Guest guest Posted June 2, 2010 Report Share Posted June 2, 2010 Now that I am NC, I am starting to rebuild my life and start to become a whole person. NC has really helped me rebuild my life and friendships as well as learn to forgive myself for allowing it to happen for so long. I am working on nada's " fleas " and wanted to know if anyone else has these: Defensive-I am always on the defense with people and find it hard to put my guard down. I find that whenever I am uncomfortable, it is when I am pushing past my safe zone Judgement- my nada was ALWAYS judging people. What they wore, how they spoke, who they married, how their kids behaved, etc. I find myself doing that sometimes. I notice that I do that, but, unlike my nada I don't cut them off immediately and at least give them a chance. Lack of compassion- I learned at a very young age that compassion and kindness in any form led to absolute humiliation and destruction. Now that I am separated from my nada, I find it hard to get the compassion back. Anyone else deal with this? Has anyone else overcame it? AJ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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