Re: My neighbor is a psycho

[Guest guest]

- She's just a crazy old lady who dresses like a pimp. Your neighbors

probably already figured that out, and that's why they're shunning her. You can

either choose to ignore her overtures or keep trying, and decide to appreciate

her as a source of entertainment. And just think! If your family comes to

visit and you want to run them off, you can introduce her to them!

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> I have been working on being more assertive and I think many of us have

problems with that. I am completely dumbfounded by my new neighbor, though, and

am not sure how to approach her the next time I see her.

>

> I live in a luxury high rise building and most of the residents are very

discrete. This woman, however, is not. My first thought when I saw her in our

lobby: Why on earth did the doormen let in a pimp?

>

> Seriously. She had the hat, cane, and fur coat. The building has just opened a

sundeck on the roof with beach chairs that many residents use for sunbathing. I

was sunning and studying there earlier today when this woman came outside. I

knew that most of the residents in the building had shunned her so I tried to be

nice. She starting gushing about all of the amenities, including our gym, and

here is roughly how the conversation went:

>

> her: the gym is fantastic although I never go. I've always been skinny and I

can never put on a pound. do you put on weight?

> me: not really.

> her: well what are you, a size 10?

> me: excuse me? no, i'm a zero or 2.

> her: really? I'm an 8 and I find it hard to believe that I'm bigger than you.

>

> **Keep in mind this woman is definitely at least in her 60's and I am in my

20's. I don't even know why she brought this up. I was just completely

dumbfounded! I wish I hadn't been so stunned so I could have let her know how

rude she was but I was just shocked!

>

> I was pretty upset by this conversation, first- because it was so insulting

and rude! But also because I really do think I've made huge strides on being

assertive and not letting bullies walk all over me and I'm so confused by this

woman! I can't evaluate if she would have said this to anyone or if something

about me screams " it's ok, you can be rude. "

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[Guest guest]

GEEZ coco some old bats can be so rude. I've had a couple of women come into

the shop and ask two of my younger 20'ish staff members if they were pregnant.

They had flat stomachs so I cant imagine any reason except just to demean. So

here's my way to avoid people like your neighbor. Cell phone with ear piece and

wire. Make believe you are talking when you pass her or if you are on the roof

sunning. hahah

>

> I have been working on being more assertive and I think many of us have

problems with that. I am completely dumbfounded by my new neighbor, though, and

am not sure how to approach her the next time I see her.

>

> I live in a luxury high rise building and most of the residents are very

discrete. This woman, however, is not. My first thought when I saw her in our

lobby: Why on earth did the doormen let in a pimp?

>

> Seriously. She had the hat, cane, and fur coat. The building has just opened a

sundeck on the roof with beach chairs that many residents use for sunbathing. I

was sunning and studying there earlier today when this woman came outside. I

knew that most of the residents in the building had shunned her so I tried to be

nice. She starting gushing about all of the amenities, including our gym, and

here is roughly how the conversation went:

>

> her: the gym is fantastic although I never go. I've always been skinny and I

can never put on a pound. do you put on weight?

> me: not really.

> her: well what are you, a size 10?

> me: excuse me? no, i'm a zero or 2.

> her: really? I'm an 8 and I find it hard to believe that I'm bigger than you.

>

> **Keep in mind this woman is definitely at least in her 60's and I am in my

20's. I don't even know why she brought this up. I was just completely

dumbfounded! I wish I hadn't been so stunned so I could have let her know how

rude she was but I was just shocked!

>

> I was pretty upset by this conversation, first- because it was so insulting

and rude! But also because I really do think I've made huge strides on being

assertive and not letting bullies walk all over me and I'm so confused by this

woman! I can't evaluate if she would have said this to anyone or if something

about me screams " it's ok, you can be rude. "

>

>

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[Guest guest]

yeah, that's another reason I envy people who grew up in Normal land, because

when they get approached by freaks they run like h*ll, whereas us KO's get all

confused, try to make sense of the behavior, and question our own sanity and

whether it is us that is being unreasonable. this is from having to do this

through our childhoods to survive. you are just going to have to shun her as

well, particularly because of being a KO and that makes you vulnerable so you

probably need to shun her *more* than the other people. Good luck!

>

> I have been working on being more assertive and I think many of us have

problems with that. I am completely dumbfounded by my new neighbor, though, and

am not sure how to approach her the next time I see her.

>

> I live in a luxury high rise building and most of the residents are very

discrete. This woman, however, is not. My first thought when I saw her in our

lobby: Why on earth did the doormen let in a pimp?

>

> Seriously. She had the hat, cane, and fur coat. The building has just opened a

sundeck on the roof with beach chairs that many residents use for sunbathing. I

was sunning and studying there earlier today when this woman came outside. I

knew that most of the residents in the building had shunned her so I tried to be

nice. She starting gushing about all of the amenities, including our gym, and

here is roughly how the conversation went:

>

> her: the gym is fantastic although I never go. I've always been skinny and I

can never put on a pound. do you put on weight?

> me: not really.

> her: well what are you, a size 10?

> me: excuse me? no, i'm a zero or 2.

> her: really? I'm an 8 and I find it hard to believe that I'm bigger than you.

>

> **Keep in mind this woman is definitely at least in her 60's and I am in my

20's. I don't even know why she brought this up. I was just completely

dumbfounded! I wish I hadn't been so stunned so I could have let her know how

rude she was but I was just shocked!

>

> I was pretty upset by this conversation, first- because it was so insulting

and rude! But also because I really do think I've made huge strides on being

assertive and not letting bullies walk all over me and I'm so confused by this

woman! I can't evaluate if she would have said this to anyone or if something

about me screams " it's ok, you can be rude. "

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

" that's another reason I envy people who grew up in Normal land, because when

they get approached by freaks they run like h*ll, whereas us KO's get all

confused, try to make sense of the behavior, and question our own sanity and

whether it is us that is being unreasonable. "

phine, you are so freaking right. You hit it on the head. If you're not used

to having boundaries or to having any kind of right to say " do not cross this

line, " you instead get used to having any old bitty crap on you!

> >

> > I have been working on being more assertive and I think many of us have

problems with that. I am completely dumbfounded by my new neighbor, though, and

am not sure how to approach her the next time I see her.

> >

> > I live in a luxury high rise building and most of the residents are very

discrete. This woman, however, is not. My first thought when I saw her in our

lobby: Why on earth did the doormen let in a pimp?

> >

> > Seriously. She had the hat, cane, and fur coat. The building has just opened

a sundeck on the roof with beach chairs that many residents use for sunbathing.

I was sunning and studying there earlier today when this woman came outside. I

knew that most of the residents in the building had shunned her so I tried to be

nice. She starting gushing about all of the amenities, including our gym, and

here is roughly how the conversation went:

> >

> > her: the gym is fantastic although I never go. I've always been skinny and I

can never put on a pound. do you put on weight?

> > me: not really.

> > her: well what are you, a size 10?

> > me: excuse me? no, i'm a zero or 2.

> > her: really? I'm an 8 and I find it hard to believe that I'm bigger than

you.

> >

> > **Keep in mind this woman is definitely at least in her 60's and I am in my

20's. I don't even know why she brought this up. I was just completely

dumbfounded! I wish I hadn't been so stunned so I could have let her know how

rude she was but I was just shocked!

> >

> > I was pretty upset by this conversation, first- because it was so insulting

and rude! But also because I really do think I've made huge strides on being

assertive and not letting bullies walk all over me and I'm so confused by this

woman! I can't evaluate if she would have said this to anyone or if something

about me screams " it's ok, you can be rude. "

> >

> >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

She's probably rude to everyone.  I've got a neighbor across the street like

that only this one is crazier hope it makes you laugh.  Ok, my DH was walking

to dog out to get the mail.  Dog crapped on her yard, he picks it up.  Next

day there is a sign on the mail post stating dont' let you dog poop on my yard

I'll be watchign you, so I tell hubby to leave the dog at home when he gets the

mail.  Next day same sign, day after that she turns it the opposite direction

to aim it at people walking their dogs.  Then the sign got soaked.  Seemed

very creepy and a time or two I spoke with this woman well one of her kids

didn't wan tanything to do with her because she opened her mouth when she

shouldn't and her kid won't deal with her.  Similar scenerio and she was nosing

about my family, since the dog incident she's stayed away from me an I've

avoided her.

prof laf

Subject: Re: My neighbor is a psycho

To: WTOAdultChildren1

Date: Tuesday, June 22, 2010, 8:35 AM

 

" that's another reason I envy people who grew up in Normal land, because

when they get approached by freaks they run like h*ll, whereas us KO's get all

confused, try to make sense of the behavior, and question our own sanity and

whether it is us that is being unreasonable. "

phine, you are so freaking right. You hit it on the head. If you're not used

to having boundaries or to having any kind of right to say " do not cross this

line, " you instead get used to having any old bitty crap on you!

> >

> > I have been working on being more assertive and I think many of us have

problems with that. I am completely dumbfounded by my new neighbor, though, and

am not sure how to approach her the next time I see her.

> >

> > I live in a luxury high rise building and most of the residents are very

discrete. This woman, however, is not. My first thought when I saw her in our

lobby: Why on earth did the doormen let in a pimp?

> >

> > Seriously. She had the hat, cane, and fur coat. The building has just opened

a sundeck on the roof with beach chairs that many residents use for sunbathing.

I was sunning and studying there earlier today when this woman came outside. I

knew that most of the residents in the building had shunned her so I tried to be

nice. She starting gushing about all of the amenities, including our gym, and

here is roughly how the conversation went:

> >

> > her: the gym is fantastic although I never go. I've always been skinny and I

can never put on a pound. do you put on weight?

> > me: not really.

> > her: well what are you, a size 10?

> > me: excuse me? no, i'm a zero or 2.

> > her: really? I'm an 8 and I find it hard to believe that I'm bigger than

you.

> >

> > **Keep in mind this woman is definitely at least in her 60's and I am in my

20's. I don't even know why she brought this up. I was just completely

dumbfounded! I wish I hadn't been so stunned so I could have let her know how

rude she was but I was just shocked!

> >

> > I was pretty upset by this conversation, first- because it was so insulting

and rude! But also because I really do think I've made huge strides on being

assertive and not letting bullies walk all over me and I'm so confused by this

woman! I can't evaluate if she would have said this to anyone or if something

about me screams " it's ok, you can be rude. "

> >

> >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Thanks everyone for your support!

I know that she's crazy but the comments really got under my skin for some

reason. phine, I think you are completely right- this woman really irked me

because she made me doubt myself (again) and just generally made me conscious of

being a KO. I appreciate all of your stories and at least she didn't ask if I

was pregnant . I agree with all of you and will avoid her as much as possible.

It helps to see what the deeper issue was that made me upset. Thanks!!

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> > > I have been working on being more assertive and I think many of us have

problems with that. I am completely dumbfounded by my new neighbor, though, and

am not sure how to approach her the next time I see her.

>

> > >

>

> > > I live in a luxury high rise building and most of the residents are very

discrete. This woman, however, is not. My first thought when I saw her in our

lobby: Why on earth did the doormen let in a pimp?

>

> > >

>

> > > Seriously. She had the hat, cane, and fur coat. The building has just

opened a sundeck on the roof with beach chairs that many residents use for

sunbathing. I was sunning and studying there earlier today when this woman came

outside. I knew that most of the residents in the building had shunned her so I

tried to be nice. She starting gushing about all of the amenities, including our

gym, and here is roughly how the conversation went:

>

> > >

>

> > > her: the gym is fantastic although I never go. I've always been skinny and

I can never put on a pound. do you put on weight?

>

> > > me: not really.

>

> > > her: well what are you, a size 10?

>

> > > me: excuse me? no, i'm a zero or 2.

>

> > > her: really? I'm an 8 and I find it hard to believe that I'm bigger than

you.

>

> > >

>

> > > **Keep in mind this woman is definitely at least in her 60's and I am in

my 20's. I don't even know why she brought this up. I was just completely

dumbfounded! I wish I hadn't been so stunned so I could have let her know how

rude she was but I was just shocked!

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insulting and rude! But also because I really do think I've made huge strides on

being assertive and not letting bullies walk all over me and I'm so confused by

this woman! I can't evaluate if she would have said this to anyone or if

something about me screams " it's ok, you can be rude. "

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