Guest guest Posted June 14, 2010 Report Share Posted June 14, 2010 , I am sorry therapy isn't helping you. I have made many phone calls hoping to find therapy for myself, but it never works out. It's unbelievably expensive and because we live in a rural area, I would have to drive quite a bit and then have the gas expense, etc. I also fear getting a therapist that doesn't understand why I am NC and I feel that would be more harmful to me than helpful. I hope you can find some peace somehow. le > > I have posted here before about my therapy issues and I am considering > stopping altogether. In fact, I have taken the summer off of therapy. > > My therapist is not helping me. I mean, she is really, really not helping > me. She is a great marriage counselor, but not so great in dealing with me, > the daughter of a borderline. > > Then I started going to another therapist in February while mine was on > medical leave. I thought she was going to be less expensive, but she is > actually costing me more because she believes in so many freaking hours of > therapy. She wants me there 4 hours a week and I can't afford it. She won't go > down on the hours. > > So I am either paying for a therapist that can't help me or one I really > can't afford. > > > I'm stuck and I'm not doing okay lately. I'm just really down a rabbit hole > and can't dig myself out. I'm not ready for summer -- or anything that > involves me without Kleenex. > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 14, 2010 Report Share Posted June 14, 2010 that's awful that the new therapist wont let you come whatever hours YOU want !! that's crazy for her to insider no less then 4 hours, certainly she should understand most of us aren't made of money and most of us have crappy insurance that wont pay a lot... Jackie I have posted here before about my therapy issues and I am considering stopping altogether. In fact, I have taken the summer off of therapy. My therapist is not helping me. I mean, she is really, really not helping me. She is a great marriage counselor, but not so great in dealing with me, the daughter of a borderline. Then I started going to another therapist in February while mine was on medical leave. I thought she was going to be less expensive, but she is actually costing me more because she believes in so many freaking hours of therapy. She wants me there 4 hours a week and I can't afford it. She won't go down on the hours. So I am either paying for a therapist that can't help me or one I really can't afford. I'm stuck and I'm not doing okay lately. I'm just really down a rabbit hole and can't dig myself out. I'm not ready for summer -- or anything that involves me without Kleenex. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 14, 2010 Report Share Posted June 14, 2010 Hmmmm, yeah. Switch. Therapists all tend to specialize in various areas of practice. This woman, she's an ass to not see that there is no forward movement with your therapy, and 4 hours? Are you in danger of hurting yourself or are going through some really traumatic stuff? Cause thats unreasonable. Even if you WERE going through something traumatic, I could see maybe 2 sessions per week. But 4? Fuck that. Does she think a money tree is growing in your backyard? The thing with therapy, is that it's an active session, and you really NEED the downtime until the next appointment to process the session. When I was doing therapy regularly, it would often be 2-3 days later and something he said would " click " and I'd replay part of the session and apply it to my past/present and go.....OHHHHH! THAT is good therapy. Try the APA.org website to see if there are some new therapists in your area. You can also call them directly, and either talk to the secretary or talk to the psychologist themself. If they don't have time for you, move on. Find out if they have experience working with BPDs or kids of. If they don;t know what you're talking about, move on. > > I have posted here before about my therapy issues and I am considering > stopping altogether. In fact, I have taken the summer off of therapy. > > My therapist is not helping me. I mean, she is really, really not helping > me. She is a great marriage counselor, but not so great in dealing with me, > the daughter of a borderline. > > Then I started going to another therapist in February while mine was on > medical leave. I thought she was going to be less expensive, but she is > actually costing me more because she believes in so many freaking hours of > therapy. She wants me there 4 hours a week and I can't afford it. She won't go > down on the hours. > > So I am either paying for a therapist that can't help me or one I really > can't afford. > > > I'm stuck and I'm not doing okay lately. I'm just really down a rabbit hole > and can't dig myself out. I'm not ready for summer -- or anything that > involves me without Kleenex. > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 14, 2010 Report Share Posted June 14, 2010 I know. I really liked her, but she truly doesn't understand I can't afford her. She didnt agree with my 'break' and told me I needed to be in treatment. I agree.I'm going to go back to the pastoral counselor I saw in 2008. She helped me more than anyone else has anyway, but she was just not real dependable. She canceled on me a good bit and I needed that support. So. I feel a little stuck, but I will get through it. I am certainly nowhere near over my issues. In a message dated 6/14/2010 10:52:46 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time, sleddog@... writes: that's awful that the new therapist wont let you come whatever hours YOU want !! that's crazy for her to insider no less then 4 hours, certainly she should understand most of us aren't made of money and most of us have crappy insurance that wont pay a lot... Jackie I have posted here before about my therapy issues and I am considering stopping altogether. In fact, I have taken the summer off of therapy. My therapist is not helping me. I mean, she is really, really not helping me. She is a great marriage counselor, but not so great in dealing with me, the daughter of a borderline. Then I started going to another therapist in February while mine was on medical leave. I thought she was going to be less expensive, but she is actually costing me more because she believes in so many freaking hours of therapy. She wants me there 4 hours a week and I can't afford it. She won't go down on the hours. So I am either paying for a therapist that can't help me or one I really can't afford. I'm stuck and I'm not doing okay lately. I'm just really down a rabbit hole and can't dig myself out. I'm not ready for summer -- or anything that involves me without Kleenex. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 14, 2010 Report Share Posted June 14, 2010 , Have you considered Al Anon meetings? I'm told they delve into issues that are incredibly similar to what we face, and in a group meeting. Al Anon I believe is for children of alcoholics. There are some that are more specialized I think for some of our issues, but I'm not sure where you are and how available those would be, but Al Anon is fairly common.... and FREE. I bet it at least helps. And I have to wonder if there is not some form of financial assistance that could help you? You could ask the therapist who wants 4 hours a week from you what sorts of financial assistance programs are out there. It couldn't hurt. Both my cents, Tina > > that's awful that the new therapist wont let you come whatever hours YOU > want !! that's crazy for her to insider no less then 4 hours, certainly she > should understand most of us aren't made of money and most of us have crappy > insurance that wont pay a lot... > > Jackie > > > > > I have posted here before about my therapy issues and I am considering > stopping altogether. In fact, I have taken the summer off of therapy. > > My therapist is not helping me. I mean, she is really, really not helping > me. She is a great marriage counselor, but not so great in dealing with me, > the daughter of a borderline. > > Then I started going to another therapist in February while mine was on > medical leave. I thought she was going to be less expensive, but she is > actually costing me more because she believes in so many freaking hours of > therapy. She wants me there 4 hours a week and I can't afford it. She won't > go > down on the hours. > > So I am either paying for a therapist that can't help me or one I really > can't afford. > > > I'm stuck and I'm not doing okay lately. I'm just really down a rabbit hole > and can't dig myself out. I'm not ready for summer -- or anything that > involves me without Kleenex. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 17, 2010 Report Share Posted June 17, 2010 that is a great suggestion, I have found support in ACOA meetings (adult children of alcoholics) and ACOA seems a bit more relaxed than al-anon sometimes. I think it won't be very long at all before there are ACBPD meetings, 12 step for children of borderlines. and NPD, it is really, really necessary. I always felt weird in alot of AA meetings because there were so many adult children of alcoholic/addicts there. My family had all the insanity but I didn't know what was going on in terms of addiction, I now know there was personality disorder, food addiction, sex addiction, etc, etc. It's all about trauma. I can't afford therapy so twelve step has been a god send for me in years past. I plan to begin attending CODA meetings soon, I really need them, bad. > > > > that's awful that the new therapist wont let you come whatever hours YOU > > want !! that's crazy for her to insider no less then 4 hours, certainly she > > should understand most of us aren't made of money and most of us have crappy > > insurance that wont pay a lot... > > > > Jackie > > > > > > > > > > I have posted here before about my therapy issues and I am considering > > stopping altogether. In fact, I have taken the summer off of therapy. > > > > My therapist is not helping me. I mean, she is really, really not helping > > me. She is a great marriage counselor, but not so great in dealing with me, > > the daughter of a borderline. > > > > Then I started going to another therapist in February while mine was on > > medical leave. I thought she was going to be less expensive, but she is > > actually costing me more because she believes in so many freaking hours of > > therapy. She wants me there 4 hours a week and I can't afford it. She won't > > go > > down on the hours. > > > > So I am either paying for a therapist that can't help me or one I really > > can't afford. > > > > > > I'm stuck and I'm not doing okay lately. I'm just really down a rabbit hole > > and can't dig myself out. I'm not ready for summer -- or anything that > > involves me without Kleenex. > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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