Surviving a mother with BPD

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I'm a 48-year-old female who just lost my only brother at 51 to suicide. We were

both raised by a high-functioning BPD, she literally drove him to suicide with

her constant barrage of negativity and abuse. Our childhood was a miserable one

of physical, emotional and verbal abuse with the emotional and verbal abuse

continuing on into our adulthood. I just recently read 'Stop Walking on

Eggshells' and was relieved to finally put a name on what my mother has. Since

my brother's death 4 months ago, my mother began lashing out at me. I have cut

all ties with her and am working in therapy on setting up healthy boundaries

with both my parents (my dad is the enabler, who willingly allowed us to suffer

at her hand to have peace himself), but don't even know if having a healthy

relationship with someone so sick is even possible. She doesn't see the damage

she caused, even when my brother told her that she was the cause of most of his

misery and told her that what he was about to do was all on her and then killed

himself. She's in denial about it. Though I've lived this life since birth, this

is all so new to me...I'm looking for support from others who have been raised

by high-functioning BPD's or who have lost someone they love to suicide as a

result of a BPD in their life. I'm feeling pretty lonely and scared right now.

Life seems pretty daunting, but I know I'm healthy enough to get through this

with the right support system. Meeting others in my situation would aid me

greatly in my recovery from this nightmare. I have such empathy for all of you

sufferers and especially to the children of BPD's, it's a horrible way to be

raised and it makes life more difficult.