Honor killing our souls/article by Judith Herman/**could trigger***

[Guest guest]

Here is an article I found and read recently by Judith Herman,author of Trauma

and Recovery,the seminal work on the importance of conceiving a coherent

naarative of one's own traumatic experience/s in order to achieve mastery of our

lives that have been shattered,shaped or warped by abuse.

This article details the " darkside " of other peoples' denial of our

victimization in the context of sexual abuse/sexual assault survivorship but I

think it is also relevant to the kind of denial/blame/shame we get from others

as KOs.It is about the dynamic of denial of victimization and blame of the

victim as a dishonoring of their experience.Reading this article,I was struck by

how similar this denial/shunning/shaming is to " honor killing " where the victim

of rape is killed for dishonoring her family for being victimized rather than

supported through her trauma and protected from her perp.

Warning: this article might be triggering--it is called " Justice from the

Victim's Perspective "

http://www.cha.harvard.edu/vov/publications/Justice%20from%20The%20Victims%20per\

spective.pdf