Re: HUGE relief . A big heavy weight has been lifted

[Guest guest]

Fantastic, fantastic! Validation is pretty much the best thing ever because we

spend our whole lives being told that what we see and feel is wrong or distorted

or crazy. And half the time only the immediate family (or certain members of the

immediate family) can see what Nada truly is.

I commend you for being able to be open about your experience with your

therapist. I have a fear too that BPD would be easily dismissed by therapists.

My nada isn't officially diagnosed either. It's so so hard to diagnose a

high-functioning BPD because in THEIR mind, there's nothing wrong with them!

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> For the first time in my life I started to go to a therapist for other issues

not closely related to my nada. After a few sessions, the whole BPD and nada

came up. Mind that my nada has never been formally diagnosed (or at least not

to our knowledge).

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> So, with a lot of apprehension, I 'lay down my case'. I started by saying that

I strongly believe that my nada is BPD. The therapist seemed surprised at first

and then started to ask a lot of questions about her behavior. After about 10

minutes of me explaining nada's major 'episodes', she interrupts me and states

that there is no doubt in her mind that my mother has BPD.

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> I am so relieved: sure enough, I was nervous that the therapist 1) would not

believe me and 2) would dismiss my convictions about nada as a gross

exageration, or not serious enough for such a 'diagnosis'.

>

> But, she actually confirmed what I have believed for the past few years (well

it took me about 40 years to discover that nada's behaviour actually has a

name!). It was a huge turning point. Deep inside I knew that nada had the

disorder, but hearing from a professional psychotherapist has been very, very

important.

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> Validation, validation!

>

[Guest guest]

That's wonderful! To finally have a professional tell you that your right and

there is something truelly going on, just to hear someone say that your not the

crazy one. I'm happy for you!

Steph

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> For the first time in my life I started to go to a therapist for other issues

not closely related to my nada. After a few sessions, the whole BPD and nada

came up. Mind that my nada has never been formally diagnosed (or at least not

to our knowledge).

>

> So, with a lot of apprehension, I 'lay down my case'. I started by saying that

I strongly believe that my nada is BPD. The therapist seemed surprised at first

and then started to ask a lot of questions about her behavior. After about 10

minutes of me explaining nada's major 'episodes', she interrupts me and states

that there is no doubt in her mind that my mother has BPD.

>

> I am so relieved: sure enough, I was nervous that the therapist 1) would not

believe me and 2) would dismiss my convictions about nada as a gross

exageration, or not serious enough for such a 'diagnosis'.

>

> But, she actually confirmed what I have believed for the past few years (well

it took me about 40 years to discover that nada's behaviour actually has a

name!). It was a huge turning point. Deep inside I knew that nada had the

disorder, but hearing from a professional psychotherapist has been very, very

important.

>

> Validation, validation!

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