Re: I am not crazy. I am not crazy. I am not crazy.

[Guest guest]

Ah, the powers of insane denial.

You are not crazy. You are not crazy. You are not crazy.

Pretty freaky to see crazy like that up close and personal in your own car,

though, huh?

>

> Nada's in town, again. I had to drive her to a Dr. appt. Long twisted

history.

>

> Conversation on the way home.

>

> N: I've been so sad and stressed out that I just can't see straight.

>

> L: (silence)

>

> N: Well... my friend B told me he was on the porch with his 21 year old

daughter and gave her a pinch of dope to smoke with him.

>

> L: Oh.

>

> N: Well, I can't sleep since he told me that. WHAT HORRIBLE PARENTS EXPOSES

THEIR CHILD TO POT? I mean I can see if the child is 40 and knows their parent

needs it for back or arthritis (Nada is currently getting a medical M. card for

'back issues') but really? A 21 YEAR OLD? That's just horrible!!!!

>

> I bit my tongue.

>

> I am not crazy. But I sure as #%@#$ wanna call my therapist!

>

> Lynnette - exposed to Nada's drug and alcohol since I was 4.

>

[Guest guest]

It's going to be ok Lynette. Nada's crazy. Here's a brownie. lol

>

> Nada's in town, again. I had to drive her to a Dr. appt. Long twisted

history.

>

> Conversation on the way home.

>

> N: I've been so sad and stressed out that I just can't see straight.

>

> L: (silence)

>

> N: Well... my friend B told me he was on the porch with his 21 year old

daughter and gave her a pinch of dope to smoke with him.

>

> L: Oh.

>

> N: Well, I can't sleep since he told me that. WHAT HORRIBLE PARENTS EXPOSES

THEIR CHILD TO POT? I mean I can see if the child is 40 and knows their parent

needs it for back or arthritis (Nada is currently getting a medical M. card for

'back issues') but really? A 21 YEAR OLD? That's just horrible!!!!

>

> I bit my tongue.

>

> I am not crazy. But I sure as #%@#$ wanna call my therapist!

>

> Lynnette - exposed to Nada's drug and alcohol since I was 4.

>

[Guest guest]

yes, I've had very sinilar things...only it was nada and me witnissing a

mohter hitting her child in a parking lot..and nada gets all upset about

that " poor child " to have such a terrible mother !!! HELLO ???? nada has

done much worse to her own children !!

Jackie

Nada's in town, again. I had to drive her to a Dr. appt. Long twisted

history.

Conversation on the way home.

N: I've been so sad and stressed out that I just can't see straight.

L: (silence)

N: Well... my friend B told me he was on the porch with his 21 year old

daughter and gave her a pinch of dope to smoke with him.

L: Oh.

N: Well, I can't sleep since he told me that. WHAT HORRIBLE PARENTS

EXPOSES THEIR CHILD TO POT? I mean I can see if the child is 40 and knows

their parent needs it for back or arthritis (Nada is currently getting a

medical M. card for 'back issues') but really? A 21 YEAR OLD? That's just

horrible!!!!

I bit my tongue.

I am not crazy. But I sure as #%@#$ wanna call my therapist!

Lynnette - exposed to Nada's drug and alcohol since I was 4.

[Guest guest]

Do as I say, not as I do. That seems to be a common nada way of

thinking. Either they don't see how much their behavior is like

the behavior they criticize in others or they think they're

somehow special and allowed to behave differently. If they hit

their child, it is for a good reason. If they expose their

children to problem drinking and drug use what they're doing

isn't harmful unlike what other parents do. If they neglect

their child to run around with various men, they're entitled to

have a life and not be lonely. And so on and so forth.

At 07:51 AM 06/24/2010 sleddog wrote:

>yes, I've had very sinilar things...only it was nada and me

>witnissing a

>mohter hitting her child in a parking lot..and nada gets all

>upset about

>that " poor child " to have such a terrible mother !!! HELLO

>???? nada has

>done much worse to her own children !!

>

>

>Jackie

--

Katrina

[Guest guest]

I remember having these very conversations with my father about my mother.

She got pregnant before she was married (at 17) and yet I was " whoring

around " when I moved in with the man I have now been married to for 15 years.

My mother lied and told people she had leukemia for months and yet " I " am a

pathological liar. My mother ran off to get married to a man she barely

knew, but I was a horrible person for moving 280 miles away and " leaving her. "

The lists are endless. And it's frustrating to no end to try to get

through to them what they're doing. They just can't (or won't) see it.

In a message dated 6/24/2010 9:52:53 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time,

kk1raven@... writes:

Do as I say, not as I do. That seems to be a common nada way of

thinking. Either they don't see how much their behavior is like

the behavior they criticize in others or they think they're

somehow special and allowed to behave differently. If they hit

their child, it is for a good reason. If they expose their

children to problem drinking and drug use what they're doing

isn't harmful unlike what other parents do. If they neglect

their child to run around with various men, they're entitled to

have a life and not be lonely. And so on and so forth.

At 07:51 AM 06/24/2010 sleddog wrote:

>yes, I've had very sinilar things...only it was nada and me

>witnissing a

>mohter hitting her child in a parking lot..and nada gets all

>upset about

>that " poor child " to have such a terrible mother !!! HELLO

>???? nada has

>done much worse to her own children !!

>

>

>Jackie

--

Katrina

[Guest guest]

no, you are not crazy.

My nada used to listen to Dr. , (those who not familiar with her she was a

psychologist who had a radio show broadcast in my area, don't know if she still

does) and my nada would tell me about some of the callers and would say, " why

don't these people see how ridiculous they are and take Dr. 's advice " . It

took me all my strength to sit there and nod in agreement with her all the while

thinking, " you should be gaining some perspective lady! "

That was of course before I truly realized my nada is ill, but still.

*sigh*

> >yes, I've had very sinilar things...only it was nada and me

> >witnissing a

> >mohter hitting her child in a parking lot..and nada gets all

> >upset about

> >that " poor child " to have such a terrible mother !!! HELLO

> >???? nada has

> >done much worse to her own children !!

> >

> >

> >Jackie

>

> --

> Katrina

>

[Guest guest]

> >

> > Lynnette - exposed to Nada's drug and alcohol since I was 4.

> >

>

These people are amazing. They certainly are.

((((Lynnette))))

[Guest guest]

This shows my evil side a little. One of my favorite things to do with my nada

is tell her about a situation when someone does something she has commonly done

over the years and express my honest opinion of that persons behavior. She will

always agree with me and quickly go into a long speech about how she would not

do such a thing and why. I get a kick out of it.

>

> Nada's in town, again. I had to drive her to a Dr. appt. Long twisted

history.

>

> Conversation on the way home.

>

> N: I've been so sad and stressed out that I just can't see straight.

>

> L: (silence)

>

> N: Well... my friend B told me he was on the porch with his 21 year old

daughter and gave her a pinch of dope to smoke with him.

>

> L: Oh.

>

> N: Well, I can't sleep since he told me that. WHAT HORRIBLE PARENTS EXPOSES

THEIR CHILD TO POT? I mean I can see if the child is 40 and knows their parent

needs it for back or arthritis (Nada is currently getting a medical M. card for

'back issues') but really? A 21 YEAR OLD? That's just horrible!!!!

>

> I bit my tongue.

>

> I am not crazy. But I sure as #%@#$ wanna call my therapist!

>

> Lynnette - exposed to Nada's drug and alcohol since I was 4.

>

[Guest guest]

Sane is highly overrated.

You are not crazy.

And you are not responsible for how crazy she is.

RESIST ....don t try to teach a pig to sing or a BP not to deny. It

wastes your time and annoys them.

Doug

>

> Nada's in town, again. I had to drive her to a Dr. appt. Long twisted

history.

>

> Conversation on the way home.

>

> N: I've been so sad and stressed out that I just can't see straight.

>

> L: (silence)

>

> N: Well... my friend B told me he was on the porch with his 21 year

old daughter and gave her a pinch of dope to smoke with him.

>

> L: Oh.

>

> N: Well, I can't sleep since he told me that. WHAT HORRIBLE PARENTS

EXPOSES THEIR CHILD TO POT? I mean I can see if the child is 40 and

knows their parent needs it for back or arthritis (Nada is currently

getting a medical M. card for 'back issues') but really? A 21 YEAR OLD?

That's just horrible!!!!

>

> I bit my tongue.

>

> I am not crazy. But I sure as #%@#$ wanna call my therapist!

>

> Lynnette - exposed to Nada's drug and alcohol since I was 4.

>

[Guest guest]

LOL I do the same thing Wendi

> >

> > Nada's in town, again. I had to drive her to a Dr. appt. Long twisted

history.

> >

> > Conversation on the way home.

> >

> > N: I've been so sad and stressed out that I just can't see straight.

> >

> > L: (silence)

> >

> > N: Well... my friend B told me he was on the porch with his 21 year old

daughter and gave her a pinch of dope to smoke with him.

> >

> > L: Oh.

> >

> > N: Well, I can't sleep since he told me that. WHAT HORRIBLE PARENTS

EXPOSES THEIR CHILD TO POT? I mean I can see if the child is 40 and knows their

parent needs it for back or arthritis (Nada is currently getting a medical M.

card for 'back issues') but really? A 21 YEAR OLD? That's just horrible!!!!

> >

> > I bit my tongue.

> >

> > I am not crazy. But I sure as #%@#$ wanna call my therapist!

> >

> > Lynnette - exposed to Nada's drug and alcohol since I was 4.

> >

>

[Guest guest]

I like your post so much Lynette! Ahhhhh, about to see my mother for a solid 6

days, driving in a car together for 11 hours, feeling a bit scared about that.

We live in different states, my doing, see eachother about 2x a year. Both of

us can barely make 4 days together. She claims she misses me so much but yet

seems to barely be able to stand me. Anyway. I wish it was different between

us. Maybe one day I will have accumulated enough skills to be able to be around

her for longer than 4 days and not be saying in my head..... I am not crazy. I

am not crazy. I am not crazy.

Thanks again Lynette!

~Aimee~

To: WTOAdultChildren1

From: melreb@...

Date: Fri, 2 Jul 2010 15:00:17 +0000

Subject: Re: I am not crazy. I am not crazy. I am not crazy.

LOL I do the same thing Wendi

> >

> > Nada's in town, again. I had to drive her to a Dr. appt. Long twisted

history.

> >

> > Conversation on the way home.

> >

> > N: I've been so sad and stressed out that I just can't see straight.

> >

> > L: (silence)

> >

> > N: Well... my friend B told me he was on the porch with his 21 year old

daughter and gave her a pinch of dope to smoke with him.

> >

> > L: Oh.

> >

> > N: Well, I can't sleep since he told me that. WHAT HORRIBLE PARENTS EXPOSES

THEIR CHILD TO POT? I mean I can see if the child is 40 and knows their parent

needs it for back or arthritis (Nada is currently getting a medical M. card for

'back issues') but really? A 21 YEAR OLD? That's just horrible!!!!

> >

> > I bit my tongue.

> >

> > I am not crazy. But I sure as #%@#$ wanna call my therapist!

> >

> > Lynnette - exposed to Nada's drug and alcohol since I was 4.

> >

>

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[Guest guest]

this whole thing with my SIL's & brother's kids is in part because of how SIL

singles out one of her children and favors the other and parental unit female

says it just 'breaks my heart' all the time. it's a tough nut to swallow

considering my fada singled me out all through my childhood and my mother told

me it was my fault because I was such a rotten kid. and I am her least favorite

child as well.

it definitely puts me in the questioning mode of 'am I crazy?' why does this

bother her now, it didn't bother her when it was happening to me. sometimes I

get this evil feeling of saying 'just tell yourself child x deserves it, that's

what you did with me and it seemed to work well then'. I am as grieved as she is

about this situation and i empathize *because* of what I went through. it is

beyond ironic to watch her act like it is the most horrible thing in the world

for a child to be singled out and treated less favorably after what they put me

through as a child. I don't bring it up because it isn't helping anything

currently but it really gripes me.

>

> Nada's in town, again. I had to drive her to a Dr. appt. Long twisted

history.

>

> Conversation on the way home.

>

> N: I've been so sad and stressed out that I just can't see straight.

>

> L: (silence)

>

> N: Well... my friend B told me he was on the porch with his 21 year old

daughter and gave her a pinch of dope to smoke with him.

>

> L: Oh.

>

> N: Well, I can't sleep since he told me that. WHAT HORRIBLE PARENTS EXPOSES

THEIR CHILD TO POT? I mean I can see if the child is 40 and knows their parent

needs it for back or arthritis (Nada is currently getting a medical M. card for

'back issues') but really? A 21 YEAR OLD? That's just horrible!!!!

>

> I bit my tongue.

>

> I am not crazy. But I sure as #%@#$ wanna call my therapist!

>

> Lynnette - exposed to Nada's drug and alcohol since I was 4.

>