Re: Re: My grandmother is dying

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Hi ,

I am so sorry about your grandmother; but looks like it is her time. I truly

hope you are able to work out a way to be with her, and not have to be

over-aggravated by your mom.

Let us know how you are doing

~patricia

Re: My grandmother is dying

Thanks everybody.

Sad to say the improvement was a false alarm. The intestine is still really

dead, and they can't do anymore. I guess she perked up in the hospital because

of the painkillers and the IV fluids.

They are sending her home to die. They think she has maybe a week left.

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I'm so sorry for your loss....I just went through the nada drama whem my

father died in mid may...so I dont envy you that...glad your uncle warned

you about nada being there...

Jackie

Update: My grandma died on Monday. My uncle and aunt are taking care of

the funeral arrangements, buying her a dress, etc. My uncle said nada

showed up at the hospital for a final visit, and that she was walking the

halls, blabbing at my stepfather and waving her hands around like a lunatic.

He only shook their hands when he saw her! (I'm sure THAT went over well,

and she is fuming to everyone who will listen about " How I was treated, " and

" They don't love me, " and " They're leaving me out. " ) I wanted to go see my

grandma one more time on Sunday, but hearing that I'm glad I didn't. My

uncle called me on his cell to let me know nada was there, I think to warn

me off!

It's sad I couldn't go back one more time, but I got to see my grandma on

last Wednesday while she was still the most like her old self, and I said

all the things I most wanted her to hear. I think I knew then I'd never see

her again.

The funeral is tomorrow at 11. I said I wanted to go, and hubby already

took off work (I'd never go without him!), so I guess I'm going. I imagine

nada will be there. I don't know what to do, talk to her and hug her,

ignore her, or what? I sure as hell don't want to invite further contact

with her. All I need is her calling up here to complain about people again,

thinking all is forgiven. I hope she won't show up, but I don't think I'll

get that lucky.

I'll let you know how it goes. Thanks for the support on this thread.

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Hi ,

I am sorry to hear about your grandma; but I am so glad you got

to see her last week when she was with it; and you got to say what it

was you wanted to say. That is such a blessing for you.

Good luck with the funeral and your nada. Sorry you have to deal with

her at this kind of time. Stealing grief is one of those weird BPD traits

that really is messed up.

~patricia

Re: My grandmother is dying

Update: My grandma died on Monday. My uncle and aunt are taking care of the

funeral arrangements, buying her a dress, etc. My uncle said nada showed up at

the hospital for a final visit, and that she was walking the halls, blabbing at

my stepfather and waving her hands around like a lunatic. He only shook their

hands when he saw her! (I'm sure THAT went over well, and she is fuming to

everyone who will listen about " How I was treated, " and " They don't love me, "

and " They're leaving me out. " ) I wanted to go see my grandma one more time on

Sunday, but hearing that I'm glad I didn't. My uncle called me on his cell to

let me know nada was there, I think to warn me off!

It's sad I couldn't go back one more time, but I got to see my grandma on last

Wednesday while she was still the most like her old self, and I said all the

things I most wanted her to hear. I think I knew then I'd never see her again.

The funeral is tomorrow at 11. I said I wanted to go, and hubby already took

off work (I'd never go without him!), so I guess I'm going. I imagine nada will

be there. I don't know what to do, talk to her and hug her, ignore her, or

what? I sure as hell don't want to invite further contact with her. All I need

is her calling up here to complain about people again, thinking all is forgiven.

I hope she won't show up, but I don't think I'll get that lucky.

I'll let you know how it goes. Thanks for the support on this thread.

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Mother " (Lawson) and " Surviving the Borderline Parent, " (Roth) which you can

find at any bookstore. Welcome to the WTO community!

From Randi Kreger, Owner BPDCentral, WTO Online Community and author SWOE and

the SWOE Workbook.