Re: Re: Therapy is paying off!

[Guest guest]

Wow, they really are crazies!!!  Your nada sounds so like my nada, i cannot

believe the similarities.

I am so glad that you never turned to alcohol or drugs, but how we all havent

managed to i dont know, its such a blessing though.

Have fun

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To: WTOAdultChildren1

Sent: Sun, June 13, 2010 7:06:02 PM

Subject: Re: Therapy is paying off!

 

I just spoke with dad... apparently he went off last night when he realized the

boys were gone... " She complains about not getting to spend time with him and

then when the time is available, she runs them off? REALLY? " I guess it went

downhill from there.

Oh, I really should start drinking.... as therapist has told me, " You'd be 100%

justified to be an alcoholic and/or junkie... how you managed to NOT go there is

something to be studied and bottled! "

Lynnette

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> Nada is crazy. I know this. I've learned to separate her actions from my

actions. I'm 'getting it. "

>

> But sometimes her CRAZY is crazy...

>

> Nada is in town for a week. She still stays at my dads.

>

> So.... My son and his BF have been hanging out since Friday with us... last

night they wanted to spend the night at my dads (better TV and snacks ;o) Dad

didn't care... he just made sure they had stuff for breakfast and all was cool.

The boys love hanging with him, he's the 'crazy vietman vet' guy everyone

loves...

>

> So him and I walk into the house, I said something funny (or so I thought) to

Nada, " Congratulations, you have TEENS! They're going to sleep in the living

room tonight... "

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> She turned around and glared at me then snarled. " I AM *NOT* GOING TO GET UP

AND MAKE THEM BREAKFAST!!!!!! "

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> I just stopped moving. Looked at her and realized - somehow - this was about

HER! No one asked her to make breakfast, no one said a word to her about

anything. Not her house, not her decision, not her anything. I walked out and

went to hang out with the boys.

>

> Eventually she came out and went waif. " Do they have sleeping bags? etc. etc. "

I said, " I'm pulling blankets off the spare bed, they're going to sleep out

here. We've done this before. They're fine. " Then she started crying and went

into " help me " mode. I just ignored her and refused to look at her. She stormed

off. A few minutes later and she was in the hall saying, " I need help with the

blankets... NOW! " I said, " I " ll get to it in a bit... don't worry about it. You

don't need to do anything. " 5 minutes later she's standing in front of the TV

with the blankets going on and on about where do I want these... etc. The boys

were watching a DR. Who marathon and were very annoyed at her for blocking the

TV but sorta stunned. I said, " just drop them, thank. " She then huffed back down

the hall. The boys looked at eachother and rolled their eyes and my son mouthed

to me, " She's crazy! "

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> So in the end they decided to change their minds and come home with me (better

sleeping accomodations and a pool for later today)... so we cleaned up and left

about 1/2 hour later. AFTER Nada announced she was " Unappreciated so she's going

to bed! "

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> I'd like to thank my therapist for getting me to the point to realize things

like this are just nuts! The created drama, the stress, the potential for

justifying what is and what she perceives. How somehow the act of two teens who

want to hang at grandpa's (and who have done this before with NO issues) is

suddenly a 'thing' when she's in town. I didn't react. I didn't engage. I didn't

do anything. But boy did she spin!

>

> Today is a family/friends dinner I'm hosting at a local restaurant for my

son's graduation. Otta be a blast. Pray for us!

>

> Lynnette - Leaving the Mad Hatter's Tea Party more and more...

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