Re: Top 10 nada body panic-lines

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When you hit reply from the message, there is a pull down menu in the

TO box, and you can select if it goes to the group, the individual, or

the owner. If you get the email digest, click on respond to group via

web post and it will take you to the group and that thread. If you go

into the group from Yahoo groups, go to messages, find the one you wish

to reply to, click on it, and hit reply.

Your nada sounds a lot like mine. Every minor pain was highly

exagerated. Trips to the ER were to seek drugs and validation that she

was dying. She was. It took her 30 years to do it.

Doug

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> First of all - how do I write a response so it appears connected to

all the others in the same topic? At first I responded to the person and

it disappeared. Now I respond to group and it comes up as a single. I'm

not adept at this forum yet.

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> The more I read here, the more shocked I am at the similarities

between your lives and mine. For 57 years I thought my Mom was just

" unusual, unique, cranky, weird. " But the more I read, the more I'm

amazed. Now this health crisis business sounds so much like my Mom.

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> When I was young and did something she didn't like (didn't wash the

dishes, vacuum or put away the ashtrays perfectly) she said I was trying

to kill her. As she got older, it was constant complaints about the

horrible allergies - her nose was running. The pain she had when waking

up, she felt " paralyzed. " Her eyes were sensitive to light, her ears

were sensitive to sound so those kids in the restaurant better shut up

or she'd leave.

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> More recently she would have us take her to ER because she was sure

she was dying. When she got there they ask about pain level on a scale

of 1 - 10. Oh, the pain was a 12. But the whole time she was talking

non-stop, even making comments about how much fun she was having. When

they did all the tests and we sat there for 5 or 6 hours, they never

found anything wrong with her and sent her home. She would be laughing

and smiling and doing her parade wave. Can't forget the inappropriate

comments she made to the young doctors about how cute they are.

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> She's been going to her regular doctor every month now since last

November or so, complaining of this or that: back pain, stomach pain,

head aches, heart attack. They do tests, find nothing. So the next month

she has a different body part acting up. And medications? Oh my word!

Trying to explain what she " can't take " and why is a joke. I don't get

involved with that one. I let her explain it. I love to see the

expressions on the nurses' faces when they're trying to get her medical

history and medications.

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> I've been worried this past year about her health, thinking at her

age, she just might be really sick. But after the last trip to ER, they

made it very clear that there's absolutely nothing wrong with any of her

body parts. That gives me peace of mind even if she thinks they're lying

to her. The last time she called me about horrible stomach pain and she

wanted to let me know in case I " found her on the floor dead " , I simply

listened and told her to take it easy, rest and call 911 if it got

worse. The next morning she was fine.... of course.

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Aha, I think it worked. You gave me a lot of options " if this, then that... " I

do scan the digest that comes through Yahoo. But I remember seeing " web post "

and I think that's what I want. We'll see how this works.

Today spent the day with my Mom. She's being very nice since the big discussion

about her falsely accusing us of taking advantage of her financially. She still

brings it up but doesn't actually deny saying that. Just says people

misunderstand or read too much into what she says. Everybody has a bad day and

says things. Yeah, but some things just aren't supposed to be said, especially

to people in authority like her doctors. Anyway, she's been really nice the past

few weeks. Makes me nervous. LOL

Hubby and I want to get away for 3 days, she knows it. We'll see if she has a

medical emergency the day before. That's what usually happens.

This online posting (what do you call this? a forum?) has been helpful in some

ways. I'm learning that I'm not alone, it's not my imagination and her behavior

is not typical of a regular Mom. I worry that some day I might be like her. I

try so hard to avoid that and my husband is pretty good about letting me know if

I'm being unreasonable or a bit cranky. He's gentle about it but I need to know

if I'm acting like her. My kids seem to love me so that's a good start. And they

want to spend time with me. Maybe I'm OK after all.

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> > First of all - how do I write a response so it appears connected to

> all the others in the same topic? At first I responded to the person and

> it disappeared. Now I respond to group and it comes up as a single. I'm

> not adept at this forum yet.

> >

> > The more I read here, the more shocked I am at the similarities

> between your lives and mine. For 57 years I thought my Mom was just

> " unusual, unique, cranky, weird. " But the more I read, the more I'm

> amazed. Now this health crisis business sounds so much like my Mom.

> >

> > When I was young and did something she didn't like (didn't wash the

> dishes, vacuum or put away the ashtrays perfectly) she said I was trying

> to kill her. As she got older, it was constant complaints about the

> horrible allergies - her nose was running. The pain she had when waking

> up, she felt " paralyzed. " Her eyes were sensitive to light, her ears

> were sensitive to sound so those kids in the restaurant better shut up

> or she'd leave.

> >

> > More recently she would have us take her to ER because she was sure

> she was dying. When she got there they ask about pain level on a scale

> of 1 - 10. Oh, the pain was a 12. But the whole time she was talking

> non-stop, even making comments about how much fun she was having. When

> they did all the tests and we sat there for 5 or 6 hours, they never

> found anything wrong with her and sent her home. She would be laughing

> and smiling and doing her parade wave. Can't forget the inappropriate

> comments she made to the young doctors about how cute they are.

> >

> > She's been going to her regular doctor every month now since last

> November or so, complaining of this or that: back pain, stomach pain,

> head aches, heart attack. They do tests, find nothing. So the next month

> she has a different body part acting up. And medications? Oh my word!

> Trying to explain what she " can't take " and why is a joke. I don't get

> involved with that one. I let her explain it. I love to see the

> expressions on the nurses' faces when they're trying to get her medical

> history and medications.

> >

> > I've been worried this past year about her health, thinking at her

> age, she just might be really sick. But after the last trip to ER, they

> made it very clear that there's absolutely nothing wrong with any of her

> body parts. That gives me peace of mind even if she thinks they're lying

> to her. The last time she called me about horrible stomach pain and she

> wanted to let me know in case I " found her on the floor dead " , I simply

> listened and told her to take it easy, rest and call 911 if it got

> worse. The next morning she was fine.... of course.

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