something about this, because the hole is seems like its getting darker and deeper. Thank you for all of you help. Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now.

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Thank you Annette! This group helps me out tremendously. Annette Stange wrote: hi kami!yea!!! light at the end of the tunnel!!! i am so glad to feel the hope in your post, really glad.annetteKami <pilot_989> wrote: Hi Annette, I think a mediator would be a good idea, and I like the ideas about weekends, etc., ex and I have been hitting roadblocks with communication -- so when you mentioned mediation, I thought "oh ya, we need that" LOL I need a therapist!!!!!!! LOL I have the list of therapists to call.... but haven't gotten around to it. I am realizing I need to make this a priority!Thank you, KamiAnnette Stange <nettieforce1> wrote: hi kami,could you have a mediator negotiate the custody issue with your son? how old is he? also, could you have him on the weekends instead of full-time? a neighbor here does that. maybe even

an extended visit with your family? are you seeing a therapist during all of this?annetteKami <pilot_989> wrote: First - Thank you all so much for your kind and inspiring words, I want to respond to each of you, but that'll come later 'cause I'm tired and trying to pull out of depression. okay, so I went to see my neuro (still waiting for UCSF appt.) and she explained that I have two brand new lesions one on each side of the brain in the hippocampus and they lit up with contrast. However, she said they are unusual because they are symetrical, like the same on each side of the brain, and that MS lesions don't show up bilaterally

symetrical. She said she hasn't seen this before. (GREAT) So she is waiting to talk with the neurological radiologist to get his opinion, but he is on vacation till next week. So she is going to call me next week to let me know what his opinion is. I am pretty isolated where I am at, I moved up here originally so my husband could go to school here, but now he is an ex (and lives down the street with his girlfriend)... and all my family is in the bay area about 6 hours drive from here, and I could really use being close to them right now because I'm pretty much going through this alone. So I'm thinking of making a drastic move. Start anew. But there is a custody issue, the ex won't agree to me taking our son to the bay area, and also our son wants to stay up here. Otherwise I'd be packin the boxes! So here I am,

venting again. I have just been really depressed lately, and I realize I need to reach out and do something about this, because the hole is seems like its getting darker and deeper. Thank you for all of you help. Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now.

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