+Re:why do I bother trying to explain??

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*Surviving the Borderline Parent* was the first book on BPD that I read... my

therapist gave it to me because she thought it described my situation eerily

well (dear goodness was she ever right). I'd also highly recommend it!

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> Rock on Fiona! I am in the same boat you're in and I've gotten statements

> like that. Actually, my father is the one saying " but she's your mother... "

> It is extremely frustrating indeed! Keep those boundaries going. Did you

> read Surviving the borderline parent? excellent read if you haven't. I am

> working so hard to reduce contact, which is what my therapist recommends as

> she's seen, I've seen and my husband has seen my depression and anxiety go

> up every time my contact w/ my mother (and now father) goes up. Then I'm

> left with feelings of guilt, obligation, shame as everyone here mentions.

> It's such a relief to find people going through the same thing!

> thanks for sharing

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> --

> --Sofia

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> " Live all you can

> it's a mistake not to.

> It doesn't so much matter

> what you do in particular,

> So long as you have had your life.

> If you haven't had that

> What have you had? "

> -Henry

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