Re: What to do? Advice needed...

[Guest guest]

Once, when I was away at grad school, my nada got a credit card from a clothing

store--in my name--and used it and paid it, as if it was hers--for several

years. It was from a clothing store she knew I did not care for at all. In her

sick mind, this was possibly retaliation for me being too 'separate' by not

liking the same clothes she did...or maybe she was feeling like merging because

she liked me that day...or maybe she was upset with me about something else, and

remembered I didn't like these clothes, so she wanted to punish me doubly...

I am not sure Lynette but I think this is also along the same lines of nadas

giving away our belongings without our consent (I went away to summer camp, she

gave away my BED and other furniture, I slept on a mattress for years; I went on

a high school trip, she sold my record collection at a garage sale)...

It obviously has something to do with nadas seeking to 'merge' and be actually

one with their children, but the details are eluding me at the moment...

Charlie

>

> I got the mail this morning. In it were three " plain white envelopes "

addressed to Nada at MY house. They look like bill collectors. At MY house!

Nada has never lived here. Nada has not lived with me since 1997 when I ended

THAT nightmare....

>

> But occasionally, over the years, she's used my address. I've never agreed to

this. However over the years I have found out, again via my mailbox, that she's

used my address with the following organizations: DMV, Social Security,

creditors, and these mysterious " others. " I've repeatedly called her out on

each and every one of them. But there seems to be no end to this.

>

> Now, while we all know she's moved repeatedly over the years - she HAS

maintained a po box (1 of 2) for 8 years. There is NO reason for her to be

using my address - especially against my wishes.

>

> She just hmmmmmmmmmm's and haaaaaaaaaaaaawwwwwwwwwwwwww's when I bring it up

and leaves me feeling like a bitch. I'm going to write " not at this address "

and " return to sender " (as I've done in the past) and hope that this gets

through to her... I dunno...

>

> Anyone... help... I feel like the constant " clean up crew " for a 63 year old

adolescent.

>

> Now... another Q (if you've read this far, thank you) - WHY WOULD SOMEONE USE

ANOTHER PERSON'S ADDRESS LIKE THIS???

>

> Thanks,

> Lynnette

>

[Guest guest]

Lynette, I think you're making the right choice. When mail is

incorrectly addressed, returning it to the sender is the right

thing to do. The fact that you know her real address doesn't

change that.

The main reason I can think of for someone to use anther

person's address is to avoid giving out their real address. If

she's doing that with the intention of not paying her bills,

that's called fraud.

At 02:33 PM 05/17/2010 yp_lynnette_cameron_park wrote:

>I got the mail this morning. In it were three " plain white

>envelopes " addressed to Nada at MY house. They look like bill

>collectors. At MY house! Nada has never lived here. Nada has

>not lived with me since 1997 when I ended THAT nightmare....

>

>But occasionally, over the years, she's used my address. I've

>never agreed to this. However over the years I have found out,

>again via my mailbox, that she's used my address with the

>following organizations: DMV, Social Security, creditors, and

>these mysterious " others. " I've repeatedly called her out on

>each and every one of them. But there seems to be no end to

>this.

>

>Now, while we all know she's moved repeatedly over the years -

>she HAS maintained a po box (1 of 2) for 8 years. There is NO

>reason for her to be using my address - especially against my

>wishes.

>

>She just hmmmmmmmmmm's and haaaaaaaaaaaaawwwwwwwwwwwwww's when

>I bring it up and leaves me feeling like a bitch. I'm going to

>write " not at this address " and " return to sender " (as I've

>done in the past) and hope that this gets through to her... I

>dunno...

>

>Anyone... help... I feel like the constant " clean up crew " for

>a 63 year old adolescent.

>

>Now... another Q (if you've read this far, thank you) - WHY

>WOULD SOMEONE USE ANOTHER PERSON'S ADDRESS LIKE THIS???

>

>Thanks,

>Lynnette

--

Katrina

[Guest guest]

Lynette - Why would she use your address? Because she's running some kind of

freakazoid Nada scam, or doesn't want the bill collectors finding her to

repossess her stuff, or...who knows? But you might want to order copies of your

credit report from all three agencies, or write to them and have them put a

letter in your file stating that she does NOT live there and that you are not

responsible for her debts, or something like that (I think in some places you

can publish such a notice in the county's newspaper of record for legal issues.)

I don't know what the repercussions for you might be, but I wouldn't trust her

any farther than I could throw her, if she's pulling stunts like this.

>

> I got the mail this morning. In it were three " plain white envelopes "

addressed to Nada at MY house. They look like bill collectors. At MY house!

Nada has never lived here. Nada has not lived with me since 1997 when I ended

THAT nightmare....

>

> But occasionally, over the years, she's used my address. I've never agreed to

this. However over the years I have found out, again via my mailbox, that she's

used my address with the following organizations: DMV, Social Security,

creditors, and these mysterious " others. " I've repeatedly called her out on

each and every one of them. But there seems to be no end to this.

>

> Now, while we all know she's moved repeatedly over the years - she HAS

maintained a po box (1 of 2) for 8 years. There is NO reason for her to be

using my address - especially against my wishes.

>

> She just hmmmmmmmmmm's and haaaaaaaaaaaaawwwwwwwwwwwwww's when I bring it up

and leaves me feeling like a bitch. I'm going to write " not at this address "

and " return to sender " (as I've done in the past) and hope that this gets

through to her... I dunno...

>

> Anyone... help... I feel like the constant " clean up crew " for a 63 year old

adolescent.

>

> Now... another Q (if you've read this far, thank you) - WHY WOULD SOMEONE USE

ANOTHER PERSON'S ADDRESS LIKE THIS???

>

> Thanks,

> Lynnette

>

[Guest guest]

Duh! Lynnette, for a Phd, you are so naive.

Why? So YOU have to deal with her shit. Fool her, Stick to your guns.

She doesnt live there. Return to sender, no such person at this address.

Or, if you want to be a real prime bitch, which you would never do,

return it with a note on the back giving her actual address.

LOL.

Friggin 63 yo 5 yo kids.

Amazing!

Doug

>

> I got the mail this morning. In it were three " plain white envelopes "

addressed to Nada at MY house. They look like bill collectors. At MY

house! Nada has never lived here. Nada has not lived with me since 1997

when I ended THAT nightmare....

>

> But occasionally, over the years, she's used my address. I've never

agreed to this. However over the years I have found out, again via my

mailbox, that she's used my address with the following organizations:

DMV, Social Security, creditors, and these mysterious " others. " I've

repeatedly called her out on each and every one of them. But there seems

to be no end to this.

>

> Now, while we all know she's moved repeatedly over the years - she HAS

maintained a po box (1 of 2) for 8 years. There is NO reason for her to

be using my address - especially against my wishes.

>

> She just hmmmmmmmmmm's and haaaaaaaaaaaaawwwwwwwwwwwwww's when I bring

it up and leaves me feeling like a bitch. I'm going to write " not at

this address " and " return to sender " (as I've done in the past) and hope

that this gets through to her... I dunno...

>

> Anyone... help... I feel like the constant " clean up crew " for a 63

year old adolescent.

>

> Now... another Q (if you've read this far, thank you) - WHY WOULD

SOMEONE USE ANOTHER PERSON'S ADDRESS LIKE THIS???

>

> Thanks,

> Lynnette

>

[Guest guest]

Ok... geez you guys... no mercy!

I wrote, " Not at this address. Return to sender " and threw them back in the

mailbox - flag UP!

I also spoke with my SO (an attorney) who said that because she has my address

listed as HERs with Social Security and DMV (state and federal agencies) this

could be federal mail fraud if I wanted to pursue it. Something to think about.

Also, I spoke with dad... guess what - HE GETS MAIL AT HIS HOUSE TOO - AND

COLLECTION CALLS LOOKING FOR HER....

Wow... is there NO low this woman won't slink to....

Lynnette - thank God I have a therapy appt on Wed.

>

> I got the mail this morning. In it were three " plain white envelopes "

addressed to Nada at MY house. They look like bill collectors. At MY house!

Nada has never lived here. Nada has not lived with me since 1997 when I ended

THAT nightmare....

>

> But occasionally, over the years, she's used my address. I've never agreed to

this. However over the years I have found out, again via my mailbox, that she's

used my address with the following organizations: DMV, Social Security,

creditors, and these mysterious " others. " I've repeatedly called her out on

each and every one of them. But there seems to be no end to this.

>

> Now, while we all know she's moved repeatedly over the years - she HAS

maintained a po box (1 of 2) for 8 years. There is NO reason for her to be

using my address - especially against my wishes.

>

> She just hmmmmmmmmmm's and haaaaaaaaaaaaawwwwwwwwwwwwww's when I bring it up

and leaves me feeling like a bitch. I'm going to write " not at this address "

and " return to sender " (as I've done in the past) and hope that this gets

through to her... I dunno...

>

> Anyone... help... I feel like the constant " clean up crew " for a 63 year old

adolescent.

>

> Now... another Q (if you've read this far, thank you) - WHY WOULD SOMEONE USE

ANOTHER PERSON'S ADDRESS LIKE THIS???

>

> Thanks,

> Lynnette

>

[Guest guest]

" Naive, " yes Doug... my therapist actually thinks the same thing. She's also

amazed I'm not jaded as hell.

I think I missed out sometimes...

Lynnette - Queen of the Understatement for a Monday

> >

> > I got the mail this morning. In it were three " plain white envelopes "

> addressed to Nada at MY house. They look like bill collectors. At MY

> house! Nada has never lived here. Nada has not lived with me since 1997

> when I ended THAT nightmare....

> >

> > But occasionally, over the years, she's used my address. I've never

> agreed to this. However over the years I have found out, again via my

> mailbox, that she's used my address with the following organizations:

> DMV, Social Security, creditors, and these mysterious " others. " I've

> repeatedly called her out on each and every one of them. But there seems

> to be no end to this.

> >

> > Now, while we all know she's moved repeatedly over the years - she HAS

> maintained a po box (1 of 2) for 8 years. There is NO reason for her to

> be using my address - especially against my wishes.

> >

> > She just hmmmmmmmmmm's and haaaaaaaaaaaaawwwwwwwwwwwwww's when I bring

> it up and leaves me feeling like a bitch. I'm going to write " not at

> this address " and " return to sender " (as I've done in the past) and hope

> that this gets through to her... I dunno...

> >

> > Anyone... help... I feel like the constant " clean up crew " for a 63

> year old adolescent.

> >

> > Now... another Q (if you've read this far, thank you) - WHY WOULD

> SOMEONE USE ANOTHER PERSON'S ADDRESS LIKE THIS???

> >

> > Thanks,

> > Lynnette

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Lynette,

That's exactly what I would do - " Return to sender - incorrect address " in BIG

RED letters, then back into the mail box.

At my house we get LOTS of phone calls for my brother-in-law from creditors &

banks. Obviously, he put our number down on some loan applications without our

permission. I always tell them " there is no one here by that name - you have

the wrong number. " If they continue to call, I get very nasty with them, ask to

speak with their supervisor and use the word " harassment " a lot. Usually that

does the trick.

Between the collection calls for my BIL, the telemarketers & my nada, I'm

thinking of getting rid of my phone line completely. Then I'll change my cell

number and only give it out to friends.

I would DEFINITELY check your credit reports - you can do it for free once per

year. Its a good thing to do anyhow. Don't want to find out that nada is doing

something that will screw up your credit.

-

> >

> > I got the mail this morning. In it were three " plain white envelopes "

addressed to Nada at MY house. They look like bill collectors. At MY house!

Nada has never lived here. Nada has not lived with me since 1997 when I ended

THAT nightmare....

> >

> > But occasionally, over the years, she's used my address. I've never agreed

to this. However over the years I have found out, again via my mailbox, that

she's used my address with the following organizations: DMV, Social Security,

creditors, and these mysterious " others. " I've repeatedly called her out on

each and every one of them. But there seems to be no end to this.

> >

> > Now, while we all know she's moved repeatedly over the years - she HAS

maintained a po box (1 of 2) for 8 years. There is NO reason for her to be

using my address - especially against my wishes.

> >

> > She just hmmmmmmmmmm's and haaaaaaaaaaaaawwwwwwwwwwwwww's when I bring it up

and leaves me feeling like a bitch. I'm going to write " not at this address "

and " return to sender " (as I've done in the past) and hope that this gets

through to her... I dunno...

> >

> > Anyone... help... I feel like the constant " clean up crew " for a 63 year old

adolescent.

> >

> > Now... another Q (if you've read this far, thank you) - WHY WOULD SOMEONE

USE ANOTHER PERSON'S ADDRESS LIKE THIS???

> >

> > Thanks,

> > Lynnette

> >

>

[Guest guest]

What a HUGE boundary violation. I would send it back to her creditors with her

current address, phone number, email, work address, and any other piece of

contact information (maybe an updated photo with the new eyelids?) that you can

think of.

Maybe work as a volunteer creditor?

In a mood today for some reason,

Tina

> > >

> > > I got the mail this morning. In it were three " plain white envelopes "

addressed to Nada at MY house. They look like bill collectors. At MY house!

Nada has never lived here. Nada has not lived with me since 1997 when I ended

THAT nightmare....

> > >

> > > But occasionally, over the years, she's used my address. I've never agreed

to this. However over the years I have found out, again via my mailbox, that

she's used my address with the following organizations: DMV, Social Security,

creditors, and these mysterious " others. " I've repeatedly called her out on

each and every one of them. But there seems to be no end to this.

> > >

> > > Now, while we all know she's moved repeatedly over the years - she HAS

maintained a po box (1 of 2) for 8 years. There is NO reason for her to be

using my address - especially against my wishes.

> > >

> > > She just hmmmmmmmmmm's and haaaaaaaaaaaaawwwwwwwwwwwwww's when I bring it

up and leaves me feeling like a bitch. I'm going to write " not at this address "

and " return to sender " (as I've done in the past) and hope that this gets

through to her... I dunno...

> > >

> > > Anyone... help... I feel like the constant " clean up crew " for a 63 year

old adolescent.

> > >

> > > Now... another Q (if you've read this far, thank you) - WHY WOULD SOMEONE

USE ANOTHER PERSON'S ADDRESS LIKE THIS???

> > >

> > > Thanks,

> > > Lynnette

> > >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Lynette - If she's using your address and your dad's in order to evade bill

collectors, and it qualifies as fraud, then you don't want to be an accessory.

If there's finally an arrest warrant issued, do you want the cops showing up at

your door because her driver's license lists your address?

Plus, just think - if she's in the Pen for a few years, you won't be getting

those visits, and even the phone calls will be limited. It's the ultimate LC!

> >

> > I got the mail this morning. In it were three " plain white envelopes "

addressed to Nada at MY house. They look like bill collectors. At MY house!

Nada has never lived here. Nada has not lived with me since 1997 when I ended

THAT nightmare....

> >

> > But occasionally, over the years, she's used my address. I've never agreed

to this. However over the years I have found out, again via my mailbox, that

she's used my address with the following organizations: DMV, Social Security,

creditors, and these mysterious " others. " I've repeatedly called her out on

each and every one of them. But there seems to be no end to this.

> >

> > Now, while we all know she's moved repeatedly over the years - she HAS

maintained a po box (1 of 2) for 8 years. There is NO reason for her to be

using my address - especially against my wishes.

> >

> > She just hmmmmmmmmmm's and haaaaaaaaaaaaawwwwwwwwwwwwww's when I bring it up

and leaves me feeling like a bitch. I'm going to write " not at this address "

and " return to sender " (as I've done in the past) and hope that this gets

through to her... I dunno...

> >

> > Anyone... help... I feel like the constant " clean up crew " for a 63 year old

adolescent.

> >

> > Now... another Q (if you've read this far, thank you) - WHY WOULD SOMEONE

USE ANOTHER PERSON'S ADDRESS LIKE THIS???

> >

> > Thanks,

> > Lynnette

> >

>