Guest guest Posted June 22, 2010 Report Share Posted June 22, 2010 Proflaf - When dealing with the boss about people at work, I would suggest trying to be as much like Science Officer Spock as possible. Keep emotions out of it, present ONLY the business problem or issue at hand, be sure you have a reasonable proposal to remedy the situation, and couch everything in terms of business ethics, profitability, serving the client, etc. That makes the boss look at you as a reasonable, valuable employee, rather than somebody who has " personality conflicts. " The talk with the boss is never, ever the place to vent. Do that in the car on the way home, or in the elevator (if there's no video camera going to the security desk). You probably already know all this. Main thing - don't let a crazy co-worker make you look like the crazy one. Good luck with the conference! > > I've been smelling BP on one of my coworkers, have for quite a while and for a long time a lot of her shit was dealable, lately she's been better since I snapped my little head off at her and let her know she was not in charge. Woudln't be as big a problem if we didn't have someone else to consider. Kinda one of those she's causing a lot of the problems, wanting things that ain't hers and I have a feeling if she gets her way on this one issue she will change her mind again. I'm going to the boss to discuss the issues, not bringing up I think she's a BP you know what, but that this is what she wants, here are my solutions to the problem. What do you think/do you want to talk with her about it because I want her to underatansd you made a decision you stick with it like an adult, not change you mind like a little kid. > proflaf1 > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 22, 2010 Report Share Posted June 22, 2010 Good point, luckily I can talk to the boss like officer spock, management however is a pain in the butt. Sometimes she allows feelings into the picture way too much. I know I got emotional once when I yelled at this woman, however since I yelled at her she's been behaving herself. One of those she pulled the feelings card and I had to say look you have to look at everyone else in this buildings feelings not just your own. Earlier in the week I had called her out for snapping at another employee and she was crying the 'you hurt my feelings' well tough consider my feelings of anger when you act like an idiot and waste company time if you're going to talk and respect feelings instead of officer spock's most productive way of getting things done. And why is it that BPs always manage to push feelings as facts, this one does, she is always crying 'it's not fair' when she gets her way as much as the other person if not more. And what was pathetic was at the confrontation with the coworker she looked at managment like nada did to the therapist but that's how it feels and managment and I were saying sorry not reality sista. Managment and I have spoken and she is definately a troublemaker and probably hating that i've been putting my foot down with her. Grrrrrrrrrr, that's why I'm waiting until friday to address the situation when neither of the other two parties are there and I can talk without being interrrupted to the boss and put in my two cents. proflaf Subject: Re: Coworkers To: WTOAdultChildren1 Date: Tuesday, June 22, 2010, 4:44 PM  Proflaf - When dealing with the boss about people at work, I would suggest trying to be as much like Science Officer Spock as possible. Keep emotions out of it, present ONLY the business problem or issue at hand, be sure you have a reasonable proposal to remedy the situation, and couch everything in terms of business ethics, profitability, serving the client, etc. That makes the boss look at you as a reasonable, valuable employee, rather than somebody who has " personality conflicts. " The talk with the boss is never, ever the place to vent. Do that in the car on the way home, or in the elevator (if there's no video camera going to the security desk). You probably already know all this. Main thing - don't let a crazy co-worker make you look like the crazy one. Good luck with the conference! > > I've been smelling BP on one of my coworkers, have for quite a while and for a long time a lot of her shit was dealable, lately she's been better since I snapped my little head off at her and let her know she was not in charge. Woudln't be as big a problem if we didn't have someone else to consider. Kinda one of those she's causing a lot of the problems, wanting things that ain't hers and I have a feeling if she gets her way on this one issue she will change her mind again. I'm going to the boss to discuss the issues, not bringing up I think she's a BP you know what, but that this is what she wants, here are my solutions to the problem. What do you think/do you want to talk with her about it because I want her to underatansd you made a decision you stick with it like an adult, not change you mind like a little kid. > proflaf1 > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 23, 2010 Report Share Posted June 23, 2010 I think there's sort of a " click " when management or HR realizes they're dealing with this type of immature whiner. They go into full, formal, policy handbook behavior. While the rules are sometimes a minor pain in the patootie for most of us, we can work together, get along, strive to reach the same client service goals, and not cite regulations for every freaking thing. But the co-workers who insist on making everything about " fairness " and their feelings - force colleagues and bosses to resort to bureaucratic formality. That's not to say that there aren't real episodes of unfairness in nearly every work place - but once an employee has been identified as a crazymaker, their credibility is shot, and every interaction with them is done in lawsuit-prevention mode. And nobody ever misses them when they finally quit. It's too much trouble to fool with 'em when we're trying to get our day's work done. > > > > > > I've been smelling BP on one of my coworkers, have for quite a while and for a long time a lot of her shit was dealable, lately she's been better since I snapped my little head off at her and let her know she was not in charge. Woudln't be as big a problem if we didn't have someone else to consider. Kinda one of those she's causing a lot of the problems, wanting things that ain't hers and I have a feeling if she gets her way on this one issue she will change her mind again. I'm going to the boss to discuss the issues, not bringing up I think she's a BP you know what, but that this is what she wants, here are my solutions to the problem. What do you think/do you want to talk with her about it because I want her to underatansd you made a decision you stick with it like an adult, not change you mind like a little kid. > > > proflaf1 > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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