New Here with Something to Say

[Guest guest]

Hello Everybody and am I glad to be here!

I have been receiving digest versions from this terrific group at another

(non-Yahoo) address and finally set up an account so I could post. I am so glad

to have found you.

Just about three weeks ago, my therpist mentioned " borderline " regarding my

mother (I'm actually choking using the word mother), so I got online and did a

little research. Then I ordered Understanding the Borderline Mother " by C.

Lawson. I have just finished reading it. WELL!!! My fear has reduced by 99%. I

feel like a new person. I FEEL FREE.

Up until now, I did not understand how I only felt really " at home " with

holocaust survivors. (And I'm much younger than they are.) But they were the

people who understood the kind of pain and suffering I had been through. C.

Lawson put a context around my experience of feeling like a hunted animal, and a

boundary around the human beings who can make others feel that way. WHAT FREEDOM

to know that my experience was not random, not luck, and not uncontrollable. The

power of my parents (I choke using that word) has just been shrunk down to a

manageable, handleable size. I COULD DANCE AND SING!!!

I also know that I belong to a group of people (you all here) and you will

believe me. You had IT (a borderland childhood) happen to you too. There is

strength in numbers. There is hope. It's like my whole outlook on the world has

changed.

Thank you WTO and thanks to everybody who posts here and struggles for freedom.

I won't tell me story now. I just wanted to say thanks.

Sincerely,

Away From Borderland