Anne's Mom

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>Anne wrote:

>This irks me because they told us this when my Mom was in the NH when they put

a patient with it in her room & she has no immune system. I had a small fit when

my Mom got sick and had to go to the hospital again.  That was in October 2011

>Last night my Mom came in to the Univ. of MN hospital, so today she told me and

the doctors this afternoon:

> " My mom would rather go home and possibly die with her dogs than go to a

nursing home or rehab facility. Knowing that the doctors don't feel she is safe

to be home alone. "

Hi Anne

I am sorry to hear about your Mom's poor health. I wouldn't want to die with all

kinds of machinery around, that the doctors would be tempted to use when I take

my last breath.  Please be sure your Mom has a living will, and a do not

resuscitate (DNR) order in her chart. Also, have someone in your family, or

yourself have medical power of attorney. I almost forgot to mention a regular

will too.  A living will is very simple, they should have a basic one available

for her to sign and have witnessed there at the hospital. Many hospitals provide

one upon admission.

Have you contacted hospice? Some long term care facilities are also hospices.

There is also home hospice, but she will need someone near for comfort and

general care. Contact the Social Services department at the hospital for

information. 

My favorite Aunt Lelah died peacefully at home more than a decade ago. The

hospice staff were wonderful. My Uncle Ted was in good health so he was able to

care for her most of the time.

I had help 12 hours a day while I lived with my parents, when Dad had

Alzheimer's disease and Mom had COPD. Mom also had mental health problems. Still

it was exhausting, because I was working full-time and had two teenagers.

Dad did die in the hospital from aspiration pneumonia, but we were all at his

side. His body forgot how to swallow correctly, but we made it clear long before

his health deteriorated that he did not want a heroics, feeding tubes, etc.

I feel for you, and wish you, and your Mom peace.

Kaylene