Re: Caution=Pity Party

[Guest guest]

Sorry it all turned out kinda bad. I love flowers too and want to put in a hill

for my herb garden. I haven't had one in years.

Enjoy the freshness of Spring,

Jennette

> Bennie writes:

>This is my 28th Wedding Anniversary

[Guest guest]

Bennie,

I am sorry you are having such a rough day, especially since today is a day that

should be so special since its your wedding anniversary!

You deserve to:

•Be listened to, heard & respected

•Sit in a seat/ bench that is most comfortable for you from what is available

•Eat & order what you want

•Look at & buy hummingbird feeders

•Have a beautiful yard

•Rest in your car if you need to without apologizing to anyone

•Have friends & family that listen to you and comfort you

•Enjoy & be surrounded by the flowers and birds in the world

•To be appreciated for all the kind, generous & wonderful things you have done

to help others and make the world a prettier place

•Not be invaded by wood ticks (no wait, that's Anne, sorry!)

It saddens me that it doesn't seem these things are being afforded to you! I am

also sorry that so many people haven't appreciated your generous spirit, or

reciprocated your kindness. I know I personally appreciate all of the wisdom

and insight you have shared on this web list. I wish I could be that friend

sitting with you that you describe. I also wish you were surrounded by people

who respected you and your needs. The weather is beautiful here today (NYC

area), and I hope it is beautiful where you are, so that you can see the

flowers, plants and birds! And happy 28th wedding anniversary!

Be well,

Jen

Hope you enjoy The Raven -- let me know how it is!

[Guest guest]

Beautifully said, Jen.  I second all that Jen said, Bennie. You deserve these

things. Period. End of story.

Hope you were able to enjoy your day!

Vivien

Jen L. wrote:

Bennie,

I am sorry you are having such a rough day, especially since today is a day that

should be so special since its your wedding anniversary! 

You deserve to:

Be listened to, heard and respected

Sit in a seat/ bench that is most comfortable for you from what is available

Eat & order what you want Look at andbuy hummingbird feeders

[Guest guest]

This is in reference to the letter from Jen. I agree with her and she said it so

well that I can do no better.

I know how you feel though, I am alone with my kids living pretty far away. I

feel like a nuisance. When I ask for special things, my daughter (I really love

her) says i am HIGH MAINTENANCE, so I just stay away from her. Its sad, but -

HAPPY ANNIVERSARY.

Cathie In Ct

[Guest guest]

Ditto all the things Jen said, even about the icky wood tick (I felt like I had

them all over me all night long and my family just laughed at me for it!)

I hope your day gets better and you have been great to me in the few days I have

been a member here, so Thank you! Wish I could help you out myself and be your

friend that just sits there and understands!!

Happy 28th Wedding Anniversary anyway!!

Love Always,

Anne

[Guest guest]

> wrote:

> When I ask for special things, my daughter (I really love her) says i am

HIGH MAINTENANCE,

,

You are high maintenance and worth it ! You could also say, so were you and I

still loved and cared for you, in a sweet voice. Bennie

[Guest guest]

> Jen wrote:

> Sorry it all turned out kinda bad. I love flowers too and want to put in a

hill for my herb garden. I haven't had one in years.

Jen,

My husband is great to me and I am going to insist on it. My Son has planted

roses and I used to have a vegetable garden that all neighbors had permission to

go and pick what they want: tomatoes, cucumbers, zucchini, hot peppers, basil,

paprika, lemon trees. I took a job at Home Depot Garden Center for fun and got

things cheap and when they threw them away as dead, I revived them.

I had Morning Glories coming over the fence in front so dogs don't eat and be

sick, a garden pond with frogs croaking, butterflies, This takes weeding,

mulching etc.

My husband pulled up Saint Augustine grass thinking it was crab crass and I even

did the mowing, edging, and tree edging because I enjoyed.

[Guest guest]

> Vivien wrote:

> Beautifully said, Jen. I second all that Jen said, Bennie. You deserve these

things. Period. End of story.

All,

My husband is very supportive but a shy person. When someone says " We don't

have " , I don't mind saying " Do you have a handicapped area ? " or " Can I sit

there? " . I used to pretend I was normal and try to carry it off but now I say,

" I am handicapped, feeling ill, and am going to faint on the floor if you don't

find me a place to lie down " .

It is amazing how quick they help you and when I fell face first in Walmart. The

four managers who would not let me out the door (they closed three minutes

earlier, my van was running and friend who is Mentally Ill can see me) as it was

not policy but was getting the front end manager was the first to yell, " Call

911 " ). I told her just let me out of here and forget about 911 but this is

ridiculous.

I think I will look for a teenager who needs money that will help me pull weeds

and plant and water. It seems the only way.

I drive thru the neighborhood and see the trees, shrubs, and plants I have

planted in other yards. At least, I can see what I have done.

You guys are so nice. Bennie

[Guest guest]

I agree with Bennie. Children are high maintenance. but we love them

anyway. Turn around is fair play!

> Bennie wrote:

> You are high maintenance and worth it ! You could also say, so were you and

I still loved and cared for you, in a sweet voice.

[Guest guest]

Anne R wrote:

> I agree with Bennie. Children are high maintenance. but we love them

> anyway. Turn around is fair play!

All,

That is probably why he debates any subject that comes up. So much brain, too

little wisdom and wants to fall on his own, but with Mom paying : ) No he is

good kid and is there for me, just knowing he is around helps and I know he

worries. Means a lot to me. Pity Party over, going to walk dog a little, Plant

some cucumbers, found five gallon ones at Lowes and they are the burpless ones.

Bennie

[Guest guest]

Bennie wrote:

> This is my 28th Wedding Anniversary and I promised myself I would try to go

out to eat and a movie, the Raven.

Hi Bennie

I never promise myself two things in one evening anymore. Trying to do

two things usually ends up with me calling it quits half way through.

Or, toughing it out, having blessed little fun, and paying for it for days.

Our wedding anniversary was a week ago. A friend showed up the day

before with a card with a $50 bill inside it. (she's a sweetheart) Mark

eyed me that night and said " you're not gonna be able to go out, are

you? " It was actually more of a statement than a question.

I said something like " You've got it Pontiac " and that was the end of that.

The other night, neither of us wanted to cook supper. I mentioned that

we still had the $50 that we were instructed to blow on someone else

doing the cooking. Mark looked at me and said, " My stomach's been upset

all day. Let's do it another night. " :-)

Maybe in July we'll have our anniversary dinner. <grin>

Lyndi