light at the end of the tunnel...

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so it's been a year since my nada went NC on me. I started with pain ( " how could

she abandon me? " I was pregnant w/her first and only granddaughter and have

given birth, which she hasn't acknowledged), then moved to anger ( " Screw you for

abandoning me " ), then guilt ( " How can I not be in contact w/my mother? " what

kind of person doesn't talk to her mother? " ) and now....am starting to feel some

peace. I'm ok w/her not in my life, and if she's going to ever be in my life

again, she will need to reach out to me with an apology on her lips and a

commitment to make some changes (that will never happen). Anyway, just wanted

to say that progress can be made, and once you get some distance from your nada,

it becomes easier to expect/require them to treat you at least civilly if they

want to be in your life.