Re: Home-based vs. school

[Guest guest]

Rose,

We spent more time/energy/money on IEPs and trying to enforce them than most

things we did for our daughter. Once she ahd the 'label' on record w the school,

there was no stopping the bias that she could NOT learn. This was a child who

taught herself to read at about age 3y-it took mom awhile to realize! After a

few years of frustration w the setting, I home schooled for a semester - fall of

fourth grade. It took awhile to get a routine. She was used to doing nothing. In

that short time, she was able to get up to speed. We went from no math on paper

to her learning adding/subtracting out to millions; multiplication/division to

x12. Reading/lang arts likewise. We found some very structured materials that

fit her style and she blossomed. It took far less time than a regular school

day. Her dad, a public school teacher, could not tolerate her leaving a system

in which he had great faith. Putting her back in the setting was a BIG mistake;

one of those if I had to do it over, I would NOT abandon her to the 'day care'

she experienced not to mention all the bullying and social isolation that came

her way. In our area, one can access services of the system w/o being there full

time i.e. speech therapy, pe, band and srchestra, sports, ot. It may be an

option to combine some of this under a specific IEP.

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> I was wondering if I could get some opinions. We have never done a formal home

based therapy program, my son was diagnosed at 2 1/2 and we started preschool at

age 3. He's now 7 and is still in the public school system. He made no progress

since starting at age 3. He is still non-verbal, still very aggressive, still

only glueing, cutting, painting, swinging in the OT room and taking walks in the

halls. Everytime I try to take him out everyone in our families has a fit, and

is disappointed in us. (I only care a little bit) But my husband is really

wanting to keep him in school too. He said he'll support whatever I choose, I

guess I can't really choose. I was wondering if you guys think that maybe a

home-based program would work better, since he's not distracted by sooooooo many

things, that really set him off! which is why he can't learn in my opinion. My

opinion is that school just isn't for everyone.

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> what do you guys do?

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> Rose

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[Guest guest]

I agree to do biomed but I neglected therapies after a couple of years of speech

and OT. 5 years of biomed later my son is still fairly low functioning so I

wish I would have done it all. Most kids are not going to recover, some will,

some won't, do as much as you can afford and handle biomedically and with

therapies.

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> > I was wondering if I could get some opinions. We have never done a formal

home based therapy program, my son was diagnosed at 2 1/2 and we started

preschool at age 3. He's now 7 and is still in the public school system. He made

no progress since starting at age 3. He is still non-verbal, still very

aggressive, still only glueing, cutting, painting, swinging in the OT room and

taking walks in the halls. Everytime I try to take him out everyone in our

families has a fit, and is disappointed in us. (I only care a little bit) But my

husband is really wanting to keep him in school too. He said he'll support

whatever I choose, I guess I can't really choose. I was wondering if you guys

think that maybe a home-based program would work better, since he's not

distracted by sooooooo many things, that really set him off! which is why he

can't learn in my opinion. My opinion is that school just isn't for everyone.

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> > what do you guys do?

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> > Rose

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