Guest guest Posted June 14, 2010 Report Share Posted June 14, 2010 Thanks so much. I feel like therapy has hurt me more than helped too. I succeed in getting to attached to a therapist and the money is crazy expensive. Plus, my therapist really hasn't helped me much. It sucks. I want to give up on it. In a message dated 6/14/2010 9:36:26 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time, themoorepod@... writes: , I am sorry therapy isn't helping you. I have made many phone calls hoping to find therapy for myself, but it never works out. It's unbelievably expensive and because we live in a rural area, I would have to drive quite a bit and then have the gas expense, etc. I also fear getting a therapist that doesn't understand why I am NC and I feel that would be more harmful to me than helpful. I hope you can find some peace somehow. le > > I have posted here before about my therapy issues and I am considering > stopping altogether. In fact, I have taken the summer off of therapy. > > My therapist is not helping me. I mean, she is really, really not helping > me. She is a great marriage counselor, but not so great in dealing with me, > the daughter of a borderline. > > Then I started going to another therapist in February while mine was on > medical leave. I thought she was going to be less expensive, but she is > actually costing me more because she believes in so many freaking hours of > therapy. She wants me there 4 hours a week and I can't afford it. She won't go > down on the hours. > > So I am either paying for a therapist that can't help me or one I really > can't afford. > > > I'm stuck and I'm not doing okay lately. I'm just really down a rabbit hole > and can't dig myself out. I'm not ready for summer -- or anything that > involves me without Kleenex. > > > > [Non-text portions of this message have been removed] > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 14, 2010 Report Share Posted June 14, 2010 Thanks. I think I am going to go back to my pastoral counselor. Actually, I officially have an appt. with her tomorrow night at 6:30 that I literally just made 10 minutes ago. We'll see how it goes. She knows me better than anyone. I miss my therapist. The newer therapist I had been seeing was okay, but I didn't have a real connection with her. I'm so sick and tired of dealing with this stuff. I am sooooo ready for it to not affect my life anymore. I just want to be a normal person. In a message dated 6/14/2010 11:40:19 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time, elora_jade@... writes: Hmmmm, yeah. Switch. Therapists all tend to specialize in various areas of practice. This woman, she's an ass to not see that there is no forward movement with your therapy, and 4 hours? Are you in danger of hurting yourself or are going through some really traumatic stuff? Cause thats unreasonable. Even if you WERE going through something traumatic, I could see maybe 2 sessions per week. But 4? Fuck that. Does she think a money tree is growing in your backyard? The thing with therapy, is that it's an active session, and you really NEED the downtime until the next appointment to process the session. When I was doing therapy regularly, it would often be 2-3 days later and something he said would " click " and I'd replay part of the session and apply it to my past/present and go.....OHHHHH! THAT is good therapy. Try the APA.org website to see if there are some new therapists in your area. You can also call them directly, and either talk to the secretary or talk to the psychologist themself. If they don't have time for you, move on. Find out if they have experience working with BPDs or kids of. If they don;t know what you're talking about, move on. > > I have posted here before about my therapy issues and I am considering > stopping altogether. In fact, I have taken the summer off of therapy. > > My therapist is not helping me. I mean, she is really, really not helping > me. She is a great marriage counselor, but not so great in dealing with me, > the daughter of a borderline. > > Then I started going to another therapist in February while mine was on > medical leave. I thought she was going to be less expensive, but she is > actually costing me more because she believes in so many freaking hours of > therapy. She wants me there 4 hours a week and I can't afford it. She won't go > down on the hours. > > So I am either paying for a therapist that can't help me or one I really > can't afford. > > > I'm stuck and I'm not doing okay lately. I'm just really down a rabbit hole > and can't dig myself out. I'm not ready for summer -- or anything that > involves me without Kleenex. > > > > [Non-text portions of this message have been removed] > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 14, 2010 Report Share Posted June 14, 2010 Well, she recommended someone to me in my county, but I have heard some not-so-great things about it. I have DID, so I have to see someone who knows about it. My current therapist has been clueless on how to treat me. I'll eventually look around for a therapist again. For now, I'm just going to stick with the pastoral counselor and see how things go. She's got experience in DID and she is a very nice person -- I love her dearly and she truly cares about me. Maybe I shouldn't have left her, I dunno. I was just so lost at the time I went to see my current therapist and really hoping she could help me. She couldn't. I'm just.....in freakout mode today, I guess. A whole lot overwhelmed. I appreciate all of you and online support is really nice, but I so wish I had some offline support too. I feel all alone. In a message dated 6/14/2010 12:12:15 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time, tina_newton@... writes: , Have you considered Al Anon meetings? I'm told they delve into issues that are incredibly similar to what we face, and in a group meeting. Al Anon I believe is for children of alcoholics. There are some that are more specialized I think for some of our issues, but I'm not sure where you are and how available those would be, but Al Anon is fairly common.... and FREE. I bet it at least helps. And I have to wonder if there is not some form of financial assistance that could help you? You could ask the therapist who wants 4 hours a week from you what sorts of financial assistance programs are out there. It couldn't hurt. Both my cents, Tina > > that's awful that the new therapist wont let you come whatever hours YOU > want !! that's crazy for her to insider no less then 4 hours, certainly she > should understand most of us aren't made of money and most of us have crappy > insurance that wont pay a lot... > > Jackie > > > > > I have posted here before about my therapy issues and I am considering > stopping altogether. In fact, I have taken the summer off of therapy. > > My therapist is not helping me. I mean, she is really, really not helping > me. She is a great marriage counselor, but not so great in dealing with me, > the daughter of a borderline. > > Then I started going to another therapist in February while mine was on > medical leave. I thought she was going to be less expensive, but she is > actually costing me more because she believes in so many freaking hours of > therapy. She wants me there 4 hours a week and I can't afford it. She won't > go > down on the hours. > > So I am either paying for a therapist that can't help me or one I really > can't afford. > > > I'm stuck and I'm not doing okay lately. I'm just really down a rabbit hole > and can't dig myself out. I'm not ready for summer -- or anything that > involves me without Kleenex. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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