Re: Nada Reprieve til Sept.

[Guest guest]

Wonderful! Enjoy the time.

MY

On Fri, May 21, 2010 at 7:29 AM, my4fireflies wrote:

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> nada wrote me a letter in response to the one I sent her re: my suspicions

> of her BPD. She's going thru cancer treatment and doesn't think dealing with

> the stress of me is good for her. (Hallelujah!). Her treatment ends in Sept

> and if she is deemed cancer free she will consider " revisiting the issue "

> then. This is going to be THE BEST SUMMER OF MY LIFE. (36 yrs in the making!

> LOL!)

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[Guest guest]

Holy crap, are we related?

My step-nada was dx in Sept with breast cancer, I was the dutiful step child,

calling....sending care packages etc. But apparently I failed horribly when I

wanted clarification if they were coming for christmas, if we were going there

or not (husband was deployed and I wanted the kids to be with family,

mistakingly I wanted to be with MY family).

So, I got a letter from her in November saying that she didn't get cancer to

ruin my christmas. I told her she was being ludicris, to which I was told I

crossed a line and communication stopped.

I then got a three page letter detailing her horrific ordeal (she had a lump

removed and is cancer free now) and that her only female relative (me) failed

her miserably as a daughter and god help the world of they were made up of

people like me.

Haven't spoken to her since, and don't plan on it.

[Guest guest]

I'd be really surprised if she actually sticks to that.  If she's anything like

mine you are in for some attempts to pull you back in by either having some

crisis that only you can help, or  attack you in some way.  Mine would

probablly act real " normal " for awhile and try to convince me I'm silly, or

stupid for saying such a thing.  As you can see I haven't presented this to her

yet and am terrified to do so.  I read that I should not tell her about it, and

I'm hanging on to that right now.  I have too much to learn first.  If you do

get a reprieve for a while, enjoy! 

Subject: Nada Reprieve til Sept.

To: WTOAdultChildren1

Date: Friday, May 21, 2010, 2:29 PM

nada wrote me a letter in response to the one I sent her re: my suspicions of

her BPD. She's going thru cancer treatment and doesn't think dealing with the

stress of me is good for her. (Hallelujah!). Her treatment ends in Sept and if

she is deemed cancer free she will consider " revisiting the issue " then. This is

going to be THE BEST SUMMER OF MY LIFE. (36 yrs in the making! LOL!)

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