DH's and weekends was DH's and working away

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Sue said:

>Coping alone is easier when you know there isn't someone who should be

>helping but is choosing to watch TV/have a lie-in, etc in the immediate

>vicinity. ;-)

said

>This is ***so*** true. Rob can't understand this. This is why I hate

>Saturdays so much - I look forward to the weekend all week because I tell

>myself I'll get all the help I need when Rob's home - then I spend the

whole

>weekend resenting him for all the things he's not doing. By Sunday I'm

kind

>of used to it and assume a martyred stance as opposed to a nagging wife

>approach, so Sundays tend to be a little more relaxed.

I found some thing of a cure for this! I started to go away for the day to

NCT things, then I went away for a whole weekend once in a while for NCT

things in London. This meant that DH had to do everything, well to start

with I made sure everything was so up to date so that I wouldn't face a

crisis when I got back and he hadn't done anything. Gradually I did less

and less preparation for him and he coped just fine. He definately go

better at doing more things at the weekends when I was home, I think because

he had discovered for himself that they needed to be done.

Since he came back from 5 months away he needs retrained:-( so you have to

make sure you give them plently of practise :-)

Liz Goudie