Careing for a Borderline with Dementia

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What I am finding extremely difficult in dealing with her now that she needs

care, is that I am so disgusted at her BPD antics.

I become irate watching her pull the same manipulative tricks on me that she did

when I was a child. Example; She wants constant attention. There is constant

attention seeking. I had locked the door between us having had enough one day.

She tantrums on the other side of the door pretending to cry and be so hurt.

I'm on the other side listening. But, I am not answering. She stops her

charade, and goes, " Oh,well. I guess she can't hear me. " Then, walks off as if

nothing is wrong.

I realize watching these manipulative behaviors that I believed her emotions

were real as a child. And she used them to tare me apart, to stifle my own

life experiences (stopping constantly to care for her) and get her own way and

attention. And I hate her for it.

I find myself more and more beligerent and frustrated. I was emotionally done

with her then. And now, I'm finding it impossible.

I'm finding the thoughts of her in a home easier to comprehend. Though, I don't

know how to afford it. And I find medicare doesn't want to help with anything.

If the person seems to have family care givers.