Person withdrawal symptoms...

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Does anyone know the difference of withdrawing from an unhealthy person as to a

healthy person?

I am not exactly withdrawing. We just got out of touch. Mostly because they are

extremely busy I guess.

However, after not seeing them for awhile I think I realized that I was enmeshed

with them when we were hanging out.

I felt desperately alone when they weren't around or when I didn't see them for

awhile. Later, I felt kind of angry since they did not try to reach me even

though I tried reaching them a few times. I got slightly depressed, but it was

also due to my many life stressed. Most of which have improved much lately and I

am getting myself out there to meet more people.

Now, when I think about it, I remember the last few times I hung out with them I

got a slightly uncomfortable feeling when I was around them. Not sure why. I

think it's because when they did contact me, the contacting was random sometimes

or when they needed a shoulder to cry on so to speak (or someone to listen to

their problems).

I do this to, and I'm trying to get better at listening intently to others, and

opening up slowly rather than dumping my problems on people. So I know I am also

a guilty party for this...

I decided to shoot the breeze one last time and I was sure I wasn't angry or

disappointed any more. I gave a one line email to check in, but i found they

never responded.

This time, I didn't get sad or angry or disappointed. I felt sick and I felt

like gagging. I am not sure why. They only other times I felt this way was when

I was withdrawing from 2 unhealthy relationships from my past where the person

was dependent on me for emotional support, but it was manipulative and one

sided.

I dont consider this person manipulative. However, maybe the relationship began

un-healthfully ( I think we may have both been enmeshed), and so that is why.

Not sure.

Any thoughts or comments?

-Joy