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I have recently been thinking that my Aunt may have a personality disorder such

as Borderline, Narcissistic or Obsessive Compulsive. She does not seem to fit

any of these descriptions completely. She is a therapist herself, although

unlicensed, and has been active in her own healing process with others but

mostly alone over the years. She takes more of a spiritual/shamanic approach to

healing herself and others. I believe she is a very skilled healer but I also

think she is not capable of healing herself at this time. She had a very

difficult childhood with a likely narcissistic and/or borderline mother and a

depressed father who killed himself when she was 16.

We have been extremely close in my adulthood and she has played the role of my

therapist, friend, mentor, teacher and support person consistently for the past

15 years. She has had difficult relationships with her siblings throughout her

life and had a very challenging relationship with her mother who died at 96 in

2004.

She is in crisis financially right now and emotionally/psychically dealing with

the many crisis that are happening in the world. She is frustrated with her

friendships and pushing them away and she is convinced no one is there for her

although people have been trying to support her. She is planning to move out of

her home into a van as she cannot afford her rent and expenses anymore. She has

been talking about committing suicide when the world totally falls apart. She is

70 years old, been single for many years and has one daughter in Germany she has

a very strained relationship with. She is very brilliant and sensitive and she

is adamantly against the western medical model of psychiatry and psychotropic

medications.

She is lashing out at me as I am facing the reality of what is going on and

confronting her and trying to intervene to help her in some way. She is being

extremely emotionally erratic and very manipulative, cruel, unreasonable and

irrational in her communications with me and seems to not trust anyone nor feel

anyone can give her what she wants. She is full of rage and pain and wants to

run away from the human society completely.

I am going to see her next week, she lives about 2 hours from me. I have alerted

her family and friends who I have contact information for from her Will and am

asking for them to reach out to her and help me to help her find a good solution

to her financial crisis. I doubt she will consider getting any professional help

but I will ask her to.

I do not want to contact authorities nor have her hospitalized against her will,

but I also can't stand to see her suffer like this.

Any help or suggestions are appreciated.

Eve