+Re:why do I bother trying to explain??

[Guest guest]

Rock on Fiona! I am in the same boat you're in and I've gotten statements

like that. Actually, my father is the one saying " but she's your mother... "

It is extremely frustrating indeed! Keep those boundaries going. Did you

read Surviving the borderline parent? excellent read if you haven't. I am

working so hard to reduce contact, which is what my therapist recommends as

she's seen, I've seen and my husband has seen my depression and anxiety go

up every time my contact w/ my mother (and now father) goes up. Then I'm

left with feelings of guilt, obligation, shame as everyone here mentions.

It's such a relief to find people going through the same thing!

thanks for sharing

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--Sofia

" Live all you can

it's a mistake not to.

It doesn't so much matter

what you do in particular,

So long as you have had your life.

If you haven't had that

What have you had? "

-Henry