i am a new member with a BPD mother

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hi there... i have had a lifetime of BPD with my mother- i found some very

helpful books and am relieved to know that i'm NOT CRAZY. but i still feel

crazy. i am pursuing counseling to know how to deal with my emotions and

thoughts (what i was taught was my mother's delusion and craziness). i moved

out of state and because she's terrified of abandonment, she abandoned me. she

went ballistic- giving me the silent treatment and accusing me of unreasonable

things. so now she won't talk to me... wants nothing to do with my new life or

her grandchildren. so i'm trying to figure out what to do...

of course, the pattern growing up was: she gives the silent treatment, i have to

figure out the puzzle... what's wrong with mom... i comfort her and seek

reconciliation... she plays the victim because it's all my fault... i'm the

parent...

now, i'm refusing to play that old game. but it's still stressing me out.